Something Just Ain't Right

[MR_PERFECT]

I accompanied a girl I've been seeing for a few months to a party at a club. I met a bunch of guys that she knew, but there was one guy in particular that was less friendly than everyone else and wouldn't make eye contact with me when we shook hands.

When me and this girl go out, we hold hands, nothing more, unless it's a quick peck on the lips. That night, she's trying to stick her tongue in my mouth in front of a bunch of people she knows, grabbing my ass, wanting to dance when she never wants to dance with me. And she didn't have enough to drink for that to be the reason. My question is whether the change in behavior should be a red flag or did the change in behavior coincide with partying with friends of hers?

 

[KontrollerX]

Yeah its a red flag.

She's just using you to make an ex boyfriend jealous basically or getting back at him for something and will probably be back with him before you know it.

 

[Obsidian]

right on, KrontrollerX

Also, you've been dating the girl for three months and that was the first time you passionately kissed her? No wonder she wants this other guy back instead of you.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

right on, KrontrollerX

Also, you've been dating the girl for three months and that was the first time you passionately kissed her? No wonder she wants this other guy back instead of you.

Come on, it's not the first time we kissed like that, it's the first time she kissed me like that in a public place. Public or private wouldn't have mattered, it's the fact that we were around a bunch of people she knew.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

mmmm I wouldn't get my heart involved, be fun and be cool and do you. I think its a red flag too, maybe you should ask, "ok boo, what guy are we gonna make jealous, that I have you?"

 

[JLR]

Like everyone is saying, MAJOR red flag. Actually, it's painfully obvious to me what she was doing, and you're right to suspect it. I think it's time to pull back a bit & see if she tries to reel you back in, IMO, that is, assuming you even still want to hang w/ her.

 

[Obsidian]

Well if it's not the first time she kissed you like that then I wouldn't worry about it at all. Maybe she's trying to show you off to someone, maybe not. If she's still showing consistent interest levels toward you, who cares?

wanting to dance when she never wants to dance with me

but as I asked earlier, why would she not want to dance with you before? Either she's being affectionate and loyal to you or she isn't. If she is, stop worrying so much. If she's not, dump her.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

obsidian- I kinda agree with you on this one, but still i think he should be atleast a little weary