Stop with the Negativity

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And just do what you love to do, truly.

There is a prize to anyone who can do the above, to pursue their passion relentlessly. When asked what your passion is, you should say "I love XXX", whatever it is. Stick with it. Stop trying to please that person, whoever they may be, be they your damned superior or your lower-leveled employee. If you're a pornstar, say it. If you're a murderer, God I hope you repent but say it anyway. Tell them you did it because you had to and because you love it (except the murderer part).

It's this mentality that makes you poor or just middle class. Negative thinking. Anyone can learn a few tricks to up their left (or top) financial column. But few can change their mindset so that they get rich and wealthy.

It doesn't matter if it's business, investing, or learning French. Just put that mindset on, the thinking cap on, and want it! Then pursue it and do it. Use the 3-second rule of approaching to this. Instead of 3 second only to approach a woman, you use 3 second only to work on a business or all deal are off. I don't care what kind of rule you setup, just make something up just so you'll do it.

There's more than enough knowledge out there but so much more in the way, learn to weed out the bad and use the good.

I already said it, it's this mindset that keeps you this way, and it's this same mindset that makes you greedy. Greed makes it hard for everyone to work with them. That's why bad investors like John T. Reed doesn't get rich or as rich as he would like it. Even John T. Reed said it himself.

A number of gurus and their followers have accused me of creating and maintaining my guru-rating page "just to sell books." Well, Duh!! Of course, I do it to sell books! Where did I ever say I was Mother Theresa?
No wonder John T. Reed can't up his credit limit (he has said it himself in one of his example of dialog and he knows it).

Stop worrying about other people and worry about yourself. Too many people in this forum worry about other people. Stop acting like this forum is the only place to socialize, go out there and learn out there, not here.

Oh and keep this site a secret will you? Trying to teach other people when you haven't mastered the basics is exactly like shooting yourself with a high caliber gun. You're not out to save the world when you can't even get laid.

Hey, I'm sure I'll hurt someone's feeling and get flamed, that's too bad. They won't even observe the law of life and they want to make their own laws. No WONDER some people are so bitter.

The game in business or investing are both exciting and inspiring. And also frustrating.
It's something you have to deal with.

Exciting because of the possibilities. It brings out no other than yourself. It touches your personality and pushes and pulls you to do or think in ways you didn't think you were capable of or would do.

Inspiring because it's like a game, you are trying to reach your goal. And you see others doing the same. For those who aren't greedy it becomes inspiring and you get this great feeling after helping someone. It becomes a great deed.

Of course, it's frustrating and that is EXACTLY what stops 99% of the people that choose to do whatever endeavor they might choose.

They decide to lift weight and they stop because they can't make gains. I know that feeling. It happened to me. I got back to it and I persisted. Now I'm happy with where I am.

Frustrating because in business things don't go your way, OFTEN too. Guess what? There's a reason for the word creativity and why it's emphasized SO MUCH by many businessmen and investors. Great Albert Einstein once said:
Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them.
Use creativity against whatever obstacle you might face. Chances are, whatever you want to do, you might have more than enough knowledge of. If not, ask around.

Life isn't THAT hard. You have a computer. Life in Africa is hard. Life in poverty is hard. So stop with the depression too. Open your eyes and wake up! Look around you.

Here's an exercise I want you to do when you wake up. Instead of waking up and doing the usual. Sit there in the bed. Shut up. Don't say anything. Just sit there. Observe.

The point of the exercise is simple and you will notice more than I can put in text. It'll give you a new perspective there that says something like "wow, I have so much more than most people. Hm..." And maybe then you can go and do what you have to do. And do it with that in mind.

GET YOUR MIND IN ORDER.

Forget trying to read for 10 years or finding the right seminar. Got fooled for a seminar? Oh well. Just do what YOU think is right. No amount of schooling or education can get you rich or wealthy or let you reach your goal.

You read on the internet someone like Page or the next Joe succeeds in doing what they wanted to do. Testimony after testimony, the verifiable ones. And you wonder how they do it that they became millionaires or that they made $1,000 week after week.

And you're sitting here. Why do you think you aren't getting anywhere?

I have seen people get up and people get down.
It didn't matter what life they came from. It didn't matter if they were Ivy League graduate or JHS dropout. They did it.

But NOOOOO. What do we have? "No, it's not possible, it can't be done, certainly not, this is stupid, it's a scam, it's a get-rich-quick scam, Carleton Sheets scam?, nah no time, if I see someone buy it and get rich, he just got lucky, if I see someone buy it and do what the program ask to do, I'll laugh, ok maybe I won't."

