Solutions for being intimidated because a girl gets laid by lots of guys

[Last_straw]

So here's what's up. I sort of work with a girl I have the hots for (and by sort of I mean I maybe work with her once every 2 weeks). I was prepared to ask her out over a month ago but then she stopped getting shifts. Well now she's back and I see her once in a while. I want to ask her out but I'm kind of intimidated since I walked into a convo she was having about her love life. Apparently she's talking with multiple guys and getting the best sex of her life. And I'm not getting any sex or seeing multiple girls (though I may have picked up 1 plate, we'll how things progress this week). Anyway I don't think I have a chance of confidentally asking her out while I'm intimidated like this. Solutions guys?

 

[Scars]

This girl sounds like a h0 so I hope you have no intention of dating her. Talking about lots of men, especially sex with them is a huge turn off and red flag for me.

Keeping that in mind, you have no reason to let this girl intimidate you. Just keep reminding yourself that this girl is trash. This is a girl that needs constant validation in order to feel good about herself. This girl is probably more insecure then you are. Her attitude and tough exterior is just a front. So you have to jump into the situation knowing that. A good technique I use is just to remind myself of things like that. It makes me not only FEEL like I'm better than her, I KNOW I'm better than her. My attitude, persona, how I talk, and act changes. They can see my confidence, because it is GENUINE. It's really. I don't have to put people down through words. I just show higher value by my "swagger" I guess you could say. Attacking this girl or exposing her flaws or insecurities is not how you're going to lay her. But just remember these things. This girl is an attention ***** so she needs to be dealt with like one. Take the situation for what it is. Play your cards right long enough to bang her, then get rid of her as quickly as possible. I don't know where your level of gaming is at, but for the inexperienced I usually recommend avoiding girls like this. They're no good. But if you think you can tap it, go for it. Just remember not to get sucked in.

Good luck.

-Scars

 

[Maxtro]

Without knowing all the circumstances of the conversation it's kind of hard to judge her.

I'm actually kind of going through the same thing with the girl I'm interested in. I know she's seeing one other guy but I don't know how serious it is. One day I looked at her Facebook then I saw one guy saying that he enjoyed her company last evening and another who's looking forward to seeing her. If I include myself in there, then this chick is hanging out with at least three guys. She has been very tactful and has not told me about other guys. She also avoids answering questions about what she does on the weekend.

The first feeling that comes to mind is that I'm jealous of her. I wish I was having dates with two other girls in addition to her. It's also kind of upsetting that other guys have priority over me.

I guess the best thing to to is just not think about it. And to also limit my exposure to the information about her life. I'm also thinking about deleting her from Facebook since I'm too tempted to look at her page. If she didn't friend me, we wouldn't be FB friends.

 

[Last_straw]

Yeah I'm trying not to judge her since I know she was in a really long relationship with a boring guy not too long ago. I figure she's just trying to have fun, though she may be having a bit too much (but again not judging).

I don't see her as gf material, not because she's getting fvcked alot, but because she has little motivation in life (I'm picky, I want the whole package as a gf, and I know I'm the complete package so not settling for less).

I'll try to just change my thought process. I know I'll be much more confident once I lay my new plate later this week. I guess I also have issues when a girl dates more guys than just me, I'm trying to get over that too since I'm trying to date multiple girls.

 

[Plinco]

Be patient, don't worry about her too much, go after some other girls, and when you feel like it, talk to her. When you talk to her you should feel good and comfortable, and you should not care about her that much as you talk to her. If she is not interested: fantastic! smile and walk away.

 

[Ambition Now]

I think the problem is on the values the we are being fed on...

Nowadays a slvt is perceived as a powerfull character on our society (thanks a lot lady gagas and britney spears) due to their power of obtaining easy sex from the men they want, but seriously, do you really think this is a valuable virtue?

Of course you would like to have the power to have sex with any girl you wanted, but if that was your ONLY quality, how would you feel about yourself?

Dont sell out your values just because society thinks its cool, f*ck that, if this chick is all about sexual experience, then she is NOT a quality girl and you shouldnt feel insecure about your sex skills, if she cant appreciate other qualities in you, than she is the one that should be disqualified.

 

[Poonani Maker]

The ONLY solution is to bang more girls than any of her boyfriends have. She will notice you then.

 

[Last_straw]

The ONLY solution is to bang more girls than any of her boyfriends have. She will notice you then.

Easier said than done my friend. I'm currently banging zero women. I did meet this new girl last week and will probably bang her in the next week or so, but she's the first girl to be interested in me in 6-7 months.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Easier said than done my friend. I'm currently banging zero women. I did meet this new girl last week and will probably bang her in the next week or so, but she's the first girl to be interested in me in 6-7 months.

I'm currently banging more women than any dude in my social circle. The women in my social circle pick up on that like you'd pick up the smell of fresh sh!t from a nearby dog. It's just OBVIOUS to them. It's harming relationships between girlfriend and boyfriend, and newlyweds within my social circle. I'm seen as the baddest guy in the group. I feel kind of bad about it, because these guys are my friends, but they're just too goody good. They're living righteously. I'm not. I wouldn't even really want the women they have though, my friends as well, and it hurts the girls to know I wouldn't have nothing to do with them. I live a double life and they sense it, I believe. If they knew how I treated these women (like Sh!t, never calling or seeing them again), they would not want me.

 

[Prodigy746]

why would u even want a girl that brags how many gusy shes having sex with ???????????

 

[Last_straw]

why would u even want a girl that brags how many gusy shes having sex with ???????????

Because she's hot with this amazing tight little azz. And she wasn't walking around bragging, she was quietly talking to one if her girlfriends (I just happened to have amazing hearing and couldn't help hearing them). Your a fool if you think girls don't talk about their dating life, even the sweet, seemly lady like girls talk about their sexual antics.

 

[terran2k]

Last straw, don't ignore red flags. I've done it, overlooked red flags in favor of the girls looks and I ended up paying in the end.

 

[Maxtro]

Because she's hot with this amazing tight little azz. And she wasn't walking around bragging, she was quietly talking to one if her girlfriends (I just happened to have amazing hearing and couldn't help hearing them). Your a fool if you think girls don't talk about their dating life, even the sweet, seemly lady like girls talk about their sexual antics.

That's exactly the situation I thought it was.

It's not a red flag. It's something that ALL girls do.

Too bad most of the posts are addressing the fact that he overheard it and think that she was loudly talking having a group conversation. That's very different from a chick quietly talking to her girlfriend.

 

[Donnie Darko]

Rejection is better than regret.

Don't be a pvssy! Be a man and go after what you want!