jeffthechef said:
purely a numbers game
an afc can attempt 1000 and only get 100
a dj can attempt 100 and only get 1
there are no magical ratios...but it's common sense
whoever approaches more...gets more...
and rejection doesn't mean ****
think of it like a pinball game...you bounch and hit a bumper...you just bounce off...and collect some experience points...the only time you lose is when you stop doing anything and you let the ball drop...
I'd have to disagree. Yes rejection doesn't mean ****, but if you approach more (and I mean in terms of thinking it as a numbers game - like above 30) , especially at your high school, you'd probably get a bad reputation as a sleaze or a guy just looking for an easy lay, which will ****block you in future attempts. You can get the same experience and results from approaching five girls and failing - but carefully analyzing what you did wrong and how to rectify it and learning from it - as approaching 50 girls at your high school just doing one routine after another. You can't look at it like World of Warcraft or something - where each girl you approach is like a monster you kill that gives you X amount of experience. Yes,
eventually you'll subconsciously pick up on social cues and get desenitized through massive trial and error, but you would have wasted a ton of time.
On the other hand, I suggest doing approaches out in public places where if you happen to make yourself look like a ch0de you'll never see or hear from that girl again.
And don't feel bad, a ton of guys in HS are having just as much trouble if not more trouble than you pulling girls. It's so ironically amusing that the guys you think would pull a lot of girls because of their social circle or status suffer from the exact same scenario that you're in.