Something about the mind..

[rapsta]

I think I'm pretty depressed (light depression), i've been so for a couple of months, since my body and mind misses the feelings love bringed me.

But the question is.. why am i so damn tired? im unnaturally tired. Im not tired all the time. Im up everyday from 6am to 22pm.
I start getting real tired around 1 pm every day. Not in my body. But in my mind. It does affect my body a little though but not that much. It's just that i have difficulties in concentration and thinking after 1 pm since i get real tired. Anyone else felt like this? This extremely tired feeling? If i went to bed at 1pm i would fall in deep sleep directly.

And another thing.. since this depression started, I also got difficulties looking people in the eyes, and locking my sight on still objects without moving my eyes for a moment. I get all dizzy and everything except for the object im looking gets all blurred. And no I dont have any eye damage and i dont need glasses, because when I feel happy, i have no problem with this.

Anyone know anything about these things?

 

[diablo]

H&F...

 

[Alpine]

Sounds like social anxiety to me from the symptoms you describe.

What's your head chatter like when someones talking to you?

The very first exercise to break the pattern is taking slower deeper breaths. Breathing from the belly not the chest.

After that a number of strategies can be formulated for facing some of the anxious situations.

If you don't it will get worse as it's very self perpetuating, and yes leads to depression.

 

[rapsta]

ok Alpine thanks for the tip.
Im not sure I have social anxiety, because I can really be relax and be myself when im out among people. It's just that it feels so sick to look people in the eyes while talking. I was normal before, this started about 5 months ago. I met my girlfriend during the holidays, we had been apart for 5 months, then it was ok to look everybody in the eyes. But now it feels strange again.

So slower breaths from the belly is the first exercise, what are the other exercises? and why from the belly? what does that do?

thanks for replying man i appreciate it

 

[MindOverMatter]

when you're depressed / anxious, your brain is releasing a lot of dynorphins / CCK, and in general your immune system suffers (hence you feel like sh!t all the time and get fatigued easy).

make sure to eat a lot of carbs in the morning (for energy), and for lunch, and to exercise often. exercising will release endorphins and counter your depression somewhat.

 

[penkitten]

you can ask your family doctor to put you on some light meds for this.
try prozac or paxil.
lexapro will make you more tired.

learn that chocolate produces the same chemical in your mind that the feeling of love does.
thats why chicks eat bon bons and get fat haha

 

[MindOverMatter]

chocolate does contain PEA (phenylethylamine for full), an endorphin related to the feeling of falling in love, but the dose you get from it so small that you could eat an insane amount of it (i.e. kristy alley style) and still not get that feeling.

 

[Alpine]

With respect, meds is not the road to go down. That will only delay your progress and in some cases make you dependent on them emotionally.

People get in little loops like this at any stage in their lives so don't discount it as a possibilty.

Breathing helps relax you, bringing down things like heart rate which normally are not consciously controlled. Belly breathing will reduce tension during the point at which the stimuli is applied, ie eye contact.

This then breaks the negative feedback loop you have inadvertantly set up.

I ask about head chatter, this is very important. What are you saying to yourself when you feel these symptoms?

By changing what you say and how you say it can have a profound effect in changing your state of mind in these situations.

An example only.

'Oh sh1t, I've GOT to look her in the eyes, oh no, I hope I don't start feeling funny, oh no here I go again, oh I feel dizzy, sh1t sh1t what's wrong with me? I'm such a loser, Fvck! Got to get away got to get away'

Focus on what she's saying and on your deep slow breathing, smile and don't let the above type of talk come through. If it does replace it with little mantras 'Everything fine, I can handle it'

 

[Blowfish]

I was suffering from something similar to that last year...

I mean I had a girlfriend and all...

But I was really depressed at times, and later in the year, I started to get tired, and in the mind too... I began to forget things easy, and i'd often lose concentration easy, especially driving.

As with the social thing, was cool with that...

But I had a holiday overseas, and when I came back, seems like everything's back to normal.

I think you just need a break and have some fun... perhaps just with the family.