You heard it, it's everywhere. Negativity is everywhere and that's what makes people so average. It's so easy to say no than to say yes.

If I asked you to invent something by tomorrow or you die, you would do it, you're saying yes because your life is on the line.

But if it isn't, when life is so easy, it's so easy to whine and complain and say "I don't know where to start". Well? Think damnit.

See, three weeks ago I knew someone who couldn't do anything, he had a reason. No social security or passport in hand. Thus he can't get a business license, nothing. He mailed it in for renewal. Can't blame him for slow postal thus he can't do much but stay home and play games or get laid or whatever.

But YOU. I bet you you have everything you need. But what are you doing. Sitting on your computer, sipping on Mountain Dew and complain. Then when someone attack you, you get your e-thug attitude out.

Hey, I'm definitely not pointing to anyone, it's everywhere, not just in this forum, but in my forum, in bodybuilding forums, in game forums (most especially game forums), you name it.

Then when I meet (and I have met a lot of people from the internet, take it from me) them, they are either out of shape or pathetic. Just plain pathetic. No confidence, complaining a lot. Hell last month I met a guy who couldn't even smile. The same month I saw a girl who couldn't stop complaining about her mother.

And then I realized, you know, life is so easy, but we make it so hard for our ego. To stroke it. Oh how we succumb to our ego.

No discipline, no gut, nothing. Pampered. I see pictures with guys wearing make-ups ( :whistles: ), guys smiling like an idiot, guys who try to act hard. Then when the real deal comes. They run. Or they avoid the subject. Basically evade the hard part.

So, what price are you willing to pay for your success? How far you willing to go? How hard are you willing to go to? Are you willing to lose it all only to gain a piece of paper that states your numbers? What risk are you willing to take?

Let me tell you, most people dont' even think about this. They think about the next movie, the next game, the celebrity gossips.

The largest sector in USA alone makes around $25,000 per year. And our poverty level is for people who make $20,000 or so. And average these people are willing to spend their money on is -
Eating out = $1,483
Alcoholic beverages = $247
Tobacco = $324
Entertainment = $1,517

Total = $3,571

Now, that's no problem until...

The average person is only willing to spend $95 per year on education. I'm not against education, I'm against school. The two aren't synonym, they weren't even the same to begin with. You go to school to be schooled, not educated. But nah, propaganda did a good job.

So wait, education itself has more value than eating out in Burger King? Or your wine? Or your smoking habit?

God I love McDonald's advertisements, did a good job. Served over millions of sucker if you ask me.

Take a look at folks who make almost $100,000 per year, the elite level of salary, they are the one that spend $1,902 per year on education, take that against folks who make so little ($30,000 or less) and yet spend so much on useless things. The same people who spend $95 on education and complain on how bad their boss is treating them. Whoa, whoa, whoa, you deserve it.

Don't believe me?
http://www.bls.gov/cex/csxann03.pdf

Hm. I wonder why. Oh I KNOW! I KNOW! They spend so much time watching TV! It is known people spend years watching commercials alone. Whoa.

The rich get richer because the rich are busy trying to educate themself of whatever they are getting themself in. If it's stock, they spend all their time doing it. That's all they talk about. Real estate investing is all I love to talk about and would love to discuss with you about. Real estate investing, real estate investing, real estate investing. I'll even rap about it, no kidding.

But what do I know? Right? I mean, seriously I'm only 18, just a little guy who seems too arrogant and just does one deal at a time.
 

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Originally posted by sifer
But NOOOOO. What do we have? "No, it's not possible, it can't be done, certainly not, this is stupid, it's a scam, it's a get-rich-quick scam, Carleton Sheets scam?, nah no time, if I see someone buy it and get rich, he just got lucky, if I see someone buy it and do what the program ask to do, I'll laugh, ok maybe I won't."
Great post. You knew I was going to say that, didn't you?

Don't have much time, but I want to comment on your quote above.

When you are a full time investor there will always be plenty of people around who will never give you credit for any of your success. Whether it is out of jealousy or ignorance or whatever, they just can't see that YOU were the one who actually took action and made something happen.

I always say that they think "you are stupid if you fail and lucky if you succeed". How freakin ridiculious is that? You could be 80 years old, have made millions over your lifetime, and they STILL would think you are one step away from losing it all. Couldn't be that you actually KNOW what you are doing, could it?

