Ok first post here and its an emotionally charged one.
Im a 29 Year Old Irish Guy and I have been seeing this Korean Girl for about 3 and a Half Years. We have only lived together around half that time, I met her first in Putney London when she was living here before, then she had to go back to Korea because of her visa but we kept up a Long distance relationship. We have gotten back together recently however and it has been vastly different from what I remember before. She used to be very passionate and kinky but now I have been getting verbally abused and emotionally manipulated by her almost every second day. She is constantly exploding and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells when I am around her in case I do something to cause her to attack me. SHe is constantly threatening me and manipulating me. Some weekends I had to spend the entire weekend away from my house because I was scared of her.
All the really bad stuff happened this year. I flew over in January to see her in Korea and we had discussed comming to Europe and setteling down somewhere and getting married. We arrived in europe and I took her touring around europe, we had our ups and downs in that time, some very good times and some very tough times but I never lost faith in our relationsip. However she was worrying a lot about money and didnt feel like we had enough cash so we decided to go to london and I would get a contract and build up some cash.
we ended up having a massive argument where she ended up going totally crazy and going outside and causing a scene. The cops came and took her to a mental hospital.
She practices/practiced moxibustion, same as her mother which is apparently a traditional chinese/korean medicine where you put herbs on your skin and burn them, she practices the direct kind which In my opinion is just self harming/burning, anyway when the cops came she blamed me for it and I spent 8 hours in the cop shop before she admits she did it herlself.
She ends up getting let out that night and when i get home she appologises for being so nuts. Then the next morning she threatens to goto the cops and make more stuff up about me unless i feel guilty over what i made her do?
We end up going to ireland for 3 months while job hunting because I didnt feel safe with her in the UK and the I eventually get a job in Cambridge.
I move back to the UK and on our second weekend here she threatend me with the cops again over an argument we have over 20 quid. At that point i decide we need a break so I send her to Italy for 6 weeks. During that time I decided I dont need any more abuse from her and email her asking for her to make a video apologising for blackmailing and threatining me, she then emails me back with a half hearted apology for "emotional blackmail" while trying to make out like its all my fault and trying to hit me up for more money while making subtle alagations against me. At that point I decided not to contact her any more and to leave before she returns, she hasnt seen me for 6 weeks so even if she hurts herself again I wont be around for her to blame, im going back to ireland for 10 days and giving her time to clear out of the appartment, I left enough money for her to pay for a weeks rent and knowing her she wont stay more than that because that would involve reaching into her own pocket. I told everyone there to say that I dont think im comming back and took all my stuff with me, took a week of work so even if she shows up there im not around, her visa to Ireland has expired and im not sure she can even get back into the UK so I hope I am sorted, but for the record I would just like to ask you guys advice on the way I am handling this and checking to see if there is anything I have missed.
PS I know this is a long post but this is actually the short version
The fuller list covers this
Emotional Abuse
Repeated Verbal Abuse
Blackmail
Self Harm
Controling my Finances
Bleding me dry and never contributing anything.
Threatening to Smash my Laptop, Go to police and make stuff up, Threaten to **** her friend Anil to hurt me.
Admitting She wants to Hurt me and make me feel bad.
Blaming me for all her past abuse.
and much more..
Anyway any advice on anything im missing or ways to protect against her blackmail are greatly appreciated
Thanks
Mike
Im a 29 Year Old Irish Guy and I have been seeing this Korean Girl for about 3 and a Half Years. We have only lived together around half that time, I met her first in Putney London when she was living here before, then she had to go back to Korea because of her visa but we kept up a Long distance relationship. We have gotten back together recently however and it has been vastly different from what I remember before. She used to be very passionate and kinky but now I have been getting verbally abused and emotionally manipulated by her almost every second day. She is constantly exploding and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells when I am around her in case I do something to cause her to attack me. SHe is constantly threatening me and manipulating me. Some weekends I had to spend the entire weekend away from my house because I was scared of her.
All the really bad stuff happened this year. I flew over in January to see her in Korea and we had discussed comming to Europe and setteling down somewhere and getting married. We arrived in europe and I took her touring around europe, we had our ups and downs in that time, some very good times and some very tough times but I never lost faith in our relationsip. However she was worrying a lot about money and didnt feel like we had enough cash so we decided to go to london and I would get a contract and build up some cash.
we ended up having a massive argument where she ended up going totally crazy and going outside and causing a scene. The cops came and took her to a mental hospital.
She practices/practiced moxibustion, same as her mother which is apparently a traditional chinese/korean medicine where you put herbs on your skin and burn them, she practices the direct kind which In my opinion is just self harming/burning, anyway when the cops came she blamed me for it and I spent 8 hours in the cop shop before she admits she did it herlself.
She ends up getting let out that night and when i get home she appologises for being so nuts. Then the next morning she threatens to goto the cops and make more stuff up about me unless i feel guilty over what i made her do?
We end up going to ireland for 3 months while job hunting because I didnt feel safe with her in the UK and the I eventually get a job in Cambridge.
I move back to the UK and on our second weekend here she threatend me with the cops again over an argument we have over 20 quid. At that point i decide we need a break so I send her to Italy for 6 weeks. During that time I decided I dont need any more abuse from her and email her asking for her to make a video apologising for blackmailing and threatining me, she then emails me back with a half hearted apology for "emotional blackmail" while trying to make out like its all my fault and trying to hit me up for more money while making subtle alagations against me. At that point I decided not to contact her any more and to leave before she returns, she hasnt seen me for 6 weeks so even if she hurts herself again I wont be around for her to blame, im going back to ireland for 10 days and giving her time to clear out of the appartment, I left enough money for her to pay for a weeks rent and knowing her she wont stay more than that because that would involve reaching into her own pocket. I told everyone there to say that I dont think im comming back and took all my stuff with me, took a week of work so even if she shows up there im not around, her visa to Ireland has expired and im not sure she can even get back into the UK so I hope I am sorted, but for the record I would just like to ask you guys advice on the way I am handling this and checking to see if there is anything I have missed.
PS I know this is a long post but this is actually the short version
The fuller list covers this
Emotional Abuse
Repeated Verbal Abuse
Blackmail
Self Harm
Controling my Finances
Bleding me dry and never contributing anything.
Threatening to Smash my Laptop, Go to police and make stuff up, Threaten to **** her friend Anil to hurt me.
Admitting She wants to Hurt me and make me feel bad.
Blaming me for all her past abuse.
and much more..
Anyway any advice on anything im missing or ways to protect against her blackmail are greatly appreciated
Thanks
Mike
