Sometimes I think Im in the friendzone but other times im not so sure

[zzirf25]

Ok I've known this girl for about three years now. We have always been pretty good friends but nothing more than that. I have really never thought of anything ever happening between us. Well about 4 months ago she broke up with her bf of about two years. Since they broke up she has been calling me non stop and always wanting to hang out. We are really close, we talk about everything and spend a lot of time together. We also engage in some very heavy kino. She always sits on my lap or rubs up against me, we are CONSTANTLY touching.

Ive always considered myself in the friendzone with her simply because I don't think she sees me as more than a friend. It is now getting complicated and she really confuses the f_ck out of me. First, she always tells me "I love you" and tells me that she couldn't live without me. She always comes to my house late at night and makes me come home and spend the night with her. The first few times she would make me sleep on her couch, but the last time she wanted me to sleep in bed with her. We didn't have sex but we were rubbing up against each other all night. The next day we start talking about sex alot, and we had never talked about sex ever before this.

Now I know what you are thinking, you are thinking that I am a dumbass and I should be having sex with her, all the signs are there right? Well she also has two other guys that she is currently sleeping with and she is always telling me about it. That right there tells me im in the friendzone. I have other girls that I talk to, but she gets pissed when I spend time with them and not her. I am getting really mixed signals here and I am really confused. I am almost 100% certain that I am stuck in the friendzone, but I really don't know wtf she wants from me. Everytime I try to move on, she keeps on coming back to me, but she will not give me any sex, and believe me I do try. I touch her "hot" spots a lot and talk dirty to her all the time, yet I get no play. If someone could please tell me what the hell is up, I would grealtly appreciate that.

 

[tafakna]

She might be attracted to you but she's scared of escalating things and possibly losing the status quo.

Decide if banging her is what you really want, because I ASSURE you it will change things. I've done that a few times in the past and did regret it most of the time...

If you do it's simple: Make some space between you by now being available as much for starters...

 

[The Educator]

I think you're the one that’s keeping yourself in the friend zone. From my perspective of your situation it seems that she is at times very attracted to you. At other times though you just hang out with her and listen to her problems, which seems to make her question her physical attraction to you. Do you want to sit there and listen to her problems? Or do you want to stick your penis in her? You need to lead the relationship in the direction you want to take it. She at least seems open to the possibility based on the way she has acted.

Also like the other guy said, don't always be going over late at night. Let her think you've got other option even if you don't. She's already telling you about these other dudes. On the other hand, she might be telling you about them to kind of motivate you. For instance she may really be interested in you because you display qualities she looks for in a man, but can't be with you because you’re convinced that you're in this friend zone. Think of it this way she needs two dudes to give her what she thinks she can get from you, but even with that she isn't satisfied, that’s why she complains to you.

 

[CarlitosWay]

Yeah so weird. I literally could have just written the same thing for my current situation with a girl I just started hanging out with (who I like a lot and brought out the inner AFC in me hard at times). So I will follow this thread closely lol.

As of lately, I've become "to busy" with other plans (I went and kind of became a bit to "available" before, my foul up). So I'm going to be Not respondin to her little texts this and that. If she really wants to be with me, I'm sure she'll be calling me eventually, beggin to see me in a week or so.

FFS I'm not an emotional tampon or one of her freakin' stuffed animals! It either happens soon or I'm movin' on definitely.