Social proof important or no?

MiGuelS

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What is your guys experience when going to partys w/out any? here is a situation like in a week i'm going to a party where only know 2 people. Most of them will be at least 3 years older then me but i could care less about that but heres the problem my bros place is small its a 2 bedrooms condo and thiers going to be like 10-15 people their. what kind of approach do you guys take when you know nobody?
 

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The next time I'm at a party I don't know, I'm dropping this line.

Hey! How's it going?
blah.
What you doing here?
blah, you?
Well, everytime I come to a party, I have to meet everyone. Where's yoru friends.

And off I go. I'm running that. I might even do that later on in a club....*gets ideas*..
 

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Social proof isn't important to me because I live in a large City and I rarely ever see the same people twice when I am out on the town, it is much more important if you live in a small town where you see the same people everywhere you go.
 

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Social proof makes things easier.

Say you're going to buy a car. You're in doubt which car you get. Then a friend comes and say X car is amazing! Does not break easily, has great gas mileage and awesome engine power.

You may not hurry to buy the car X, but you surely see it in a new perspective.
 

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If nobody likes you, knows you, or even wants to talk to you, why should she?

If her friends don't like you, why should she like you?
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Snow Plowman

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Don't depend on people to make you go into state. Your best bet is to actually go by yourself and start going to parties by yourself whenever you get the chance. You will develop such a stronger inner game that when you do go out with friends it is way easier.

I used to be with friends 24/7, but after awhile I actually went out alone and realized I'm more in state when I'm alone than if I was with my friends. I used to use friends as a serious crutch and I was conscious of it too.
 

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Snow Plowman said:
Don't depend on people to make you go into state. Your best bet is to actually go by yourself and start going to parties by yourself whenever you get the chance. You will develop such a stronger inner game that when you do go out with friends it is way easier.

I used to be with friends 24/7, but after awhile I actually went out alone and realized I'm more in state when I'm alone than if I was with my friends. I used to use friends as a serious crutch and I was conscious of it too.
You are right.:yes:
 

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I'm with Snow Plowman, I always wanted friends around. I'm trying to find the courage to go by myself to clubs and parties. It may take me a while.
 

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B-Real said:
I'm with Snow Plowman, I always wanted friends around. I'm trying to find the courage to go by myself to clubs and parties. It may take me a while.
I've never really gone to a club by myself...but I will on many occassions just go out onto the dance floor and jam. I'm a dancer and just dancing is good drill work for me...gets your nervous system reacting well to the beat, etc. Plus its good cardio!

I find when I do this... I pretty much always have girls approaching me. One time (I was fairly inebriated on a number pharmacoactive compounds) I had a cougar go up my shirt...right in front of her bf/husband from the back....yes she used the "freak from behind" technique on me...amateurs! :D Later that evening I remember high fiving the dude! haha! Same night... I had HB8.0 come up to me and ask me to dance... I find the girls that have the confidence to initiate contact w/ me on the dance floor are generally HOT. Atleast HB7. Even last night, I was out w/ a friend, just wingmanning for him, and I had ample interest from a couple of HB7.5s...He didn't give the "execute" order, so we didn't attempt a pick up, but there was ample eye contact, occassional touching and good proximity. Later that night I had a HB7.0 grab my ass twice in rapid succession, before I called her on it. I have a gf so I wasn't interested.

So...I guess that's a tip for you guys...just go onto the floor and jam by urself...let the chicas come to YOU!
 
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