I agree wholeheartedly with Jackman. Excellent post man.
To add to it:
You're problem isn't necessarily a social phobia if you function well with other people. Your problem is a belief you carry that is sucking the life out of you. You carry within you a belief that beauty somehow represents POWER, and the more beautiful a person is, the more power they have. This belief then filtrates into YOU because you see girls as a thing of BEAUTY and you are NOT. That means that you are automatically assessing girls with the POWER.
It's a damaging belief. It's a paralyzing belief. And the solution doesn't lie in seduction material. The solution lies in CHANGING YOUR BELIEF!
Why don't you take on this new belief:
Beauty is only skin deep. Beauty is not power. Power comes from dedication, commitment, hard work, and willingness to rise above our failures and make them into successes. NOBODY knows how to do that more than me. I have failed and failed and failed and failed, but everytime I fail I get back up. Everytime I got knocked down, I rise back up and move a little farther forward. Because of this drive, because of this determination, *I* am the prize. *I* am somebody to be respected. I am POWERFUL. In every day, in every way I am getting stronger and stronger. Beautiful people don't have this drive because everything is handed to them. I, on the other, possess this drive and I possess the POWER. She is only human. She eats, breaths, pees, and has needs just like I. Who does she think she is?
Take that paragraph and repeat it to yourself over and over. Print it out (or make up your own and print it out) and make it the first thing you read when you get out of bed. REad it when you eat. Read it when you go to the bathroom. For WEEKS and WEEKS, live that belief and you will internalize.
Watch and see if your nervousness doesn't go away. Watch and see if you don't feel more and more confident. And then, you take another baby step, once you've internalized that belief. You APPROACH. You get ACTIVE. You create and define your own world exactly the way you want it and you only bring the people YOU want into that world.
Trust me, the power of your mind in conjunction with ACTION is extremely powerful and can affect MAJOR changes in your life. But you have to be dilligent. You have to work at it. You can't just sit back and do nothing. You've got to actively seek out ways to better yourself. If that paragraph isn't enough, then do MORE. Go hit the self-help section at your local bookstore and start reading. Join a club or play a sport and get active. Start an exercise regime, even if it's only 15 minutes a day. YOU CAN SPARE 15 MINUTES!
There is no one solution here. You've got to do as many different things as you can. Start meditating. Get yourself into a habit of getting into a relaxed state every day and then draw on that relaxation when you are in an uncomfortable situation.
I know it's not an easy road, but you can do it if you really want to man.
Good luck.