Brazilian_Blues_Boy
Master Don Juan
I wanna share with my interested fellows something that happened to me and a friend of mine recently, he's studying the game too.
I called a babe on Thursday, and there was nobody home. Then I called her cell phone, it rang but nobody answered.
After some hours I called her again. No answering.
I gave up and went to do other things. Then on Friday I tried again, I called her home, nobody, then her cell phone, and she answered...
HB: Hey there BBB
BBB: Hi ! I called you a couple times yesterday, but couldn't find you...
HB: Yes, I saw it. I've travelled, I'm on the beach now.
Now, let's take a moment apart from the conversation, so I can explain the thoughts that flew in my mind in these few seconds:
Sh!t, she saw I called her a couple of times. She must be thinking I'm needy,desesperate, or that I'm into her. Good, I screwed things up again.
I had to get back to the conversation, so I continued:
BBB: Oh bad timing right ??
HB: Yeah, I'll call you when I get back so we can set something up
BBB: Okay. Go out and get a nice tan, because you surely need one!
HB: Oh, okay (She didn't expect that)
BBB: Bye
So, I felt kinda bad. Kinda AFC. Then I went down to the soccer field near my apartment to play some soccer and get the tension out of my head, but there was nobody there.
I went back home, and started reading some posts, good ones that I can't remember now.
Then my friend came online on ICQ, and asked me for advice:
F: Hey man, do you think I should call HB today setting something up for tomorrow? Isn't it too late ?
**************************************************
Stop.
I had an insight.
That right moment, things starting to make sense. And this bad feeling was gone. Just like that. Gone.
And I smiled, and went back to my conversation....
**************************************************
BBB: Man, do you want to go out with her ?
F: Yeah
BBB: Do you REALLY want to go out with her ?
F: Really.
BBB: Are you going to have a good time with her ?
F: Yeah. But if things don't work out for tomorrow I can try the next weekend.
BBB: Forget the next weekend. Do you want to go out with her tomorrow, and have yourself a f*cking good time ?
F: Yes man.
BBB: Do you really really want that ?
F: Yes man, I wanna go out with her, have myself a good time and kiss her.
BBB:
Then get the phone and call her now !
And f*ck off everything else!
Don't give a sh!t if someone gets the phone and take long to call her.
Don't give a sh!t if she's having dinner
Don't give a sh!t if she's taking a shower
Don't give a sh!t if she's not there
Don't give a sh!t if she's already got something to do tomrrow
Don't give a sh!t if it is too late to call her.
Be TRUE to your interests
CALL HER NOW !
F: Yeah man ! I'm going to f*cking call her!!
BBB: Before you do, I'll tell you something that just happened to me...
F: Ok
BBB: I called the HB's cellphone...
F: and...
BBB: She answered it. She is at the beach.
F: Oh sh!t !
BBB: She's going to be back before new year. When she told me she was on the beach, I started feeling strange
D@mn, I thought, it looks like I'm desperate to talk to her.
F: Yeah!
BBB: Before hanging up, I had to do something...
So before hanging up I told her: 'Get a nice tan, cause you do need one!'
F: Nice Neg-Hit ! You don't miss an opportunity, do you ?
BBB: Then I started feeling bad for myself... I called her and she was at the beach, she must be thinking that I'm into her...
F: Don't give a sh!t!
BBB: Then I went to play some soccer, but there wasn't anyone there... so I got back home and started reading sosuave.com
BBB: And then I remembered our good friend Bó
( this friend of ours is a natural DJ, he gave me and my friend lots of advice, all DJ-like, and I mention him in my post "I'm winning")
F: Yeah man, Bó is the man. Now I'm even more pumped.
BBB: I tried ! I did what I wanted to do... I wanted to call her and set a date and I called her...
BBB: I was FAITHFUL to my instincts, and honest with my desires.
BBB: I tried! I did what was possible! Even if I was a hypnosis-master (we're both into NLP), the chick wouldn't leave and come over here to see me.
BBB: I wanted to go out with here. I called her.
F*ck everything else! F*ck what she's going to think and what she's not going to think!
F: You gotta do what you really wanna do...
BBB:
So, if you want to call her, CALL HER and F*CK everything else.
We waste too much time making excuses and thinking about their 'other plans' even before we call them!
