Somewhat 'new' to the area. How to meet women when i know noone?

[Wakka]

Hi Folks,

I'm sure you've heard my question a billion times, but i need some advice. Here's my short story:

I moved from NYC to SoCal about 2 years ago. When i arrived out here, i met a girl at work and we started dating about 2 months after i arrived. We dated all this time until about ~3 months ago and mutually split up (just weren't meant to be). Thankfully, she left the company for a better job, so no worries there. The problem this left me with dating her all this time in this new area is that between work and her, i had no time to meet people out here.

So now i'm single, 25 years old, average looker. I work 45-55hours on weekdays and my weekends are almost always open. How the heck do i begin meeting women if i don't know anyone out here? I am a social, outgoing person so i can hold my own in a conversation. It's the ice breaker that ties me up usually...

I could do try the club scene, but i hate going to clubs by myself. I'm not a fan of goign to bars to pick up women either (i know i know, maybe i'm limiting myself?). I started surfing and i'm beginning to talk to random people in the water when there are a few around. I'm thinking i should join an extracurricular sport to meet people...

Any advice for this single guy in an area that he knows noone (other than my coworkers, who are all older then me by quite a bit). Thank ya DJ's! :rockon:

 

[typical]

Ok you got yourself set bro, work mates go hang out with them after work on a friday night or saturday etc for drinks, and slowly you'll expand your circle of mates and meet new people. I cant do the whole bars/nightclubs scene either so dont worry too much about that.

You say you surf that means you already have somewhat of a nice body etc just flirt with the girlies at the beachs and go with it, you vibe it up good enough a few may even invite you over for drinks or what not with their other mates as the day goes on etc.

Joining a club is another awesome idea and you meet a tonne of new people.

Just get out there and have fun as your weekends you say are totally open, so you could do whatever you want with it.

 

[Phyzzle]

I fell for ya. I'm guessing you're co-workers don't hang out, after work or any other time, right? If they do, it's an hour of talking about their kids before heading back home at 6:30 to collapse.

I'm in the same boat in a foreign country, which would explan my zillions of posts here. I'm doing the club route, but on top of that, I'm in a backwater city where jobs and TV are pretty much all that exist.

 

[typical]

I fell for ya. I'm guessing you're co-workers don't hang out, after work or any other time, right? If they do, it's an hour of talking about their kids before heading back home at 6:30 to collapse.

I'm in the same boat in a foreign country, which would explan my zillions of posts here. I'm doing the club route, but on top of that, I'm in a backwater city where jobs and TV are pretty much all that exist.

Bro leave town now aye.

 

[Wakka]

I fell for ya. I'm guessing you're co-workers don't hang out, after work or any other time, right? If they do, it's an hour of talking about their kids before heading back home at 6:30 to collapse.

EXACTLY!!!!!! None of them hang out and most are 35+, married, kids, etc etc. So work is pretty much out. :\

 

[everywomanshero]

You probably should use a multi-tiered approach. DO these:

-If you join a "seduction lair". Avoid all the weird guys and all the defensive guys, they will just bring you down. Just find one or two guys you want to hang out with and can learn from or are fairly cool but can learn from you. Trade #s and just avoid the weirdos (there will be a few). Hopefully they will force you to leave your house. If they ruin your state, prevent you from approaching, or otherwise get in your way, then get rid of them. If they help you, then keep them around.
-Stay active on things you'd do even if no women showeed up. If you like the beach, I've met quite a few women there. You can just find one on shore by the water and strart a convo, or you can use Mystery's frizbee opener in the water.
-Take a nightclass. You are pretty much garuanteed to meet some young hawtees this way. Mostly they have only been exposed to guys with zero game, so this is one of the easiest ways to find girls.
-If you feel down in the dumps, go to one of those "cuddle" parties, get a massage, whatever it takes to get back on top again. Neither of these things are expensive.
-Find out where speed dating events are and try to show up at the "after party". A lot of these are held in public areas, so know where they are and see if you can penetrate in at the last minute without all the formal BS and fees.
-If you want MILFS, they all take their kids to the zoo. Go during the during lunch hour, if you can take a later lunch that's even better (1:30-2:00 should be good). It's easy to approach them because you already have a situational opener you can use (zoo stuff, perhaps cheesy but it's good enough).
-Business women. Sometimes you will see a woman out with a few guys who look dressed for a meeting. Chances are they are in town for businesss. These women are fairly successful. I approach the guys and make something up about being ina similar business or you can show them something cool or whatever your stichk is. Then it will be easily to transition to her, and they won't block you.
-Military bases. If a base near you has seen heavy deployed, there will usually be one bar that all the military wives/gfs congregate at. Most of the women there will be opportunistic about picking up a guy is something interesting comes along. I am not familar with the base near SD, so I don't know the details there. I did PU one woman from that area online who met me in Vegas, so it can't be too tough.
-Online: this is probably the worst choice because it tends to waste a lot of time doing things that are really unrewarding with the exception of just getting laid, it does little to build and maintain social skills. On the plus side, it's incredibly easy to get women online to sleep with you. If you wish to do this, I suggest David M's stuff. I field tested it and it works very well.