Some Friendships are hard to maintain when becoming a DJ

[ntdawg]

Obviously the reform from AFC to DJ is a considerable change to ones lifestyle, ideals, morals, attitude and thinking.

I have spent the last 3 months working hard on improving myself and I am starting to see the rewards. I feel as though I have changed so much that I would hardly recongise myself from 6 - 12 months ago. I am by no means a MDJ yet but the improvements and success have inspired me to continue my journey and I look forward to being the person who I will be 12 months from now.

Inner game is so important not only for success with women but for success in life. They should gice DJ classes at High School!!! My life at 27 would be much better if they did.

I have found there is a very small and slight negative to all this gain. There are now some people in my life who I feel I can't relate to very well any more. For example my AFC buddies remind me of how I was and I don't think that I get along with them as well any more.

I also had to vanish a LJBF case from my life as she was a living walking talking proof of my old AFC behaviour (it was because of her I found this site). I didn't like how she still treated me like the AFC which she knew while being totally oblivious to the 'new me'. For some reason I am more confident without her around.

Can anyone relate to this? Do you think this is a normal occurance when making such a transistion?

 

[KontrollerX]

Yeah I've heard this happen for several other DJ's here.

Also I read a post a while back where someone wisely said that even when you're a DJ your old AFC psychology often returns when around ex girlfriends so best to remove all of those people from your life and start completely new since as a DJ you are a new man anyway and as such its probably good to have a clean slate with new associates who won't bring you down by reminding you of who you were but supporting who you are now because thats all of you that they know.

 

[Taviii]

Do what KontrollerX said or do what I did: I introduced my friends to the seduction community and to this forum

And although they don't post here often they know the rules by which DJs live and I still have with who to sarge

 

[Tomatoes]

When i started the transition. I started to look at the world in a diffrent perspctive. I started looking at situations and reading results. Although the change on my personal life has been emense. My social life has not changed greatly. I have realised more who are true friends and who are not. However i still have some friends who are AFC and i will not rid myself of them.....Purley for the reason that they make me feel better about me. When we are in a group. Im the Alpha.....I know it......Some of them know it......

As for the ladies side of things. I had already fully broken contact from my oneitis before i followed the DJ path. However it has brought a higher sense of self confidence and value to myself

 

[ntdawg]

It's Funny that I have this positive secret

When I told the LJBF girl that I wasn't interested in hanging out with her any more she couldn't understand why. she thought I'm being irrational and stupid and wouldn't accept the fact that I have cut ties. (She likes to beleive that one day we'll be best friends again)

I wanted to tell her that she doesn't fit in my DJ way of life but you obviously can't say that. Oh well you win some you lose some. I will endeavour to send her a thankyou card when I feel as though I have made MDJ status as she indirectly inspired me to get the ball rolling.

Good point about the AFC dudes. They serve as a reference point from where I started. I can always look at them to see how much I have improved. I do owe them the privilege of knowing of this material.

It;s funny that DJ's almost live in secret. So many guys are totally blind to DJism which serves to make the knowledgable stronger. So many guys have absolutely no idea why some guys get the girls. I'm glad I'm one of the guys that know why only some of the guys get all the girls.

 

[Cloud-uk]

I attribute my ex-AFCness to my old 'friends', not the girls. Those *******s kept me down and I'm glad I ditched them a long time ago. Have the conviction and courage to realise you own no one anything, least of all your time. If they want to play for your team keep them, if they're just stifling you let them go.