I am in the process of removing the negativity from my life, one person or situation at a time. Lots of my old friends do nothing but complain how they got screwed by their boss or the cops or whoever and now they are in dire straights with no way out. I can't deal with this kind of attititude anymore, so I have to cut back on the amount of time I spend with them. Too bad, but it makes me miserable listening to their misery.

I don't care for business, so I am getting out of that game too. Life is too short to deal with everyone elses problems.
 

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Originally posted by sifer
And just do what you love to do, truly.

There is a prize to anyone who can do the above, to pursue their passion relentlessly. When asked what your passion is, you should say "I love XXX", whatever it is. Stick with it. Stop trying to please that person,
thats good stuff, for the rest of your post, try using 10 paragraphs instead of 40, In such a short word - i promise you, when you use 40 paragraphs you are better off with none.
 

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Real estate investing is all I love to talk about and would love to discuss with you about.

ok

In the 90's, I bought and worked this guy's program:
http://www.angelfire.com/fl2/wjm/

He's in jail for fraud now. I happened to live within walking distance of the Tampa courthouse and worked very diligently at the foreclosure program for about 3-4 months. I ended up doing one deal with investors. I made about a grand or so, but I also spent almost that much on McCorkle's overpriced crap.

Here's how foreclosure investing works (it will vary some from county-to-county):

The Lis Pendens is the very first foreclosure notice. Get the list when it first comes out. Using the numbers that come with it, look for very old mortgages going into foreclosure. What you want is equity. Maybe 1-2% will be worthy of looking further. Most people go into foreclosure early on, and since the interest is front-loaded, they have no equity. You are looking for at least 30% equity (rough number). 50% is better.

If there is equity, the next step is a lien search, usually in the same building. Make friends with the overworked people who work there, and they will teach you what you need to know. Many people in foreclosure also owe a lot of other bills. The lien amounts must be subtracted from the equity. IRS liens must be paid in full. Other liens are usually negotiable. Sometimes they are happy to get any money.

If there is equity and no/few liens, the next step is getting in touch with the owner. I find the house and knock on the door. (after selling Kirby vacuum cleaners, stuff like this is easy) They usually did not know that foreclosure had been filed, I got to them that quickly. One lady started bawling. The sales pitch is that if they do nothing, they lose all of their equity to the bank. If they sell the house to the investors for whom I work, they can walk away with several thousand in cash and stop the foreclosure. If they absolutely will not deal, the final card that you play is a lease-option. They sell me the house, rent for six months, and then they have the option to buy but must obtain outside financing from a bank. This gives them a chance, but realistically, if foreclosure happened once it will happen again. Usually, you will end up having to evict people from their homes, which can be troubling, but you end up making the foreclosure profit that the bank would have made.

The key to this method is speed and hustle. Often there will be a published newsletter of lis pendens info for investors, but it takes a week to get printed. You have to find the deal and get the property owner under contract before then. There are easier ways to make money in real estate, but this is a good way to get your feet wet.
 

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While I agree with positive thinking, there needs to be a degree of realism.

Most people who become "entrepreneurs" are ex-corporate workers who hear get-rich-quick stories, then decide to jump on the business bandwagon because they are "sick of the corporate grind". Ironically, most fail at business because the grind is even worse.

The view that business is this exciting roller-coaster ride is also a common myth. I've spent more time working on boring account administration than doing anything exciting.

College isn't useless; many people don't have the right temperament or personalities for business. Hey, let's face it, if everyone becomes a business owner or investor, we won't actually have anything to sell or invest in!


However I think everyone can, and should develop a more "business mind". Things like having more courage to take risks, seeing and acting on opportunities, getting up after defeat, etc.
 

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Originally posted by sifer

...The average person is only willing to spend $95 per year on education. I'm not against education, I'm against school. The two aren't synonym, they weren't even the same to begin with. You go to school to be schooled, not educated. But nah, propaganda did a good job.

So wait, education itself has more value than eating out in Burger King? Or your wine? Or your smoking habit?

God I love McDonald's advertisements, did a good job. Served over millions of sucker if you ask me.

Take a look at folks who make almost $100,000 per year, the elite level of salary, they are the one that spend $1,902 per year on education, take that against folks who make so little ($30,000 or less) and yet spend so much on useless things. The same people who spend $95 on education and complain on how bad their boss is treating them. Whoa, whoa, whoa, you deserve it.

Don't believe me?
http://www.bls.gov/cex/csxann03.pdf

Hm. I wonder why. Oh I KNOW! I KNOW! They spend so much time watching TV! It is known people spend years watching commercials alone. Whoa.
It is the funniest post I ever read.
To all who have read this: Did you guys actually turn the TV off and take time to read it and look at the numbers?

