SoSuave NoFap November 2022 challenge (Sex is okay!)

[Sleeperhead]

A good fap can get these women off your mind when you're otherwise trying to be productive. Why be a slave to your libido?

As men we have a higher purpose than to just get laid, but since it's optimal for our well being to do so, the idea is to have sex with as little distraction from your higher goals to begin with.

Nofap is masochism. It's as bad as jerking off on a daily basis. One extreme is no better than the other.

If you are having problems with fapping then you aren't getting laid, simple as. Really you should have women around when your horniness builds up, you should never be fapping ever. In fact fapping is the most beta behaviour there is. You're watching alpha men **** the girls that you want to, lusting after girls that would be disgusted by you if she saw you.

If you cant get laid then you should be directing your sex drive into pursuits that can. When you fap you feel tired, relieved, stress free, lazy, completely antithetical to how you want to be to get laid. It doesn't mean that you're gonna go beg girls for sex. It means you have the motivation and energy to strike up a conversation with them.

Its not okay to fap because that sets the precedent for your mindset. We live in an age where you can get lost for hours cycling through endless pornography. Our ancestors did not have this. You have to consciously control your behaviour, which means exerting willpower. If it's okay to fap, then its okay to fail, and then you are fapping multiple times a week. It's the equivalent of quitting smoking but having a cigarette every now and then, you can easily fall back into smoking every day, just completely cut it out your life.

 

[Murk]

Just watched Matrix: Reloaded and Matrix: Revolutions over the weekend and noticed the main actor, Keanu Reeves, has not aged much and they are saying that he is celibate and is a no-fapper. I'm now wondering if this is the reason I lost my hair.

Anyway, just broke a streak here because @Murk put up a thread about facials. Wrong thread to look at when trying to keep your mind pure and away. This opened the floodgates and I ended up watching something on my smartphone and one thing lead to another. It goes to show you have to be careful what you read on here if you are serious about this thing.

Don't blame me, you fapped because you weren't strong-willed/determined enough to not ejaculate into your own hands, at least own that and your decision.

I nearly fapped last night in bed, I did some deep breathing instead and fell asleep after 2 minutes.

I've literally ejaculated once in 2.5 weeks, I pulled out from my girl at the weekend and nut on her ass/thigh after she was telling me to nut on her tits. I stormed off because I keep telling her I want to nut on her face and she played dumb like I haven't mentioned this many times "oh you want to come on my face do you" and offered tits/ass.

I got mad, had a shower, came into my home office to create this thread actually, quite pathetic of me.

My point is you need discipline and self-control to not watch porn/fap. I lacked that my whole life but something switched in me and now I'm super disciplined, like the people I used to admire.

 

[corrector]

Don't blame me, you fapped because you weren't strong-willed/determined enough to not ejaculate into your own hands, at least own that and your decision.

I nearly fapped last night in bed, I did some deep breathing instead and fell asleep after 2 minutes.

I've literally ejaculated once in 2.5 weeks, I pulled out from my girl at the weekend and nut on her ass/thigh after she was telling me to nut on her tits. I stormed off because I keep telling her I want to nut on her face and she played dumb like I haven't mentioned this many times "oh you want to come on my face do you" and offered tits/ass.

I got mad, had a shower, came into my home office to create this thread actually, quite pathetic of me.

My point is you need discipline and self-control to not watch porn/fap. I lacked that my whole life but something switched in me and now I'm super disciplined, like the people I used to admire.

Yeah, excuses are easy but discipline is hard.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

had to cut out the cold showers at night. They started relapsing me into covid symptoms.
The bad coughing mostly.
I'm a covid long hauler. Man they were making me feel great along with the streak.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Day 28 of NOFAP, had a few close calls over the month but I managed to make it through

Anyone else still going strong?

@Plinco
@BoostedArrow
@savi0r
@lost_blackbird
@Scars
@mikedee
@Cerwin Vega
@Knight of Roses
@Jesse Pinkman
@Rainman4707
@Mike32ct
@Murk
@Dr.Suave

 

[Rainman4707]

Day 28 of NOFAP, had a few close calls over the month but I managed to make it through

Anyone else still going strong?

