started school last week - could use some advice

[omkara]

hi.... well I am back in school now and of course this is a great place to meet girls and practice and learn. I am a psychology major, and this is a field that is heavily preferred by women. In most of my classes there are like 3 or 4 guys and all the rest are women. LOL Anyways I don't have a problem getting them interested. No matter what class I'm in, a few of them will always signal interest, because the class is long and boring, and that's what they do. But when it comes to the point of actually talking, I'm completely clueless. I even had a girl talk to me after class on friday, casually. She said "wow that class was really long..." and I was completely taken by surprise and on 2 hours sleep and I said "yeah, it was really long, heh..." and was going to say something else, but she scampered off. In short, I had an opportunity to be interesting and just parroted what she said and sounded like a complete idiot.

I am terrible with women and just social interaction in general. The last time I was in school, I had girls that we would look at each other so much in the eyes that it was like we knew each other. They made every non verbal signal imaginable. But I was such a loser that I could never manage to speak to them. When I thought they were going to speak to me I would run out of the class. Basically I created a lot of awkwardness for everyone by not being a man. Hopefully now I'm a little better. I don't want to be a pick up artist. I'm not sure if I plan on approaching any of these girls, as I am 31 and mostly they are in their early 20s (with a few older). I would just like to have a better understanding of the game itself and perhaps what to say if someone approaches me. I'm just tired of the other guys getting the girls and pretending that it's ok with me to be alone when really it's just a cop-out. I have already read a lot of the material on conversation and it makes sense. I guess I just have to put it into practice.

 

[daygameguy]

Game is an immensely creative process. You need solid convo skills. So start being talkative and be social and friendly, LEARN to speak and interact and think on your feet. It will take time and effort.

You lack convo skills. You need to make lots of friends, lots of guy and girl friends. You need to be socialized. So focus on that.

Be talkative. Be friendly. Be social. Make friends. Polish your convo skills. THEN think about seduction game. That would be my honest advice.

 

[ac3]

Join a fraternity if you want to get laid easily. Depending on the size of your school it could be a piece of cake to be banging girls, especially if you are handsome or well groomed/dressed and better lookin than the rest of the frat boys.

From my experience, frat boys get a lot of sex from the sorority girls.

 

[omkara]

hey guys, thanks for responding to my post. I have not been wanting to face this part of myself so I didn't check back for a while.

daygameguy - your advice is very solid as usual. Yes, I need to become socialized. I had the same thought recently. I have been out of the picture for awhile, not really working or anything, so I need to get back in to it. It sucks to be in a group of people and not interact with them. I think that being antisocial is a vicious circle. The more antisocial you become, the more bitter you get and the more ostracized you become. And it straight up sucks, especially bc you can't get chicks. I need to start with small things, and build from there. It's not really good to just target the girl you like and ignore everyone else.

as for joining a fraternity... hmm I would do that if it would help me get laid... but Idk if you read in my post or not but I am 31, and that seems kinda old to be in a frat to me. I feel just as cool as the next guy, but I know how it is when you're in your early 20s... being over 30 counts as old. Also my school is a satellite campus of a university, I don't think there's any frats there. It's more of a commuter school (about 4000 students). But thanks for your advice nonetheless.

Actually my post was kinda stupid... I should just be reading here really, until I have a more specific question. But again, thanks for taking time to reply.