Enough with that !!
We must stop ruining our plans even before they begin!
F: That's true, I was making it impossible even before I tried!
BBB: So, go there and try it !
Until you hear: 'Sorry, but tomorrow I can't...' you can't know if it will work out or if it won't!
BBB: Even if it doesn't, you were TRUE to your INTERESTS.
Now, If you managed to read all of this and didn't get bored, I'll tell you the two things I learned last Friday:
1 - Neg-hitting !! It's your always useful and always avaliable weapon. It's like your Jedi Light Saber (and kino is the Force)
2 - Sometimes, we break the rules. Sometimes, we take other's opinions too seriously. Sometimes, we feel AFC.
But that's not the truth !!
We make a lot of excuses to our success, we fail before we try.
And that's bad man!
I wasn't listening to my own advice !!
And it came to me as an insight, that you have to try first and think later.
Some people would say it was AFC calling her 3 times on Thursday (she did not answer) and again on Friday.
You know what? F*ck these people. I don't have to apologise for wanting to set up a date with a hot babe, and being true to my instincts and calling her !!
I hadn't talk to her for like, two weeks !!
If I did not call, I would still be unease if she's around, why she didn't answer on Friday. I had that itch, of not knowing if the chick's around or not, I prefer to call her and get a yes/no than the silence of nobody picking up.
If you think that's AFC, then F*ck you !
I had a chance to neg her and I did. I bet that when she got on the beach and started feeling the sun heating her she remembered the 'you do need a nice tan'
And if she didn't, I don't give a d@mn!
A lot of people would say that it's AFC to call a girl on Friday, at 8:00 p.m. to set a date to Saturday. F*ck these people too.
My friend called her, and she was at her older sister's house since last week, so even if he called 5 days earlier she wouldn't be home.
But would he know that she wasn't, and would he get her sister's house # if he did not called?
No !!
Sometimes we feel we're doing things wrong before we try !
We cannot know until we try !
And we cannot read other people's mind, so let's STOP MAKING EXCUSES and PRESUPOSITIONS !
All the "She'll think"s and "I'll look/sound/appear"s are just
bullsh!t! They live only in your mind, only there !!
When a girl call you, and invite you to a party that you can't go, do you think that she's desperate and needy for you? NO.
So, they think the same way about us !!
Now, pay attention, do not use this insight as an excuse for your mistakes.
Do not say: " F*ck everyone, I'll call her everyday " or " I don't give a d@mn if I'll look stupid bringing her flowers and chocolates on our first date "
This isn't an excuse to your mistakes and AFC/Loser behaviors.
This is praisin' to your boldness!
We're man, we can't live our whole life making excuses for our happiness and success !
We're better at creating excuses than at doing the things !
If any of your buds come home and ask you to play some basketball with him, you'll probably be better at making excuses for not playing than at playing itself (Just an example, I'm not generalizing )
So, let us never more feel guilty of feeling AFC, looser or stupid when we know we're doing the right things.
If we never dare, we'll never learn.
Let us not fall into the trap of waiting for everything to happen perfectly and play it all by the rules, because such perfection does not exist!
Even if it did, it would be f*cking boring.
So, if you don't know if you should go for the kiss, calling her a little earlier than the rules would say,calling just once more than just to set a date or if you should give her an option between ice cream or mc donald's, because it will make you look desperate/needy/insert your favorite word here bitter people , just tell everything to f*ck off and follow your guts.
We should date like riding a boat through a river, where there are rocks, waves, deeper waters, shallower waters and strong/weak tides, rather than a boring car drive through a highway, where the only surprises are accidents, other people hitting on you, or speeding up/speeding down.
Let's allow us to never have a date, where EVERYTHING goes just like planned.
Life's not a videogame.
Take out spontaneity and you take out fun.
If don't agree with that, then why the hell do we like when girls take the initiative and ask us/kiss us/sucks us without asking or telling ?
Because it's spontaneous !!
Let's allow ourselves to follow our guts and go bold !
Live things our own way, rather than strictly to the rules !
Never let anyone tell you you're AFC for that !
May the light of this insight of mine clear things up, and create an insight in yourselves, and my sincere hopes that it works as a light, a streetlight above your head that follows you in every path you migh take !
