So she wants to go out... what do i do?

[kev me723]

Alrite, I'll try to keep this as short as possible. Girl I am sort of 'with'. We have been hooking up regularly for about the last month. Recently, she has told me that she can't keep doing the friends w/ benefits thing cuz she feels sluttly. She made it obvious that she wants to go out w/ me. Last night, we were drinking and she actually got pretty drunk. She starts saying that I am using her and that I'm a man wh0re. She said that she thinks this stuff because we aren't going out. So I'm not really going to get any more from her unless we start goin out.

Well I am NOT a fan of relationships. The last one I was in I got cheated on and that thought has been messing w/ my head for almost a year now. I would be ok w/ going out with this girl, but now she just recently started talking to her ex-boyfriend, and he wants to hang out w/ her. I really don't kno what to think becuz I've been insecure about that sort of thing ever since the cheating incident. I know that this girl likes me a lot, but I really don't kno what to do. I don't want to start going out with her if she is going to hook up with her ex the next day. fvck

gentlemen, what are you opinions? Thanks for reading this and giving any advice/opinions

 

[Anomalous]

Either you tell her that you've been cheated on when you had a gf and that you don't want her to do the same. Make her promise that she won't cheat on you. IF SHE CHEATS DUMP HER A$$.

You can tell her that your not looking for a relationship. If sounds like she really wants a relationship more than she wants you. She is looking for a relationship, she wants affection. Thats why she's going back to her ex.

 

[kev me723]

that's a good point, that she might want a relationship now, so that's why there's the ex thing. The only other problem I have is, how do I tell her this stuff, like about me getting cheated on, with out me sounding like a puss who is complaining about my relationship problems?

 

[Anomalous]

This is gold.

You:I have to tell you something.
Her: what?

Tease her.

You:this is serious ok?
Her; ok
You:The reason why you not my gf right now is because,..............well..................I don't trust girls anymore.
her: what? what are talking about?
You:Well, my last gf and i,............she cheated on me........and i don't want to have to go through with that anymore.

Her:O i won't cheat on you
You: You promise?
Her: i promise
You: promise?
Her: promise
You: You promise you won't cheat on me?
Her: YES, i promise!!
You: thats 3 times you promised.
Her: your right.



OR

You:I have to tell you something.
Her: what?

Tease her.

You:this is serious ok?
Her; ok
You:The reason why you not my gf right now is because,..............well..................I don't trust girls anymore.
her: what? what are talking about?
You:Well, my last gf and i,............she cheated on me........and i don't want to have to go through with that anymore.
(if she doesn't say anything)You: if we go out are you going to cheat on me
Her:O i won't cheat on you
You: You promise?
Her: i promise
You: promise?
Her: promise
You: You promise you won't cheat on me?
Her: YES, i promise!!
You: thats 3 times you promised.
Her: your right.

 

[LikRetsam]

I do not particularly recommend the 'I got cheated on, can't trust anyone' declaration. Nor do I believe being in a relationship will change the fact that you are FBs.

 

[Porky]

don't take whyshy's advice.

making her "promise not to cheat on yoU" makes you seem like a pvssy, not to mention the fact that it's needless. If she wants to be your girlfriend, then she isn't going to cheat on you. that's implied.

stop living in the past. think about the present and quit basing your current decisions on your previous experiences.

 

[kev me723]

Yeah I really don't want to look like sum pus who is living in last year. The thing is, I don't think about it a lot ne more, but I know that that is the reason why in my head I tell myself I dont' want a relationship.

However, there is some new news here. We'll go back 2 prom last year. I sorta hooked up w/ a girl that's a year older than me. She is considered by some to be the hottest girl in my school (HB 9.4+ easily) But after prom she got back 2gether w/ her ex bf which was ok w/ me cuz I had other stuff 2 do neway.
Go foreward to about 3 weeks ago and she goes hey kev guess what? (BF's name) and I broke up. Then we had eyesex. Hardcore slutty eyesex.

So, last nite I'm talking to this girl and she's like so vb season's over it's time to party, u'd better be callin me up. Then later she was like seriously we should hang out soon.

Now I like this idea a lot, but if I start going out w/ girl A and I hang out with girl B, that involves ME doing the cheating. So what the hell am I supposed to do here. I didn't have this kind of success until like 2 months ago, so how to I handle all these women?? Thanks for the opinions boys