Sticking point: Boring Conversation

[RichardTheFrog]

Seems like every conversation I could have, however infrequent they may be, are just boring.

Where did you go to school? Questions about their work, etc.

I don't know how to get out of this.

Even if someone was initially attracted to me, that type of stuff would bore her to tears in 5 seconds.

 

[Stallionstud]

Yeah I’m just tired of asking questions myself. They’re supposed to do the majority of the talking but I get extremely bored with younger women lately. I need to feel like the girl is a catch to be interested, and I don’t have that feeling right now about anyone in my phone.

For your specific problem try watching some stand up comedy and think of a few of your own life experiences that parallel the comedians jokes. Then ask her questions that will Segway into your preplanned story.

I naturally have worked at relating my own life story’s on the fly to just about any topic of discussion not necessarily in a funny way just in a keep the conversation going way.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Why don't you try doing activities together?

 

[devilkingx2]

It's very simple, ask a question you want the answer to.

If you don't care don't ask until you need to know.

For example, i ask girls what their bra size is because i care about that for obvious reasons, so i get them to play truth or dare or 20 questions or something along those lines and ask a bunch of fluff filler questions i don't care about (how tall are you, what's your major, how old are you, whats your favorite color, etc.)

Then you start hitting them with what you care about (how big are your boobs? If you were in a threesome: FFM FMM or FFF? If hillary had won who do you think would've assassinated her first, the russians or the CIA? Etc. )

 

[Grit-Persist]

Seems like every conversation I could have, however infrequent they may be, are just boring.

Where did you go to school? Questions about their work, etc.

I don't know how to get out of this.

Even if someone was initially attracted to me, that type of stuff would bore her to tears in 5 seconds.

I'm starting to think you are a troll. After 3,500 messages, nearly a year on this forum, and access to countless discussions on social skills/personality......why are you still at this basic step?

I know @BeExcellent said she knows countless dudes with money that can't carry on decent conversations. I would assume these guys are trust fund babies or made their money in an back office position?

Because I know if you are a business guy, or sales guy, or someone that is "customer facing", I don't know how you can be a GROWN successful man and not know how to carry on a basic, interesting, fvcking conversation?

I truly don't think there's any hope for the MRA Movement. It's too associated with this Manosphere B.S. with grown a.ss men reporting how they can't carry on a basic fvcking conversation. This is sad.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I'm starting to think you are a troll. After 3,500 messages, nearly a year on this forum, and access to countless discussions on social skills/personality......why are you still at this basic step?

I know @BeExcellent said she knows countless dudes with money that can't carry on decent conversations. I would assume these guys are trust fund babies or made their money in an back office position?

Because I know if you are a business guy, or sales guy, or someone that is "customer facing", I don't know how you can be a GROWN successful man and not know how to carry on a basic, interesting, fvcking conversation?

I truly don't think there's any hope for the MRA Movement. It's too associated with this Manosphere B.S. with grown a.ss men reporting how they can't carry on a basic fvcking conversation. This is sad.

I can talk business all day long with anyone, male or female.

I just can't create "dating" conversation out of nowhere.

Most conversations that people have are just fluff small talk, anyway. That's never been my thing to waste my time and theirs with pointless conversation just to fill silence.

 

[Stallionstud]

Escalating isn’t always topic it’s delivery, tone, looks.

 

[Skyline]

Seems like every conversation I could have, however infrequent they may be, are just boring.

Where did you go to school? Questions about their work, etc.

I don't know how to get out of this.

Even if someone was initially attracted to me, that type of stuff would bore her to tears in 5 seconds.

You can talk about your new Lamborghini.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

You can talk about your new Lamborghini.

Am I going to be harassed by a moderator again? I can't block him. This has happened to me before.

 

[StrayCat]

It's very simple, ask a question you want the answer to.

If you don't care don't ask until you need to know.

For example, i ask girls what their bra size is because i care about that for obvious reasons, so i get them to play truth or dare or 20 questions or something along those lines and ask a bunch of fluff filler questions i don't care about (how tall are you, what's your major, how old are you, whats your favorite color, etc.)

Then you start hitting them with what you care about (how big are your boobs? If you were in a threesome: FFM FMM or FFF? If hillary had won who do you think would've assassinated her first, the russians or the CIA? Etc. )

What's the age range you date? You ask this on a 1st date? How do you do the dares? I am sure, if I ask her her bra size, she'll throw a drink at me.