Sincerely, from your F*ck off everything I love you guys friend,
BBB
I called a babe on Thursday, and there was nobody home. Then I called her cell phone, it rang but nobody answered.
After some hours I called her again. No answering.
I gave up and went to do other things. Then on Friday I tried again, I called her home, nobody, then her cell phone, and she answered...
HB: Hey there BBB
BBB: Hi ! I called you a couple times yesterday, but couldn't find you...
HB: Yes, I saw it. I've travelled, I'm on the beach now.
Now, let's take a moment apart from the conversation, so I can explain the thoughts that flew in my mind in these few seconds:
Sh!t, she saw I called her a couple of times. She must be thinking I'm needy,desesperate, or that I'm into her. Good, I screwed things up again.
I had to get back to the conversation, so I continued:
BBB: Oh bad timing right ??
HB: Yeah, I'll call you when I get back so we can set something up
BBB: Okay. Go out and get a nice tan, because you surely need one!
HB: Oh, okay (She didn't expect that)
BBB: Bye
So, I felt kinda bad. Kinda AFC. Then I went down to the soccer field near my apartment to play some soccer and get the tension out of my head, but there was nobody there.
I went back home, and started reading some posts, good ones that I can't remember now.
Then my friend came online on ICQ, and asked me for advice:
F: Hey man, do you think I should call HB today setting something up for tomorrow? Isn't it too late ?
**************************************************
Stop.
I had an insight.
That right moment, things starting to make sense. And this bad feeling was gone. Just like that. Gone.
And I smiled, and went back to my conversation....
**************************************************
BBB: Man, do you want to go out with her ?
F: Yeah
BBB: Do you REALLY want to go out with her ?
F: Really.
BBB: Are you going to have a good time with her ?
F: Yeah. But if things don't work out for tomorrow I can try the next weekend.
BBB: Forget the next weekend. Do you want to go out with her tomorrow, and have yourself a f*cking good time ?
F: Yes man.
BBB: Do you really really want that ?
F: Yes man, I wanna go out with her, have myself a good time and kiss her.
BBB:
Then get the phone and call her now !
And f*ck off everything else!
Don't give a sh!t if someone gets the phone and take long to call her.
Don't give a sh!t if she's having dinner
Don't give a sh!t if she's taking a shower
Don't give a sh!t if she's not there
Don't give a sh!t if she's already got something to do tomrrow
Don't give a sh!t if it is too late to call her.
Be TRUE to your interests
CALL HER NOW !
F: Yeah man ! I'm going to f*cking call her!!
BBB: Before you do, I'll tell you something that just happened to me...
F: Ok
BBB: I called the HB's cellphone...
F: and...
BBB: She answered it. She is at the beach.
F: Oh sh!t !
BBB: She's going to be back before new year. When she told me she was on the beach, I started feeling strange
D@mn, I thought, it looks like I'm desperate to talk to her.
F: Yeah!
BBB: Before hanging up, I had to do something...
So before hanging up I told her: 'Get a nice tan, cause you do need one!'
F: Nice Neg-Hit ! You don't miss an opportunity, do you ?
BBB: Then I started feeling bad for myself... I called her and she was at the beach, she must be thinking that I'm into her...
F: Don't give a sh!t!
BBB: Then I went to play some soccer, but there wasn't anyone there... so I got back home and started reading sosuave.com
BBB: And then I remembered our good friend Bó
( this friend of ours is a natural DJ, he gave me and my friend lots of advice, all DJ-like, and I mention him in my post "I'm winning")
F: Yeah man, Bó is the man. Now I'm even more pumped.
BBB: I tried ! I did what I wanted to do... I wanted to call her and set a date and I called her...
BBB: I was FAITHFUL to my instincts, and honest with my desires.
BBB: I tried! I did what was possible! Even if I was a hypnosis-master (we're both into NLP
), the chick wouldn't leave and come over here to see me.BBB: I wanted to go out with here. I called her.
F*ck everything else! F*ck what she's going to think and what she's not going to think!
F: You gotta do what you really wanna do...
BBB:
So, if you want to call her, CALL HER and F*CK everything else.
We waste too much time making excuses and thinking about their 'other plans' even before we call them!
Enough with that !!
We must stop ruining our plans even before they begin!
