Still don't get any IOIs

[SamMalone]

I do ok with women now when I have a chance to be around them, but I still don't get any IOIs when I go to the bars or clubs. I bulked up quite a bit, and I get GUYS telling my how I look big, but no girls. No eye contact or smiles or anything. I used to live in New York and would get IOIs when I was still small and not confident. Now I live in Texas and get nothing. Are the girls in the South more conservative about this stuff or something?

 

[MrNotebook]

Quit looking for approval and know you're good already. Stop looking for people's reactions.

 

[MotownMack]

Also, it sounds like you're waiting for them to show the first IOI.

So many girls will not do this, not without eye contact, a smile, etc.. from you first. THEN look to see if your IOI is reciprocated. This is especially true if she's has no clue who the hell you are.

And yes, I think it's a safe bet that of all places in the world, NYC is one of the least conservative. It would not at all surprise me if the girls there were more aggressive than other places. You may have to adjust to your new surrounds and just accept that in a lot of places, the norm is for the guy to show interest first.

 

[Mr. Me]

I still don't get any IOIs when I go to the bars or clubs. I bulked up quite a bit, and I get GUYS telling my how I look big, but no girls.

Then don't keep going to the gay bars.

 

[nismo-4]

If you're in Dallas, you should have no problem meeting chicks. Wear a cowboys shirt! Strut while you walk! You still have to approach and don't wait for a woman to make a move on you, highly unlikely.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Yeah I've always wondered why guys I don't know compliment me alot while girls rarely compliment me, even if I know them. I guys some DJs are chick magnets and other DJs are dick magnets.

 

[Warrior74]

hows your front? (dress and style) does it blend it? does it stand out? is it good? That might be the difference as well. Look to make eye contact when you go out.

 

[Entropy4]

If you're ****ing huge (which would explain why guys compliment you), you may actual be a bit intimidating to girls. Be kind and playful with them and you'll get some good reactions.

AND STOP SEEKING PEOPLE'S APPROVAL. If you're acting this needy in set, it explains why you aren't getting IOI's.

 

[SamMalone]

My dressing is good, better than most I see in the bars (although they probably think the same thing). I may not stand out enough and I should make more eye contact when I go out. I hear Dallas is a good place so I may go there sometime.

 

[Bigdavis]

In my experience if other (straight) dudes are telling you that you look good and you should be swimming in ***** that means the women are thinking the same thing. They want you to talk to them but you have to make the first IOI. Start with eye contact.

 

[TheRealSupreme]

Maybe it is in the way your dressed or the colors you choose.

Look at what this shirt does to my eyes:

http://img530.imageshack.us/img530/9035/eyesbluess3.jpg

Notice the use of color in this shot of me lecturing at Borders:

http://img511.imageshack.us/img511/2893/dsc00232wv2.jpg

or try another color as long as it makes you stand out from the crowd:

http://img530.imageshack.us/img530/8594/dsc00552um5.jpg

What geeks and nerds do not realize is that color is one of the ways to attract a woman's eye to you. So don't fall into that trap and learn to use whatever you have to your advantage in pulling a woman's eye to you.

 

[ChrizZ]

Fvck IOIs.

Hot girls will ALWAYS try their best to hide that they are interested in you. That's how they filter out the real men.

Listen to supreme about the clothing and then just approach in a manly way.

IOIs or not.

 

[Jitterbug]

They'd give you AIs first, and IOIs only come after you've interacted with them a bit. If you get IOIs before you even do anything, your value must be sky high compared to theirs.

 

[The Deacon]

Fvck IOIs.

Hot girls will ALWAYS try their best to hide that they are interested in you. That's how they filter out the real men.

He's got a good point. Some girls are just plain fvcking ice queens that secretly want you to win them over with your charm. There are some hot chicks who are really sweet, though. Ice queens tend to be the ones who get hit on the MOST.

 

[Jitterbug]

Ice queens tend to be the ones who get hit on the MOST.

Collectively we should do something about that. I'm not going to reward their bad behaviour by giving them attention. I only openly hit on bubbly or pleasant girls. Ice queens can either open up and lose the b!tch face, or get fvcked.

 

[SamMalone]

Haha got the "too short" thing three times tonight (I'm 5'9'') and then two seperate fat broads hit on me.....I think I might give up lol.

 

[Mad Manic]

Haha got the "too short" thing three times tonight (I'm 5'9'') and then two seperate fat broads hit on me.....I think I might give up lol.

If you think you are 5' 9" but you get a few 'short comments' sometimes then that probably means you are actually 5' 8". Most people either lie about height, or just think they are taller based on others' lying about theirs.

MM

 

[MooseGod]

If you're in Dallas, you should have no problem meeting chicks. Wear a cowboys shirt! Strut while you walk! You still have to approach and don't wait for a woman to make a move on you, highly unlikely.

If you go to Dallas, be sure to hit up the Lizard Lounge. Seriously, if you can't get laid there, you might as well become a monk. One of my buds caught a chick as she fell off the stage and ****ed her in the parking lot. I was feeling pretty shy that night and still ended up making out with several chicks and getting a few numbers.

Make sure you go for Naughty Schoolgirl or Badass *****es night too...fun times.