Hi,
First of all, let me make one thing clear. I'm no deejay, even it is mentioned below my screen name. I'm not the person who can get every girl he wanted and gets laid several times a week.
In fact, I'm an afc who wants to share his story, which can be very usefull to several of you guys. It is a rather long story, but it is very interesting so I recommended that you take a drink and continue to read. As I already said, I'm no master at seduction, but I'm the master of blowing chances. Hope you learn something from it.
During my childhood, I haven't got many friends. We moved when I was 9, I didn't know anyone in this new town or school. Kids saw me as an intruder and I was standing all by myself with nobody to play or even talk with.
I'm 16
By the time I was 16, I got some good friends and started to go out in the weekends to some party's.
Not me, nore my friends were interested in girls by that time. I was very playfull and not aware of too many things by that time.
None of us had ever kissed a girl, but hell what, we didn't care. We just go out to have fun, to dance, to jump to the beat, drink some beers ( rather occasionaly then ). When we came home at about 2 O'clock, we were tired but had had a good time.
At school, I got letters from some hot girls, but I let them slip away one by one. Why??? Well, I never had a girl interested in me and then all of a suddon I couldn't figure out why they would be interested in me. It must be a joke. I have very little self confidence and I'm afraid of succes.
I'm 18
Just like all the friends, I haven't got any girlfriend, not even kissed one.
No problem I thought. I'm young enough, my time will come no matter what.
I'm 19
When I was 19 I went to a new school were I met a guy. It was the first time I had a friend who had a girlfriend. This had to be the first time that I realised that I missed something. He took me out along with his girlfriend and some of her friends. This was the time I first totally freezed. I didn't know anything to say. At the end of that evening one of the girlfriends starts to kiss me, and that made it all worse. I didn't know what to do and because it was the first kiss, I felt in love head over heels. Acting even more like an AFC. The "relationship" started end ended with that kiss.
2 months later, the guy and his girlfriend broke up. We became best friends and he went out with us ( me and my friends from when I was 16 ) every week.
We made a pact that the one of us who first find a girlfriend would help the other. This must be the first time I actually approached girls to talk with. But never with succes ( I talked too much, too many questions and the subjects were dull, like weather, school, ... )
At the end of that year he met a girl on the chat. The night before he was going to meet her he said. I have a date tomorrow with someone who could become the girl of my dreams. Next day he got her as girlfriend.
The next months they arranged some dates for me.
My opinion now on these dates
By the time I was 20, I thought all the idea of arranged dates was wonderfull. But when I thing about it now, it really sucked. An arranged date is too forced. They expect you to become friends/lovers. I blew it with all the girls. Problem with dates is that you really don't know them. If you haven't seen someone, there is always the chance that you don't think she is attactive or just don't like her.
I also had some dates with girls from the internet. Neither of them worked out in any way. I always thought then, it is because of the girls, but I now know better. I was acting like an afc the all time. Not only that, but I also didn't wear any decent clothes, my hear wasn't always that nice looking.
But even more important. By that time I was only trying to get a girlfriend to fit in. I had to have a girlfriend because my best friend had one. It's like a child that want a playstation because his friend has one. I was searching because of some sort of jealousy ( VERY BAD ADVICE GIVER ) instead of my heart. I'm very happy that he has found a very good girl ( he lived togheter with her now and is going to marry by the end of the year ) but I was by that time also sad because that I stayed behind.
Other dating
I decide not to do any dates anymore like mentioned in the previous story.
As I became a little older ( 21 - 23 ) there were some significant changes in my social live, but just the virgin thing has remained.
I was studying at the university, had a lot more friends, but also lost some old friends. I start to talk to strange girls, but it was never more that a cold approach. FEAR OF REJECTION was too big, When I didn't tried, I didn't get rejected so I didn't do a thing.
Beside that, an other problem began to emerge. I HAD ABSOLUTELY NO PRACTICAL KNOWLEDGE. This is not only a problem for young employees to find a first decend job, but also to pick up girls.
Met some new girls ( friends of me already know them ). But not in a dating way. One girl was trying to hit on me, she was hot but I didn't do a thing because a friend was trying to hit her ( STUPID ME, HE DIDN'T STAND A CHANCE WITH HER AND HE KNEW ). And so the story goes on and on.
I'm now 25, still a virgin, still an afc. I'm learing a lot on this site and other ebooks. I finally begin to understand why this is all happening.
I may not have expierence, but I know I can help a lot of you just by telling my story to prevent the rest from doing the same stupid things.
* Live today, yesterday is the past and is definitely over. The past will follow you, but you can't chance that, so stop putting energy into it, tomorrow is the future, but is still a mystery, SO LIVE TODAY, live every day like it was your last day on this planet.
* Waiting for the right moment, ... that probably never will come. The only right moment is now. I have waited to much in my life. I once saw a wonderfull girl, i thought by myself, I want to talk to her, but first catch a beer, go to the toilet, and wait some more. By the time I was ready to go over and talk to her, but guess what, she was gone never to be seen again.
* Don't take a girlfriend to impress someone or to fit in, just take one when you are ready for one.
