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Spending time around elderly women, will help dispel any pedestalizing or romanticing or overthinking you have regarding the opposite sex.

You would laugh at the notion of ‘gaming’ or overthinking an elderly woman’s actions. You’ll realise that her preference for men is pretty arbitrary and unique, and completely variable to another elderly woman, however both would most likely gravitate towards men that are good at survival ie. healthy, rich, socially dominant, not needy.

Another tip I’m toying with…if you are talking to a hot girl with nice eyes, focus on the white part of the eye (sclera) rather than the iris. This will help ground you whilst maintaining eye contact, because the sclera is relatively bland compared to iris.
 
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Another tip I’m toying with…if you are talking to a hot girl with nice eyes, focus on the white part of the eye (sclera) rather than the iris. This will help ground you whilst maintaining eye contact, because the sclera is relatively bland compared to iris.
I will try this. Sounds promising. I still struggle with eye contact sometimes. And common “hacks” such as, “Look at her forehead or nose” don’t seem to work.
 

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I will try this. Sounds promising. I still struggle with eye contact sometimes. And common “hacks” such as, “Look at her forehead or nose” don’t seem to work.
By nature if your struggling with eye contact you also aren't smiling enough, smile--Eye contact-- physical contact, sometimes overt, I'll just grab and hold her hand, but without the smile you can't maintain eye contact because it's confrontational, women are more masculine today, what we think is romantic is confrontational for her unless she's in Feminine energy

As per OP, I've had many older women in my life, most paying my bills, they are super honest, I've had one tell me her being single at 45 isn't normal and I should stay away, a month later trying to marry me lol
 

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By nature if your struggling with eye contact you also aren't smiling enough, smile--Eye contact-- physical contact, sometimes overt, I'll just grab and hold her hand, but without the smile you can't maintain eye contact because it's confrontational, women are more masculine today, what we think is romantic is confrontational for her unless she's in Feminine energy
Without going off on a tangent, yes, you are quite correct. I don’t smile much either. I largely avoided it for fear of appearing creepy but that probably wasn’t the best idea.
 

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Without going off on a tangent, yes, you are quite correct. I don’t smile much either. I largely avoided it for fear of appearing creepy but I’d probably be less creepy with more smiling.
I just recently did an outing maybe 2 months ago and my biggest critique of myself was the smile, it's hard to smile for long periods it becomes unnatural, I'm a funny guy so I can navigate the inbetween with laughter or my listening face, smiling when listening is like a 'I'm waiting for my turn to talk' energy I find
 

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Spending time around elderly women, will help dispel any pedestalizing or romanticing or overthinking you have regarding the opposite sex.

You would laugh at the notion of ‘gaming’ or overthinking an elderly woman’s actions. You’ll realise that her preference for men is pretty arbitrary and unique, and completely variable to another elderly woman, however both would most likely gravitate towards men that are good at survival ie. healthy, rich, socially dominant, not needy.
Yeah, I’m going to start hanging out at the local retirement home to improve my game :rolleyes: I think I’ve heard it all now.
 

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Spending time around elderly women, will help dispel any pedestalizing or romanticing or overthinking you have regarding the opposite sex.

You would laugh at the notion of ‘gaming’ or overthinking an elderly woman’s actions. You’ll realise that her preference for men is pretty arbitrary and unique, and completely variable to another elderly woman, however both would most likely gravitate towards men that are good at survival ie. healthy, rich, socially dominant, not needy.
I think it’s been repeated several times over. Men know how to act with a 38 year divorced women with 2 kids. Yet they get confused on how to act with a 27 year old hot girl who is fertile.

Society values one way more the other so men get brainwashed. The system will go crazy if a hot fertile girl goes missing. The system will go crazy if a hot fertile girl gets married. The system will go crazy if a hot fertile girl gets pregnant and gives birth. The system could care less about a women who; has kids and divorced or is older.

Strangely the system will make a women famous if she was in her 20s and did (tasteful) nudity in a Hollywood film. But the system will not care if the women is 30 and over and did (tasteful) nudity in a movie film

Another tip I’m toying with…if you are talking to a hot girl with nice eyes, focus on the white part of the eye (sclera) rather than the iris. This will help ground you whilst maintaining eye contact, because the sclera is relatively bland compared to iris.
What? Just look into her eyes.
 

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I work with 4 - 60 plus year old women. I can always count on them giving me a No-BS answer. If I'm dressed well, they let me know. They have interesting commentary on young women who come through.

My Eye contact is a combination of Eyebrow, Nose, Chin. if i' staring in to her eye I'm getting ready to kiss her...
 
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