 

[StrayCat]

I can talk business all day long with anyone, male or female.

I just can't create "dating" conversation out of nowhere.

Most conversations that people have are just fluff small talk, anyway. That's never been my thing to waste my time and theirs with pointless conversation just to fill silence.

Talk about your schlong operation. That'll be an interesting topic.

 

[devilkingx2]

What's the age range you date? You ask this on a 1st date? How do you do the dares? I am sure, if I ask her her bra size, she'll throw a drink at me.

1. In real life girls don't tend to react like that in my experience, probably because they have no desire to make a scene and embarass themselves in public either

2. Being bold only doesn't work with girls who don't like you. There's girls with little to no sexual interest in me that told me their bra size when i asked, unsurprisingly all the girls who didn't want to talk about anything sexual or sex related or intimate had no interest (and were quite prudish). Also sometimes i just look at their boobs and guess, they generally have a surprised look when i get it right/close

I will point out though that any girl older than college aged is uncharted territory for me, I've flirted with like 1 grad student, 1 30 year old and like 6 girls who were in the vicinity of mid to late 20s, so your mileage may vary on those.

 

[Stallionstud]

Yeah the bra size thing as a 31 yr old is creepy. IF I was that into boobs which I’m not. I’m exspected to know her size by looking at her. Making it a topic of discussion is a bad move. Pivot away from that as you grow, trust me. Just make sure you can take a bra off with one hand left or right... unless they clasp in front. Then your fvcked

 

[devilkingx2]

Yeah the bra size thing as a 31 yr old is creepy. IF I was that into boobs which I’m not. I’m exspected to know her size by looking at her. Making it a topic of discussion is a bad move. Pivot away from that as you grow, trust me.

I agree it'd be creepy if you do it on approach, you avoid personal questions on approach imo

But once you're past that and you're on a date or trying to get her to Netflix n chill with you on Saturday or whatever, if she's creeped out by the mention of her boobs... That's a very bad sign.

(imagine a girl asking you about your d!ck size but you find it creepy for XYZ reason. Can you come up with an XYZ that doesn't preclude you from wanting to sleep with her? I can't)

Just make sure you can take a bra off with one hand left or right... unless they clasp in front. Then your fvcked

if you can't figure out how to get the bra off tell her you have a lingerie/underwear fetish and find it sexier if she leaves it on during sex

 

[sazc]

You've been given advice regarding this specific topic before, when you have asked. Go back and look at all those other threads and then use Google if you want to know more.

Once again, I will point out that you continue to ask the same questions but ignore/deflect the advice/answers that are given. Either follow the advice or just stop asking.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

You've been given advice regarding this specific topic before, when you have asked. Go back and look at all those other threads and then use Google if you want to know more.

Once again, I will point out that you continue to ask the same questions but ignore/deflect the advice/answers that are given. Either follow the advice or just stop asking.

That's funny because you are the worst poster on here. All your advice is terrible, let alone the fact that you're a GIRL so why are you even on here in the first place? And now you're gonna try to talk with some authority?

At least some other girls here have some looks to back it up. Not so much for you.

 

[RangerMIke]

If she is not making an effort to keep the conversation going, or trying to keep you attention, she has low interest in you.

Always remember that chick who like you will make things easy.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

If she is not making an effort to keep the conversation going, or trying to keep you attention, she has low interest in you.

Always remember that chick who like you will make things easy.

I think the fact is that "dating" conversation IS boring. Is there any real way to make it exciting to sit across a table from someone?

 

[RangerMIke]

I think the fact is that "dating" conversation IS boring. Is there any real way to make it exciting to sit across a table from someone?

Well I get that most of what chicks talk isn't really interesting. But you have to find entertainment value in it. It doesn't have to be boring. It's like watching kids cartoons with you children... yea... often it can be really dull, but it's the interaction you have with your kids that is entertaining.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Well I get that most of what chicks talk isn't really interesting. But you have to find entertainment value in it. It doesn't have to be boring. It's like watching kids cartoons with you children... yea... often it can be really dull, but it's the interaction you have with your kids that is entertaining.

If what they're saying is boring, then what I'm saying is SUPER boring.

Literally can't get out of topics like school, work, etc.