Some of you guys assume wayy too much IMO

[619joe]

This flaking bull**** you guys talk about is just like I agree with it for the most part like to next if she keeps puttin stuff off

But if you call her one day and ask to do stuff the next day,SHE ACTUALLY MIGHT BE DOING SOMETHING OR MIGHT ALREADY HAVE SOMETHING PLANNED!I find it funny how you next some girls just because of that.

If she does it constantly,then yeah next her.But not because of something like that IMO.

 

[ezily]

well here's the thing I think. If you call to do something for the next day and she says she has something planned, then find out when she is free (but make sure she knows that it is because you are free, thus you remain in control) and set something right then. Don't call back in a few days because then it'll be something else she has planned. If she doesn't want to set something up then next her. Also, if she doesn't return your 2nd call next her. I almost want to say that if she doesn't return a call after you leave a voice message then next but I usually give the benefit of the doubt. So no message the second time and no return call then next. There's no way she didn't get the calls.

 

[619joe]

Yeah true thats exactly what I mean.

Some guys I have seen just go overboard with the flaking and just NEXT too easily.I do agree that setting up at that moment for future would be ideal though good point.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Well otoh, as the prize, should you really try to make time for those who cant make time for you? If she is truly interested, perhaps she will reinitiate contact or reschedule? Why should it matter to me if I am already off to the races looking for the next chick?

 

[Bigdavis]

In my experience if she likes you she'll rearrange her schedule to see you. Also if she really has something she can't get out of she'll tell you what it is and try her best to let you know she's available for some other time. Girls have their ways of letting you know they want you.

 

[Birdem]

Man if a girl really likes you she will climb mountains for you. Obviously her plans are more important than hanging out with you. If she does have something very very important to do she will apologize and feel bad why she has to go. In most cases tell me when a girl might have something extremely important to do than hang out with me? If a girl flakes out on you it just means that you aren't the number 1 thing on her mind. If she really likes you she will be sleeping with the phone. If she flakes on you once with a stupid reason, she will always know she can do it again because you are gullible.

 

[tsmith2334]

I agree that flaking is usually overstated. It's perfectly reasonable to have other things to do on your schedule, commitments or to just want girl time.

The underlying concept of this site is to NOT live you're life around a particular woman, so why is it reasonable to expect a female to constantly drop everything she is doing for you? That's not a healthy mentality for a man or woman to have.

 

[Reborn]

Nexting girls that easy is a phase I think most people go through. People are used to accepting every excuse as an afc, then they come here and learn to say no. They end up going too far until they can balance this again and look on overall signs of interest.

It's all good, need to crawl before you can walk.

 

[Bigdavis]

Go ahead and "next" whoever you want to. If she likes you enough she won't let you go. Then you'll have her where you want her.

 

[tsmith2334]

Nexting girls that easy is a phase I think most people go through. People are used to accepting every excuse as an afc, then they come here and learn to say no. They end up going too far until they can balance this again and look on overall signs of interest.

It's all good, need to crawl before you can walk.

I went through that phase a couple years and trust me, you usually end up wishing those girls you nexted still gave two sh1ts about you.

It's not smart to abuse your nexting power on girls, especially for dumb reasons, liek they want to hang out with their girlfriends for a night.

 

[Interceptor]

Always maintain at the very least friendly terms with all women in your past, and present.
Leave it up to them to decide if they want to be estranged or hostile or whatever.

Try to avoid burning bridges.

Nexting is only for women who are abusive, negative, thieves, and extremely immature because of poor charcter and poor emotional development
Those women are draining. Emotional vampires, excessively dramatic, and parasitic. Thes are the ones you next.
A girl that flakes, doesn't return calls/texts/messages is simply put on the back burner, and you use your Personal Boundary to protect yourself and LOWER your IL in her, and especially your own Emotional INVESTEMENT, This is CRUCIAL! Extremely important for men to learn how to do.

You do not get angry at her.
You do not expect GF behavior, such as loyalty or constant affection and attention. Those are her gifts to you, if she chooses to give them to you!

You let her do her thing, and you do yours.
No animosity or anger, hostility or grudges.

Women WILL flake on us. It will happen.
Women WILL not return your calls or messages.
IT HAPPENS.
Women can go from hot to cold, confusing us.


They key thing is to not let it control you.


Do not waste your precious emotional energy on a woman whom at that certain point in time is not returning your interest.
Keep her number/email and at some point in the future, attempt to re connect if you want.

Keep your power, and your options open.
This is being shrewd.

It is not bad or stupid to keep your options open if you're a mature man who loves female companionship, and enjoys women genuinely.



And it does not serve you any purpose to put yourself in a postion where they have easy access to your resources.