Sifer, I don't know what your lever of income and education is, but what you have done is the best math joke here. Or were you just trying to experiment how gullible people are?

Not only no one spends $95 on education (it is about something as obscure as reading. Fashion magazines are "reading too. You looked at the wrong row in Table 2 in yoru reference!), but you failed to calculate percentage and looked only on absolute numbers.
Here is how it is suppose dto be:
Those who earn up to 10k spend 5.4% of their income on education.
Those with 15k - 2.21%
30k - 0.83%
40k - 0.8%
50k - 0.8%
70k - 0.85%

So the data you provided in the link basically says your theory regarding the education is wrong: the wealthier people, the smaller portion of their money they spend on education.
Those who earn very little (10k-15k) spend much more on on education when compared to other more wealthier groups.
Oh well.
But you were really funny :)
 

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Not only is the analysis incorrect (as al77 pointed out) but this post is predictably hypocritical.

You tell people to "stop with the negativity", and then basically write 20 paragraphs telling them how they should be living their life and spending their money. Did you ever consider that the reason people spend money on eating out, drinking alcohol, and going to college is because they ENJOY doing those things?

Not everyone's goal in life is to invest and become as rich as possible, but that seems to be the underlying point to all of your posts.
 

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Sooo that means if I don't like what he has to say, I don't have to click on his posts?
 

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Originally posted by Interpol
Not only is the analysis incorrect (as al77 pointed out) but this post is predictably hypocritical.

You tell people to "stop with the negativity", and then basically write 20 paragraphs telling them how they should be living their life and spending their money. Did you ever consider that the reason people spend money on eating out, drinking alcohol, and going to college is because they ENJOY doing those things?

Not everyone's goal in life is to invest and become as rich as possible, but that seems to be the underlying point to all of your posts.
"Money doesn't buy happiness, but it sure helps !" :cool:
 

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It all comes down to how much you want it. In order to go after anything, you have to want it enough that you no longer care how much it hurts to.

The real question is how do you get to that point? What do you have to do to want something that much?
 

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Re:

The Survival Instinct.

I'll preface this by saying I ripped that line off Saw II. But who cares, it sticks right?

Most times I don't like doing posts on business/investing because I don't like to TELL people what to do, only my insights. Perhaps I'm humble, but I believe we're all here for our own evolution. I feel people are perfect as the way they are, and will, in due time get to what they're supposed. Others are meant to spin their wheels and never do much.

From the movie Crash...We're always behind this metal and glass. I think we miss that touch so much, that we crash into each other, just so we can feel something.

To me, that explains life. Growth is not anything but a series of events. Stock doesn't grow until news emerges, until people SEE the value or lack of value that is present. A workout isn't happening, and growth doesn't happen until WE breakdown the muscle and introduce protein/carbs. Some of us are actors, others reactors.

You'll notice the ACTORS get the most criticism for what they do or don't do by the RE-actors. Analysts are king of this. They're able to sit back and safe and comfy and critique others with IDEAL glasses, but nothing comes of it.

We can hypothesize all day, read gads of positive thinking books, do anything it takes.

You know the secret?

Action. Daily action. Fearless action. You fail, you're ridiculed? So what. Screw it.

Listen to the speech by Alec Baldwin in Glen Gary Glen Ross. He's hardcore, but it's true.

Listen to Godorn Gecko.

Read any business person you admire. I'm reading Buffet now. They don't have to be cut throat, but you do get the idea of what they do, how they were, who they were.

I appreciate and respect, Sifer. I've talked offline with him quite a bit. I'll hand it to ANY guy on this site not afraid to introduce new ideas and inject some positive, powerful thinking instead of limited grounded thinking.



A-Unit
 

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Originally posted by sifer
If I asked you to invent something by tomorrow or you die, you would do it, you're saying yes because your life is on the line.

But if it isn't, when life is so easy, it's so easy to whine and complain and say "I don't know where to start". Well? Think damnit.
I wasnt even gonna reply until I read that line, that is such a good point. Oh yeah the rest of your post was good too.
 
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I do what I love which is being negative because it brings out both the best and worst qualitites out of me and in turn causes both harmony and great pain and displeasure among the masses..
 

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Originally posted by Dimebag_Darrell
I do what I love which is being negative because it brings out both the best and worst qualitites out of me and in turn causes both harmony and great pain and displeasure among the masses..
thats deep:crackup:
 
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