Stop counting and focus on healing

[SamTheHobit]

When not contacting an ex girlfriend stop counting the days you've stopped talking to her and focus on healing.

I can't be the only one that does this so just thought I'd post about it.

 

[YAboi]

Sound advice really.

 

[GS750]

Yeah...did that at first. After 60 I stopped keeping count, but she still texts me from time to time. I still ignore.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Counting days away from an ex just reinforces loss and subtly keeps you focused on the past and what you don't have anymore. It keeps you stuck in the past and thinking about your ex.

Counting days of dedicated self improvement, investing in ACTIVITIES that better yourself now, for an even better future, (that may include refraining from contact with an ex), is a whole different focus. When done properly, it can result in a better you and a better life, than you ever knew before. Counting in this way can create a focus on momentum, which can be powerful.

Making choices that truly move you on and make you a better man, after a break-up, is what matters most, not how you get there. Just get results.

 

[zorg198]

Yeah...did that at first. After 60 I stopped keeping count, but she still texts me from time to time. I still ignore.

Dude,

Why she keeps contacting you? how long it been since you did NC?

 

[mugatts]

Counting days away from an ex just reinforces loss and subtly keeps you focused on the past and what you don't have anymore. It keeps you stuck in the past and thinking about your ex.

Counting days of dedicated self improvement, investing in ACTIVITIES that better yourself now, for an even better future, (that may include refraining from contact with an ex), is a whole different focus. When done properly, it can result in a better you and a better life, than you ever knew before. Counting in this way can create a focus on momentum, which can be powerful.

Making choices that truly move you on and make you a better man, after a break-up, is what matters most, not how you get there. Just get results.

Very spot on. After a break up especially where you were hoping for a different outcome, your ego takes a hit. So doing activities to better yourself, using what you learned from the bi*** to do things differently with the next babe not only makes her old news fast but it boosts your confidence, not to mention a hot bod and saving money you could be spending on her flaky ass.

 

[GS750]

Dude,

Why she keeps contacting you? how long it been since you did NC?

Dont know brother. I've been 100% no contact for probably close to 80 days at this point. Could be any number of reasons why she still texts, but I'm not really interested in finding out.