* Never ever let go a good opportunity
Sincerely
First of all, let me make one thing clear. I'm no deejay, even it is mentioned below my screen name. I'm not the person who can get every girl he wanted and gets laid several times a week.
In fact, I'm an afc who wants to share his story, which can be very usefull to several of you guys. It is a rather long story, but it is very interesting so I recommended that you take a drink and continue to read. As I already said, I'm no master at seduction, but I'm the master of blowing chances. Hope you learn something from it.
During my childhood, I haven't got many friends. We moved when I was 9, I didn't know anyone in this new town or school. Kids saw me as an intruder and I was standing all by myself with nobody to play or even talk with.
I'm 16
By the time I was 16, I got some good friends and started to go out in the weekends to some party's.
Not me, nore my friends were interested in girls by that time. I was very playfull and not aware of too many things by that time.
None of us had ever kissed a girl, but hell what, we didn't care. We just go out to have fun, to dance, to jump to the beat, drink some beers ( rather occasionaly then ). When we came home at about 2 O'clock, we were tired but had had a good time.
At school, I got letters from some hot girls, but I let them slip away one by one. Why??? Well, I never had a girl interested in me and then all of a suddon I couldn't figure out why they would be interested in me. It must be a joke. I have very little self confidence and I'm afraid of succes.
I'm 18
Just like all the friends, I haven't got any girlfriend, not even kissed one.
No problem I thought. I'm young enough, my time will come no matter what.
I'm 19
When I was 19 I went to a new school were I met a guy. It was the first time I had a friend who had a girlfriend. This had to be the first time that I realised that I missed something. He took me out along with his girlfriend and some of her friends. This was the time I first totally freezed. I didn't know anything to say. At the end of that evening one of the girlfriends starts to kiss me, and that made it all worse. I didn't know what to do and because it was the first kiss, I felt in love head over heels. Acting even more like an AFC. The "relationship" started end ended with that kiss.
2 months later, the guy and his girlfriend broke up. We became best friends and he went out with us ( me and my friends from when I was 16 ) every week.
We made a pact that the one of us who first find a girlfriend would help the other. This must be the first time I actually approached girls to talk with. But never with succes ( I talked too much, too many questions and the subjects were dull, like weather, school, ... )
At the end of that year he met a girl on the chat. The night before he was going to meet her he said. I have a date tomorrow with someone who could become the girl of my dreams. Next day he got her as girlfriend.
The next months they arranged some dates for me.
My opinion now on these dates
By the time I was 20, I thought all the idea of arranged dates was wonderfull. But when I thing about it now, it really sucked. An arranged date is too forced. They expect you to become friends/lovers. I blew it with all the girls. Problem with dates is that you really don't know them. If you haven't seen someone, there is always the chance that you don't think she is attactive or just don't like her.
I also had some dates with girls from the internet. Neither of them worked out in any way. I always thought then, it is because of the girls, but I now know better. I was acting like an afc the all time. Not only that, but I also didn't wear any decent clothes, my hear wasn't always that nice looking.
But even more important. By that time I was only trying to get a girlfriend to fit in. I had to have a girlfriend because my best friend had one. It's like a child that want a playstation because his friend has one. I was searching because of some sort of jealousy ( VERY BAD ADVICE GIVER ) instead of my heart. I'm very happy that he has found a very good girl ( he lived togheter with her now and is going to marry by the end of the year ) but I was by that time also sad because that I stayed behind.
Other dating
I decide not to do any dates anymore like mentioned in the previous story.
As I became a little older ( 21 - 23 ) there were some significant changes in my social live, but just the virgin thing has remained.
I was studying at the university, had a lot more friends, but also lost some old friends. I start to talk to strange girls, but it was never more that a cold approach. FEAR OF REJECTION was too big, When I didn't tried, I didn't get rejected so I didn't do a thing.
Beside that, an other problem began to emerge. I HAD ABSOLUTELY NO PRACTICAL KNOWLEDGE. This is not only a problem for young employees to find a first decend job, but also to pick up girls.
Met some new girls ( friends of me already know them ). But not in a dating way. One girl was trying to hit on me, she was hot but I didn't do a thing because a friend was trying to hit her ( STUPID ME, HE DIDN'T STAND A CHANCE WITH HER AND HE KNEW ). And so the story goes on and on.
I'm now 25, still a virgin, still an afc. I'm learing a lot on this site and other ebooks. I finally begin to understand why this is all happening.
I may not have expierence, but I know I can help a lot of you just by telling my story to prevent the rest from doing the same stupid things.
* Live today, yesterday is the past and is definitely over. The past will follow you, but you can't chance that, so stop putting energy into it, tomorrow is the future, but is still a mystery, SO LIVE TODAY, live every day like it was your last day on this planet.
* Waiting for the right moment, ... that probably never will come. The only right moment is now. I have waited to much in my life. I once saw a wonderfull girl, i thought by myself, I want to talk to her, but first catch a beer, go to the toilet, and wait some more. By the time I was ready to go over and talk to her, but guess what, she was gone never to be seen again.
* Don't take a girlfriend to impress someone or to fit in, just take one when you are ready for one.
* Never ever let go a good opportunity
Sincerely