@Plinco
@BoostedArrow
@savi0r
@lost_blackbird
@Scars
@mikedee
@Cerwin Vega
@Knight of Roses
@Jesse Pinkman
@Rainman4707
@Mike32ct
@Murk
@Dr.Suave

I shagged a woman yesterday and came. Then I shagged another woman tonight and came. With tonight's woman I lay with her 20 mins after shagging her...then I started shagging her again, but didn't ejaculate this time. So I just dropped her back at hers...lay down on sofa....and thought to myself..I fancy Cumming again. i thought it wont do no harm....because you've been shagging a lot this weekend anyway.....so i put some porn on and fapped. Got to be about 5 weeks since my last one though.

 

[lost_blackbird]

I've been quite ill, but hanging in there.

 

[SW15]

Day 28 of NOFAP, had a few close calls over the month but I managed to make it through

Very good! Be proud of this.

If you are having problems with fapping then you aren't getting laid, simple as. Really you should have women around when your horniness builds up, you should never be fapping ever. In fact fapping is the most beta behaviour there is. You're watching alpha men **** the girls that you want to, lusting after girls that would be disgusted by you if she saw you.

One of the keys to success long term with a NoFap effort is getting laid regularly. Ideally, no sex streaks need to be less than 4 weeks. I don't like to go without sex for more than 2-3 weeks. Agree that fapping is the most beta thing ever. The focus needs to be on banging the women that resemble hot porn stars.

Its not okay to fap because that sets the precedent for your mindset. We live in an age where you can get lost for hours cycling through endless pornography. Our ancestors did not have this. You have to consciously control your behaviour, which means exerting willpower. If it's okay to fap, then its okay to fail, and then you are fapping multiple times a week. It's the equivalent of quitting smoking but having a cigarette every now and then, you can easily fall back into smoking every day, just completely cut it out your life.

This is all true.

It means you have the motivation and energy to strike up a conversation with them.

This is one of the big advantages of doing NoFap.

 

[Plinco]

Day 28 of NOFAP, had a few close calls over the month but I managed to make it through

Anyone else still going strong?

@Plinco
@BoostedArrow
@savi0r
@lost_blackbird
@Scars
@mikedee
@Cerwin Vega
@Knight of Roses
@Jesse Pinkman
@Rainman4707
@Mike32ct
@Murk
@Dr.Suave

No I messed up pretty bad actually this month. I'll give a report in a few more days. I'll see about making next month the challenge.

 

[user252009]

Day 21 here, definitely seeing increase in confidence and energy, also better results with the woman I'm pursuing, she senses it as well in my increased confidence, it's also showing at work and that I'm more direct and honest with people

 

[savi0r]

No porn, no masturbation. had sex, though.

 

[member160761]

No PMO, nothing. I was in more social events than the months before, also worked in office for half the month instead from home. I met a girl during this time as well but it did not work out. All in all, just one week abstaining and girls come at you. They become visibly nervous and put up defenses but when your game is tight all goes well and ends well. Earlier this year I almost managed 7 months but then became weak. If you are busy and have your eyes on your purpose you do not even have time to masturbate let alone be obsessed with poon all the time. Women sense this and want a piece of you.

As the saying goes: Give not a thot attention, for the key to heaven is semen-retention.

 

[DonJuanjr]

I find it funny reading those who think they feel anything due to increase in Testosterone... Even an increase of 300 wouldn't be felt, unless one was Hypogonadal to begin with... If one is say, 400, increasing to 700 wouldn't be felt. There's no way one is going to increase this much due to abstaining from jerking off...

 

[Zimbabwe]

I find it funny reading those who think they feel anything due to increase in Testosterone... Even an increase of 300 wouldn't be felt, unless one was Hypogonadal to begin with... If one is say, 400, increasing to 700 wouldn't be felt. There's no way one is going to increase this much due to abstaining from jerking off...

