Social media blocking - Yes or no

[Aesthetix29]

Okay after breaking up with my ex 9 days ago I blocked her on Facebook but I'm now regretting it as I think it makes me look weak and pathetic. I've just read an article which is saying too the opposite.... Now I can see the value of NC for the people that are really hurting but for me I'm not hurting and just want the power back in my court and I've already blocked her... Which I'm wishing that I hadnt. The fact she dumped me over text, it was my pride that was hurt not my heart as we hadn't been together long enough etc... Do you think I should unblock her.... How can I turn this round in my favour?

 

[SeymourCake]

Leave her blocked and go mingle with new people.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

I don't know how old you are, but I'm going to go ahead and assume you're in your 20s. Now, imagine a version of yourself in the future, let's say twenty years from today, and this "you" has tasted every flavor of woman from every destination known to man with the exception of Fiji (too remote) and North Korea (still trapped in a Communist bubble). Now imagine this guy, you, could travel back in time to offer his two pennies on your current predicament. How much time do you suppose he'd spend helping you trying to figure this out:

How can I turn this round in my favour?

In other words, keep her @ss blocked, graduate from the petty world of "what does my ex think of me? How can I regain my power over her?" train of thought, leave her in the dust and go live a memorable life.

 

[SmooveMooves]

It does make you look weak and pathetic. I don't know why guys continue to do it and advise others should do so. Blocking a chick on social media is like saying: You hurt me so bad I can't stand the site of you!

See how gay that sounds?

With that being said you can't "un-block" her. That's even gayer. Just move on, spin some plates and when the next chick pisses you off, just delete her contact info and move on. Blocking her on FB won't do you any good unless your gift of free-will to IGNORE her posts is shot.

 

[Aesthetix29]

It does make you look weak and pathetic. I don't know why guys continue to do it and advise others should do so. Blocking a chick on social media is like saying: You hurt me so bad I can't stand the site of you!

See how gay that sounds?

With that being said you can't "un-block" her. That's even gayer. Just move on, spin some plates and when the next chick pisses you off, just delete her contact info and move on. Blocking her on FB won't do you any good unless your gift of free-will to IGNORE her posts is shot.

f*** sake! That's he last thing I needed... Maybe she hasn't noticed haha!

 

[christoff522]

I'm with between the lines, what matters is not what she thinks about you but what you think about you. Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things whether you block some girl on facebook or keep her on? It's irrelevant, she's junk to you so you kicked her @ss to the curb. If it makes you feel better unblock her and leave her deleted - but really it doesn't matter. Thing long term not short term, if blocking her helps you move on then GOOD, just make sure you do move on.

 

[KingBeef]

Personally, it doesn't really matter whether you block her or not. Some people block their ex's for several reasons....some of them can't handle the reality of seeing that person again, too much of a distraction, etc. The real question is "WHY DO YOU CARE? WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME WITH THIS?

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Just do what I did and deactivate your Facebook for a while. I was debating the same thing as you in February, and I just decided I needed a break from social media for a few months. I'm at 2 months and counting now.

I advise you do the same, and maybe when you reactivate your account after a few months you can unblock her so it just looks like you didn't block just her, you "blocked" everyone in a way.

But really after a couple months, you won't care what she thinks of you because you will have allowed yourself to move on.

 

[El Payaso]

Who cares what she thinks? You're doing it for YOURSELF. That's all that matters.

 

[PipeDope]

Who cares what she thinks? You're doing it for YOURSELF. That's all that matters.

I can't agree more. It has nothing to do with how the girl feels. He's trying to move past the breakup. Actually a lot of times girls see this a means of you pushing them out of your life and they try even harder to get you back. Not a gay move at all smoovemoves

 

[Trump]

Okay after breaking up with my ex 9 days ago I blocked her on Facebook but I'm now regretting it as I think it makes me look weak and pathetic. I've just read an article which is saying too the opposite.... Now I can see the value of NC for the people that are really hurting but for me I'm not hurting and just want the power back in my court and I've already blocked her... Which I'm wishing that I hadnt. The fact she dumped me over text, it was my pride that was hurt not my heart as we hadn't been together long enough etc... Do you think I should unblock her.... How can I turn this round in my favour?

I don't know how you can get "power back in your court" when she already told you to go to hell via text. The only way was to tell her first. And blocking her does make you look petty and weak, but if you are that worried, just unblock her. She will probably forget about it in a week or so if something significant happens on her life - so will you.

Sometimes I think everyone on sosuave is absolutely loaded when they bring problems like this to the site. Most people have issues with mortgage, rent, food, water, health, job. But bro you must be pretty loaded to have these problems, it's like they say "rich people problems."

 

[Yewki]

Okay after breaking up with my ex 9 days ago I blocked her on Facebook but I'm now regretting it as I think it makes me look weak and pathetic.

Facebook in general makes you look weak and pathetic :crackup:

 

[GS750]

It does make you look weak and pathetic. I don't know why guys continue to do it and advise others should do so. Blocking a chick on social media is like saying: You hurt me so bad I can't stand the site of you!

See how gay that sounds?

With that being said you can't "un-block" her. That's even gayer. Just move on, spin some plates and when the next chick pisses you off, just delete her contact info and move on. Blocking her on FB won't do you any good unless your gift of free-will to IGNORE her posts is shot.

I respect your opinion, but I disagree. It could say a lot of things. But in my opinion who really gives a sh*t what she thinks? This girl dumped him by text, which is an a55hole move. She doesn't deserve the time of day from him. No Contact means none. No texting, phone calls, emails, Skype, social media, etc. And checking out her Facebook page here and there will only lead to more looking. Which will not help.

 

[old married dude]

Facebook in general makes you look weak and pathetic :crackup:

I pretty much agree, social media is an addiction for women and a haven for their beta orbiters.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

I pretty much agree, social media is an addiction for women and a haven for their beta orbiters.

Some of the greedier women do peruse facebook profiles like shopping for clothes or food. So it's not a bad idea to have a good facebook profile.

 

[VladPatton]

Facebook in general makes you look weak and pathetic :crackup:

^^This.

 

[devilkingx2]

unless you're trying to bang her, her friends or her family, who gives a flying f*** what she thinks of you?

and if you want to get her back(for whatever reason), NC for a few weeks to a month or two is probably the perfect first step

 

[devilkingx2]

Sometimes I think everyone on sosuave is absolutely loaded when they bring problems like this to the site. Most people have issues with mortgage, rent, food, water, health, job. But bro you must be pretty loaded to have these problems, it's like they say "rich people problems."

well to be fair this isn't exactly a money management and accounting forum

 

[Aesthetix29]

Okay so I've just managed too box myself a date off with a HB7 next weekend! This is a girl I met on a night a few weeks back was pursuing me but I didn't back due too being in a relationship, she's younger than me in fact 9 years younger but still gonna see how it goes... What do you think? And about the ex, yes I still like her it she made her choice for whatever reason not exactly sure what.... Although I was going over the last few days in my head last night to see if I missed any signs, couldn't reallly cone up with any apart from she wasn't that emotionally invested. Even her messages just a few days before was like 'Morning babyyyyyyy' etc... Either way she's made her choice and seems happy with it. In the finishing text message she mentioned that she wasn't as ready for full on relationship as she thought she was!

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

You should never block.I have ex unblocked, then blocked, then finally I decided to unblock and leave it this way.Why ? Because she is not that important to be on my block list.And if she contacts I may answer or not answer it doesnt matter anymore.
You must erase her from memory and it means return to state before you knew her - she was a stranger.Why would you block some random stranger ?