So utterly mixed up

scordate

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well some of you will know my situation from previous threads about flaky woman and she who calls back late

bottom line is; we have met several times and there has been plenty of kino and flirting and I am mesmerized

she just is wonderfull and just 200 % LTR material

I have continued to get dates from online dating but they are pale in comparison with the ONE

even when I am online writing to PDO's from online dating I think about the ONE

oneitis oneitis GO AWAY !

I force myself to get other dates but it doesnt seem like the fun it should be

it really seems like its a tour de force with the one; who is going to be the first to surrender !

i have made the mistake of being too kind and nice and saying my feelings to other women before and I dont want to lose this one by doing the same

but it sure feels like all my emotions are bottled up, and the cork can burst at any moment
and I know that that must not happen !

so I keep it cool and funny and just let whatever happens happen

this forum has given me so much in terms of good ideas and how to 'perform'

/ scordate
 

milesman

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Hey I know. Sometimes it sucks to have to run the game right?? After awhile you just want to spill all the beans and let her know how much you enjoy being with her/want her etc! I'm the same way and it's rediculous that (most of the time) we can't be up front with our feelings. Whatever the reason it flips a switch in women and they FLEE! Try saturating a girl who likes you (that you're not afraid of losing) with attention and watch what happens.I guess patience and self control is the best advice I can give.

With me just getting back into this, I've been running some little tests. Flirting with girls who show obvious attraction and are quick to give up their numbers. With two girls who had high IL, I waited a day and a half to call (got # on mon, called weds night) and we had brief, pleasant conversation but when I asked them to join me out, they both started to play games. One in essence stood me up, the other first agreed to a sunday meeting but 5 minutes later said she "didn't know" without counteroffering. I let there be dead air for about 5 seconds and just said, "ok have a nice night" and you could hear the shock in her voice. The next number I got I waited 4 days and had no resistance for the date. And I think this kind of mentality has to carry throughout your relationship.

I'm attractive and still face nonsense if I rush. All the 5982167 posts on here about mystery and staying busy are true. Unfortunate that it has to be but it is.
 

DJohnson

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Get yourself a gir"friend" with emphesis on friend. A girl who doesn't mind you seeing other girls, in fact encourages and doesnt mind letting you talk to her about it. She doesn't have to be gorgeous even. I don't need to do this anymore but before I had developed more, it was helpful to have that kind of girl that I could both have sex with and treat as a best friend and STILL see other women without her caring. Is there a "community" term for this type of girl yet?
 

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Originally posted by DJohnson
Get yourself a gir"friend" with emphesis on friend. A girl who doesn't mind you seeing other girls, in fact encourages and doesnt mind letting you talk to her about it. She doesn't have to be gorgeous even. I don't need to do this anymore but before I had developed more, it was helpful to have that kind of girl that I could both have sex with and treat as a best friend and STILL see other women without her caring. Is there a "community" term for this type of girl yet?
its called a stage girl
 
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