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So today, I had a revelation

neghitzbrah

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So today, on the way back from work. I was cold approached on the streets. Now this has happened to me many times in the past, but not since I've started practicing my DJing and literally changed my whole wardrobe. I was wearing a leather jacket with a dark blue polo shirt, dark jeans, black shoes, my nice ass watch and necklace (which I get lots of compliments on). Felt pretty DJ

So I looked at this from a different perspective. I took a different role in this scenario. Lemme break it down:

HB7: Excuse me
Negz: (takes off headphones) Hey, what's up? -- felt kind of skeptical
HB7: Oh, how nice of you to take off your headphones :smile:
She introduces herself, then I could tell she's one of those charity donations people.
Negz: Hi HB7, my name is Negz. -- at this point I was totally comfortable and knew what was going down. You see, normally I would be on the opposite end of the spectrum, but in this case she was. EVEN THOUGH her intentions were for a donation, it's still the same game.

She continues to ask where I'm from, and I answer her questions one-worded.. but then she starts asking me opinionated and open-ended questions. Smart move!

HB7: So how do you like the city?
Negz: I love it! It's great not to need a car and stuff blah blah blah
HB7: That's cool, I wanna move into the city some day
Negz: Where do you live?
HB7: I live in ___. It's nice there but it's not as great because I need a car to get around
Negz: Wait, you do realize that that's in the city haha
-- I was so comfortable because I didn't even think twice about asking for her number, flirting, etc... --
HB7: ::Laughs:: Yeah, but you live in ___ so that's a lot better
Negz: Actually, I live in ___ but work in ___.
HB7: Ohhhh
More fluff talk. At this point I start thinking, she never asked me for...
Negz: So HB8, what brings you into the city today?
HB7: Oh I'm working right now --she looks down and completely forgot about the donation stuff--
Negz: Haha, you forgot? What charity do you work for?
She laughed it off. Guess it was a dumb moment for her. She explains what kind of charity it was. I said that I was saving my money since I just moved. Then she continues to ask more questions.
Negz: I just moved from ___. Definitely not as fun as living in the city
HB7: What's it like living out there?
More fluff talk.

I thought I did pretty well. Held EC the whole time, made her feel comfortable and we continued to talk for a bit after I said no to the donation lol. She kept checking me out. Not just my style of clothing, but my posture/stance, hand gestures. My body language was perfect, I was screaming confidence, unintentionally.

Negz: You know, I have to say that if I had the money I would donate. You're really good at this because you have a lot of confidence and not afraid to approach strangers.
HB7: ::smiles: thank you, yeah I only started about a month ago. You seemed really nice because you actually took off your headphones to speak to me. No one really does that.
Negz: ::smiles:: That's cause I was having a good day. Well it was nice talking to you HB7, I gotta head out now
We shake hands and this HB7 doesn't let go for a while and continues smiling and talking. So wtf, was this her extreme gaming for donations or not. I would've # closed otherwise.

Whatever it was I didn't care during the convo, I felt no pressure. Just looked at it as a regular conversation. THIS is the right mindset to have when approaching people. Makes them feel comfortable and it eases the situation. I finally realized that this is what people mean when they say "don't go in expected an f or # close."
 
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Nutz

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neghitzbrah said:
Negz: ::smiles:: That's cause I was having a good day. Well it was nice talking to you HB7, I gotta head out now
We shake hands and this HB7 doesn't let go for a while and continues smiling and talking. So wtf, was this her extreme gaming for donations or not. I would've # closed otherwise.

Whatever it was I didn't care during the convo, I felt no pressure. Just looked at it as a regular conversation. THIS is the right mindset to have when approaching people. Makes them feel comfortable and it eases the situation. I finally realized that this is what people mean when they say "don't go in expected an f or # close."
Complete and utter bull****. This is what weak inner-game looks like fellas. There's no such thing as "I coulda..." You either do or you don't. Period. And if you don't then you just plain old fashioned wussed out.

Stop with the rationalizing and recognize you've got a problem son. Accepting it is the first step is solving it.
 

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rocket87 said:
OMG. you didn't # close her?

FAIL

Seriously!! He took the time to post all that for the noobs and show an example of to be in an interaction with a random girl and yet he doesn't number close.


Instead of talking about all this confidence and bling, you should be asking yourself IF your truly ARE confident because you couldn't number close when a girl was practically begging for you to ask for it and SHE APPROACHED YOU! Unbelievable!

Now I don't know your background, if your a RAFC or if you have approach issues, but you don't seem to convey any of that based on the above.

So what gives on you not closing???







PIMP
 

neghitzbrah

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That's tough love bros, but it's all true. I do have that problem. I am an rAFC as of a month ago. Recently broke up with my fiancée of 5.5 years so you can imagine how fvckin chump I became. Considering it's only been a month, I've done pretty good. But I know I have so much more potential and it's pissin me the fvck off. There is no next time anymore. It's gonna happen now. I'll update you guys

Why I didn't close? I pvssied out last minute. Simple as that.
 

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HolyG

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dude no lie, you probably broke that chick's heart when you walked off....she was all but begging for you to close her.

Get this into your mind...she WANTS you to close. The reason you're pussing it is cause you think she's just being nice.

If you have to ask yourself "is this girl attracted to me" She prob is.
 

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i feel you bro. I've had the same happen in the past. When i was working at my club about 2 years ago, working this Girl Talk concert for UPENN. She came bought a soda and was just chit chatting with me for 20 minutes at the bar. Even when i had to take care of customers she still waited there. She's was MAD FINE. I think i just had a revelation as well:

I'm not scared/afraid of rejection, i'm afraid of embarrassment/humiliation.
 

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ABC - Always Be Closing! It's the best acronym to help you remember. It's worth AT LEAST trying!! It's AT LEAST worth being lame and saying "Hey so you seem more interesting than other girls I've run in to here. Let's get coffee sometime."

Always
Be
Closing
 

neghitzbrah

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AAAgent said:
i feel you bro. I've had the same happen in the past. When i was working at my club about 2 years ago, working this Girl Talk concert for UPENN. She came bought a soda and was just chit chatting with me for 20 minutes at the bar. Even when i had to take care of customers she still waited there. She's was MAD FINE. I think i just had a revelation as well:

I'm not scared/afraid of rejection, i'm afraid of embarrassment/humiliation.
AAA, I'm starting to develop the attitude of assuming attraction and no longer questioning why this girl is talking to me. When I really think about it, there is no other reason for a girl to talk to you for >5 minutes.

rocket87 said:
ABC - Always Be Closing! It's the best acronym to help you remember. It's worth AT LEAST trying!! It's AT LEAST worth being lame and saying "Hey so you seem more interesting than other girls I've run in to here. Let's get coffee sometime."

Always
Be
Closing
Overlooked this when I read the game and a few articles. I'm gonna put it to the test from now on. Thanks Rocket


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How expensive was/is this wardrobe.

Intrigued.
Leather Jacket -- ex bought it for me, never wore it
Jeans -- express $50
Loafers -- $70
Watch -- $100
Necklace -- $10

Plus all the other shvt I bought, dropped a good $600 on new clothes/accessories. Practicing inner-game.. priceless
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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