F: That's true, I was making it impossible even before I tried!
BBB: So, go there and try it !
Until you hear: 'Sorry, but tomorrow I can't...' you can't know if it will work out or if it won't!
BBB: Even if it doesn't, you were TRUE to your INTERESTS.
Now, If you managed to read all of this and didn't get bored, I'll tell you the two things I learned last Friday:
1 - Neg-hitting !! It's your always useful and always avaliable weapon. It's like your Jedi Light Saber
(and kino is the Force)2 - Sometimes, we break the rules. Sometimes, we take other's opinions too seriously. Sometimes, we feel AFC.
But that's not the truth !!
We make a lot of excuses to our success, we fail before we try.
And that's bad man!
I wasn't listening to my own advice !!
And it came to me as an insight, that you have to try first and think later.
Some people would say it was AFC calling her 3 times on Thursday (she did not answer) and again on Friday.
You know what? F*ck these people. I don't have to apologise for wanting to set up a date with a hot babe, and being true to my instincts and calling her !!
I hadn't talk to her for like, two weeks !!
If I did not call, I would still be unease if she's around, why she didn't answer on Friday. I had that itch, of not knowing if the chick's around or not, I prefer to call her and get a yes/no than the silence of nobody picking up.
If you think that's AFC, then F*ck you !
I had a chance to neg her and I did. I bet that when she got on the beach and started feeling the sun heating her she remembered the 'you do need a nice tan'
And if she didn't, I don't give a d@mn!
A lot of people would say that it's AFC to call a girl on Friday, at 8:00 p.m. to set a date to Saturday. F*ck these people too.
My friend called her, and she was at her older sister's house since last week, so even if he called 5 days earlier she wouldn't be home.
But would he know that she wasn't, and would he get her sister's house # if he did not called?
No !!
Sometimes we feel we're doing things wrong before we try !
We cannot know until we try !
And we cannot read other people's mind, so let's STOP MAKING EXCUSES and PRESUPOSITIONS !
All the "She'll think"s and "I'll look/sound/appear"s are just
bullsh!t! They live only in your mind, only there !!
When a girl call you, and invite you to a party that you can't go, do you think that she's desperate and needy for you? NO.
So, they think the same way about us !!
Now, pay attention, do not use this insight as an excuse for your mistakes.
Do not say: " F*ck everyone, I'll call her everyday " or " I don't give a d@mn if I'll look stupid bringing her flowers and chocolates on our first date "
This isn't an excuse to your mistakes and AFC/Loser behaviors.
This is praisin' to your boldness!
We're man, we can't live our whole life making excuses for our happiness and success !
We're better at creating excuses than at doing the things !
If any of your buds come home and ask you to play some basketball with him, you'll probably be better at making excuses for not playing than at playing itself (Just an example, I'm not generalizing
)So, let us never more feel guilty of feeling AFC, looser or stupid when we know we're doing the right things.
If we never dare, we'll never learn.
Let us not fall into the trap of waiting for everything to happen perfectly and play it all by the rules, because such perfection does not exist!
Even if it did, it would be f*cking boring.
So, if you don't know if you should go for the kiss, calling her a little earlier than the rules would say,calling just once more than just to set a date or if you should give her an option between ice cream or mc donald's, because it will make you look desperate/needy/insert your favorite word here bitter people , just tell everything to f*ck off and follow your guts.
We should date like riding a boat through a river, where there are rocks, waves, deeper waters, shallower waters and strong/weak tides, rather than a boring car drive through a highway, where the only surprises are accidents, other people hitting on you, or speeding up/speeding down.
Let's allow us to never have a date, where EVERYTHING goes just like planned.
Life's not a videogame.
Take out spontaneity and you take out fun.
If don't agree with that, then why the hell do we like when girls take the initiative and ask us/kiss us/sucks us without asking or telling ?
Because it's spontaneous !!
Let's allow ourselves to follow our guts and go bold !
Live things our own way, rather than strictly to the rules !
Never let anyone tell you you're AFC for that !
May the light of this insight of mine clear things up, and create an insight in yourselves, and my sincere hopes that it works as a light, a streetlight above your head that follows you in every path you migh take !
Sincerely, from your F*ck off everything I love you guys friend,
BBB
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