It's all placebo, but if it drives us to approach and have sex with women than it is a win in my book.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I'm so glad I didn't do this. My GF is out of town til Saturday and I forgot the difference between being single and not being single lol.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I've been quite ill, but hanging in there.

you alright? 2 days ago I came down with the flu hard. tested positive for influenza at the ER. alot of electrolyte fluids and organic ginger root lemon tea right now. last night I felt like i was going to die with body aches and head throbbing.
Man this sh1t is putting me out of commission but still not stroking. I need that retention to heal quicker.

 

[Mike32ct]

Failed the challenge here.

 

[user252009]

Hey what do you guys think of watching porn without fapping before you go out and communicate with women? I find that it makes me more sexually agressive (I of course don't act on it as such), but it manifests in my confidence and masculine frame and behavior

 

[lost_blackbird]

you alright? 2 days ago I came down with the flu hard. tested positive for influenza at the ER. alot of electrolyte fluids and organic ginger root lemon tea right now. last night I felt like i was going to die with body aches and head throbbing.

I probably shouldn't have quit smoking 5 days into NNN. I smoked my last cigarette on the 5th November
and haven't smoked since. Withdrawal has hit hard physically and mentally. Insomnia like a MF, I'm lucky if
I can remain asleep for more than two hours if I can get to sleep at all, part of that is my body is struggling
to regulate my temperature and I'm always too hot. My skin is itching, particularly my scalp, back and shoulders.
Some weight gain and bloating, partially because I've been eating more and partially water retention and finally
my arsehole is in tatters because of biblical constipation. I'm on two different laxatives and have been having
real problems clearing out my bowels every day although it is improving now a little after three weeks of blood
sweat and tears. I'm awaiting a hospital appointment so they can survey the damage and decide what level
of surgery my butthole needs as this has also brought on some haemorrhoids just to put a nice sore cherry
in the cake. It's been 23 days now and the cravings are subsiding now except immediately after food and if
I smell someone else smoking nearby. I suffered all of these symptoms when I quit in 2013 and needed surgery
then as well. I managed to quit for nearly 9 years that time and only started up again through stress of my
divorce, a bvllsh1t job and boredom. I am also almost two months off the weed now, I stopped that first.

I promised my 11 year old niece that I would quit for her before Christmas, I guess these are the side effects
I have to suffer to keep my promise. I did this to myself. I am already living on soft fruit, soup, green veg,
wholemeal bread and other digestively good stuff but it's not really alleviating anything. But I'll get through
it, I'm not using any nicotine replacement products or vaping. Cold turkey, same as I did back in 2013.

On the upside I have already saved enough money that I would have spent on smoking for a full day session
with my home visiting tattooist who will be here this Thursday. I should end the day with 4 more tats, two
mid size pieces and two much smaller ones, all in the comfort of my own kitchen.

 

[Sleeperhead]

I will drop my report down.

I slipped up mid November because I am still addicted to porn. Really its like crack cocaine lol. When I went to do it my heart-rate was through the roof, but I got it out the way as quickly as I could, it wasn't pleasurable I felt sick. I think the key to beating porn addiction is getting as far as you can and then limiting yourself to one picture. It takes a tremendous amount of discipline and determination.

Now for the good part: the benefits. There is no doubt in my mind that nofap works wonders to attract women. As I write this I can listen to my own voice and as the days have gone by my voice has gotten deeper and more resonant. This is not placebo, its not in my head. I have also noticed very subtle changes to my appearance. I look good. I know its strange but my eyes have more colour to them and my skin has more of a glow to it. I will stress this point, its very subtle but distinct.

When I am out and about minding my own business, very often I happen to lock eyes with a girl. Now, before nofap my eyes would shoot away by instinct, but when I'm on nofap I am much more impassive. I can tell the girlies like it because when this happens they smile in response. This has happened numerous times in the past couple of days, and never occurs when I have fapped a bunch of times. Its like a subconscious on-switch in your body language.

I am also starting a new job at the end of the week. When I was there the other day I was talking to one of the girls who was showing signs of high interest. She told me where she lived, and mentioned a club nearby, and was asking probing questions to try and determine my availability. She had her poker face on during the interaction, but I had noticed her staring later on lips slightly parted with a mixture of anxiety, submission and curiosity. Pretty certain that all I have to do now is say the words.

It ****ing works.