Stay in La or move back home with parents?????

[Ken785]

I moved down to Los Angeles to go to university...its been 2 years i switch majors twice and still havent completed a semesters work. On top of that im in debt about $8k and the bills just keep coming and coming! Also i have to pay $500 a month and food but my roomates keep eating my food when i bring it home. I dont have a job andam still confused on that i want to do! Should i move back home with my parents and work to rid my debt? My dad says he cant support helping me on my bills anymore and car payment, ive been making minimum payments on credit cards. What should i do? im so confused on where im suposed to go in this life!!!! I got accepted to uni in San Francisco and school starts in la and San Fran around Aug. 20th. so i dont have much time to decide..

the only thing im scared of is losing my social life...i had a good one in la meeting hot chicks all the time with my friends. i love the life in oc/la. im scared of losing it when i move back home. plus the people here in the bay area are really ghetto too compared to oc/la. the only downside of my social life in la is that i dont think my "boys" respect me trully...im always purposly the butt end of jokes when new people come around (i guess cuz they are showing the new guest who the alphamales of the group are by joking about me??) and i always do things for my friends/cousins that a hang out with.. like pick them up from the airport,runs errons for my cousin occasionally (i hate it when he asks cuz he wouldnt do it for me.....they wont do the same for me...i told my other cousin who is closer to the one i hang out with and he always has his back no matter what. He disagrees with me when i say the cousin i hang out with in la disrepects me n stuff always trying to alphamale me in front of people...so hes saying no thats how hes always been and crap.

 

[Ken785]

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Hey, don't lose hope...

Try to see if your parents are cool with you paying them a little rent...(less than what you are paying now, but enough to make them comfortable with you moving back home)

Definitely pay more than your monthly credit card payment! Why don't you have a job? Check out my eBay guide... (in my signature) and try to get a job if you can. Why not go to school part-time while you get things together?

LA is a pretty expensive place to live. Screw what other people think. You could move somewhere where it's cheaper for rent...ie, Fresno, Bakersfield, etc...

I don't know what school you're going to, but the UC and California State Universities both have lots of different campuses around Cali. I go to a very small campus myself.

You could sell your car and use public transportation...carpool or something.

By the way, I think it's great that you've start to think about your situation now. You're only $8k in debt...I have a friend who didn't care until he got $100k in debt. Be thankful that you're not in such deep sh*t yet.

I'm sure there are other people who can give better advice...ie, backbreaker, Bible_Belt, Francisco, STR8UP, sifer...and the other financial savvy members on here.

Good luck, and I hope you pull through.

 

[Ken785]

ive decided i want to stay in la and tough it out. Ive realized if i run home now itll be much easier but im never going to learn to face adversity if i run back to my parents nest. I must face adversity head on because thats the only way i can grow.

A DJ wouldnt run when hes in trouble!!! He says fvck it and face it head on. - Ken

 

[speakeasy]

What's the big deal, just head south on the 5 and you'll be in L.A. in six hours. I'd say keeping yourself out of debt slavery is more important than tagging ass every weekend. You could always drive down to visit whenever you want, or take a cheap flight from southwest. I think Northern Cal is way nicer, but that's just my opinion talking.

 

[Ken785]

good point. but also living with parents i eat good but get treated like a baby, and i have immature little brothers and sisters yelling at each other everyday...

 

[backbreaker]

trust me when I say that use your parents to your advantage. I got kicked out the house when I was 18. it made me a better person and all.. but I went though alot.. about a year's worth.. uncalled for ****, if my mom wouldn't hav ehad her head up her ass. 19 year olds who come from upper middle class and who are starting a business shouldnt' be having to worry about wear theri next meal is coming from and living out of a car with holes in their shoes.

I'm 24... and I dont' think I've hit my prime yet. When you are young, you see all this available ass for the first time and you hvae to CASH IN... trust me.. it's not going anywhere.. if anything, the older you get, the more the pool expands.

take your time, build a steady foundation with your life.. if that means moving back in.. so be it. just becasue you live there doesn't mean they have to baby you.

If you can manage to live by yourself and keep afloat.. even if it is hard.. do so. it will help you grow some in the long run.

 

[Frenchconnection]

Either way you're going to have to work things out. It's up to you but just be disciplined in removing that debt as much as possible.

 

[Ken785]

Thanks guys...i think ill end up moving back home. im in la right now and my parents gave me about 1k for rent and bills but when i got home i had a stack of new bills 3 inches high...the money my parents gave me wasnt even enough to cover it all, and on top of that i didnt eat all day cuz i didnt want to spend money. ill move back home.

 

[Mjazz]

your social life should be the LEAST of your worries right now. You need to get your priorities straight. First off, get a ****ing job. Dont complain about bills and **** when you dont even have a job.

If it is really as bad as you say, go home and do some thinking man. I sure hope that your "social life" isnt the only thing making you want to stay in LA. I would construct a plan to get myself out of this, and then finish my schooling.

These are just tips here, you dont need to do what we tell you to. You gotta figure it out yourself, you know your situation a lot better than we do.