Stabbed in the back

[tbstimber12]

So I've got this friend. He's basically my best friend of 8 or 9 years. We've been through a lot sh*t together and have basically always been there for each other...hell he's my roommate.

Anyways a few months ago I made it known to my buddy that I was really feeling this chick we work with. Nothing happened between us because she had a bf but after she broke up with him things were on. Making out, flirting, holding hands, dates, ect. Things were going great. Come to find out later that she likes my buddy and he likes her.

After everything that happens they end up making out at a bar behind my back. I didn't talk to either of them for about a week until my buddy comes and appologizes to me. Things are ok between the two of us but I still feel like he betrayed me. I'm through with her completely. They are still hanging out and everything and I'm pretty much over it but I don't wanna see that sh*t.

What would you all do in my position?

 

[intel123]

dam im sory to hear that its ok man things will get better ur freind is still ur boy idk he said hes sorry , give it time . let things go slowy again and see whats up

 

[Phyzzle]

I wouldn't let this bother me.

Anyways a few months ago I made it known to my buddy that I was really feeling this chick we work with.

Thing is, he felt the SAME thing; he just didn't bother telling you. If you had gotten with this chick, would you be a back stabber? He didn't do anything wrong. Anyone can act on their feelings, not just you.

You will learn in time to be not so focused on one girl (who isn't your gf).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I wouldn't let this bother me.



Thing is, he felt the SAME thing; he just didn't bother telling you. If you had gotten with this chick, would you be a back stabber? He didn't do anything wrong. Anyone can act on their feelings, not just you.

You will learn in time to be not so focused on one girl (who isn't your gf).

Let's not forget that she was more interested in the other guy.

Sh1t happens; then you wipe.

 

[tbstimber12]

Obviously

Obviously she was more interested in him than me if they ended up together. You still don't think it's kinda F**ed up that me and her are messing around and he goes behind my back and makes out with her?

I'm pretty much over this situation (and it hasn't even been a week), but I was looking for some advice to let this whole thing go

thanks guys

 

[Victory Unlimited]

I've found that certain friends I can only trust in CERTAIN situations. For instance, I have friends whom I KNOW would take a bullet for me...but ironically, some of these SAME friends I would NEVER trust alone with my sister. lol

The older and wiser you get, you will find that in both friendships AND romantic relationships that there is a "level" of commitment always present. And you measure that level of commitment by paying close attention to ANYBODY'S words and actions towards you over a period of time.

And even THAT isn't specific enough. What you have to realize is that like confidence, LOYALTY is situation specific. And the ONLY way you can judge anybody's loyalty to you is by testing it over tme-----as you go through MANY different situations with them.

This is a hard lesson you've learned dude, but the good news IS-----you only HAVE to learn it "once".

So PAY ATTENTION.


Peace...one day.

 

[KnockoutJM]

Call a next on the girl

 

[kdnash82]

I ran into a similar situation.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=128815

They still hang out and he's still my roommate and friend. Does it suck? Yeah. Does it still bother me? Yeah. What did I do?

Well first off, when it happened, I already had and still have a girlfriend. I ended up spending a lot of time with her and was never at home. I eventually realized that I needed to concentrate more on my relationship. Things between me and my girl couldn't be any better. I became happy and content with what I have at the present moment, and stopped worrying about what could have been or what I could have had.

Do I still consider him a friend? Of course. Will I hangout with him? Of course. If things didn't work out between me and my girl, would I trust him not to make a move on her if he saw the opportunity? F%CK NO!!

Now that I think about it... maybe I need some better friends. With that said, this probably doesn't help you out one bit. Sorry

 

[KontrollerX]

I'd find a new friend to be honest but since you are intent on keeping this guy around for some reason it seems the only thing you can do is simply tell him you need some time to cool off and not hang out with him as much for a while.

During that time spin more plates and if for some reason this girl comes after you again do what your buddy did with her since thats how he expressed the meaning of friendship to you.

Then it can be you who apologizes to him.

That'd make for a nice sweet happy ending I think.

The circle is now complete as it were.

 

[DonDan]

Whoa you sound like afc no wonder she went with ur roomate.. WHO CARES? If not your roomate, then it woulda been someone else.. STEP YO GAME UP.

IF anything u should ask ur buddy how he did it... And learn !!

u ****blockin sob

 

[ToughLove]

i got a friend like this and hes got a good friend whos a big time player

and this friend of mine is really good lookin but has no game

guess what im gonna tell u next??

my friend and his good friend, on more than several occasions have picked up or met 1 girl that they were both digging ,and then they double teamed her

STOP BEING A PVSSY and u and ur friend should just fvck this bytch's brians out, together

teamwork

not like this HOR is serious about either of u guys

wtf are u doing "liking" her??


dont like a HOR, just fcuk a hor, its what shes good for!!!

 

[ValleyDJing]

You haven't learned to look out for yourself yet?! Man, this is what I do. You go about your business with the mindset that nobody in this world cares about you and your interests more than you do. Look out for number one at all times. Seize opportunities, exploit advantages, and guard your heart, thoughts, and feelings. Makes it a whole lot easier to roll with life's punches and play the hands you're dealt. Your buddy does care about you, but he cares about himself, his wants, and wishes more. Thats what you need to do. The chicks a ho...leave her be.

 

[The Sperminator]

Well you weren't really dating her so she was free to game but it still messed up that he made out with her when he knew you liked her. She does like him so just let him have her. I would be pissed as hell too but I wouldn't ruin a 9 year friendship over a stupid girl. If it was my girlfriend and he did this **** then yeah but she wasn't really yours to begin with.