started convo at gym - next move?

[Tao of Steve]

i am in the process of overcoming my past, complete in - eptness with women. i am making good progress. i am now regularly approaching women and iniating decent convo (not at the closing stage yet).

here is my latest situation. i would appreciate particular advice on the next moves and feedback.

at the gym today. i see a good looking younger girl (probably 18, im 30). i have seen her around my area b4, and i am interested.

unlike my old afc days, i go to the treadmill right beside her (would have never done this b4). after about a minute, i mention to her how nice it is on saturdays at the gym, as its not crowded.

i have fluff talk with her for about 5 - 10 min. her responses are decent, she smiles when i do, she gives me more than yes or no answers.

i ask her where she goes to school, what field she wants to study etc.

when she says pysch, for eg, i ask her why she likes it. i tell her that i study sociology, which is similar (i mentioned i'm doing a phd and teach pt - she seems mature and i thought that this may raise her intrest, plus ii think it builds common intrest and repore).

on a few instances, we held eye contact for a second or 2.

she finishes up, her friend says 'lets go to the such and such a machine'. the one i have been talking to says 'it was nice talking with u', i see, yes, i will see u soon'.

heres what i think i did well:

approached her directly, took the machine right by her - this is bold, and alpha male.

iniated convo - kept it light, put found out a few seeds from her, gave her some about me.

made decent eye contact and smiled - i should have given stringer eye contact maybe, let her know i was interested in. and i never asked her her name , or gave mine! damn!

now i did not close. i will probably see her again.

what would be the next best few moves? should i ask her number next time - or play it out a bit, as we go to the same gym, and i will see her? she is also quite young, and i thinki should develop more rapport with her first.

she has a mature air and look to her - most young girls don't excercise at a gym - and she has carreer ambitions - so i assume she may b interested in older guys.

 

[junglist]

Girls are often comfortable speaking to older men b/c they suspect that they have no ulterior motives, that they are simply being friendly. I recommend that you work on building a good rapport with her, and try to get her laughing A LOT.

Also, don't approach her as soon as you see her. Try to get her to notice you doing your thing and enjoying it without being trying to attract her attention.

Good luck!

 

[A1SteakSauce]

be careful with the gym b/c you can get a bad rep if you follow women around. she can't really tell you to buzz off in the gym, so the convo doesn't mean a lot. i think you did the right thing but now you need some buying signals before you can go any further with this one.

here is what i think is a buying signal. i was working out sat. night and making eye contact with a girl. we were the only 2 in the place. after i am done on the machine she walks clear across the floor to work in and does this really provacative move with it. plus, she makes these sounds which were totally x-rated. it sounded like a porno flick. i really had to pretend like i wasn't watching, but damn.

then she walks out, and as she leaves she looks back at me like "you know you want it." i wasn't done working out so i stayed. then the gym closes and we both walk out (she was in the locker room i guess). so i go, "impressive workout." and she goes, "get lost."

so, what you have there is a major tease. hot women at the gym figure you are just after their body and they are very cynical about it. if i met this chick in the library it would probably be a different story

 

[junglist]

so, what you have there is a major tease. hot women at the gym figure you are just after their body and they are very cynical about it. if i met this chick in the library it would probably be a different story

I don't see how you draw this conclusion. It seems to me that she's just an attention *****/major biatch. How do you know she thought you were just after her body?

 

[A1SteakSauce]

she obviously thinks she's hot stuff the way she acted in the weightroom. she probably thinks all guys are after her body. many women think this. but if we met in the library she might think i was interested in her mind

 

[Tao of Steve]

i think the approach, as a previous poster stated, is to be friendly, funny, comftorable around her.

i think its possible i will see her regurlary - so building a bit of rapport over some time will be good.

i work out often with a buddy, and she was with a friend.

after say, 2 more times talking with her, i think it may be more effective saying to her - me and my friend r going to such and such a splace, u guys come with'.

 

[stallion]

I just did an approach at the gym. Wasn't too hard because I initiated the convo by asking the girl about the facility and then led on from there.

This girl was jogging and looked pre-occupied so she looks unapproachable but wola, once you talk to her, it flows.

After getting a few laughs from her, I got her phone # and parted, she seemed a little bit awkward when I asked for her phone # but still gave it to me anyways.

I'll also look for rejections at the same time to get used to it but gym isn't that hard..