Trapmaster
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I've had people say "I'm not surprised". Do I really transmit it that much?
So this was a fairly recent realization though I've spent some time coming to terms with it. It's pretty liberating now, as what used to make me think, "Oh no, I'm being feminine!" now makes me think, "duh, I'm being feminine". I love using both sexual energies, I don't see why I have to choose!
So yeah, through accepting this I've come to accept myself as a whole a lot more. It's crazy how much I was beating myself up about the little things I did that didn't fit in with the identity I had for myself.
This should go for everyone, though. It doesn't matter if you're bisexual or not, it's crazy to beat yourself up for not fitting into your gender role. I get this feeling that most men are trained to be scared of being sensitive, gentle and even nice. Spanish men are cooler about it, but most of my British friends I can't even hug.
Oh, and I should point out that despite what SS tells you, feminine men do attract women. I'm really flexible and seem to get into a complementary role with whatever lady I'm with - my latest girl is really feminine and I find myself being more active and protective with her - but I have been with girls of all sorts, and not one of them has been turned off by my femininity. Some have been really turned on by it, and told me so.
I'm still not sure whether to go around telling everyone this. I thought NLG would a good place to try and see what the reaction is, as it's a closed community and most people don't know me in real life.
In other news, I've more or less definitively decided I won't go ahead with the gigolo idea. It's almost a pity, because I could do REALLY well for myself now that I've expanded my portfolio to men.
So this was a fairly recent realization though I've spent some time coming to terms with it. It's pretty liberating now, as what used to make me think, "Oh no, I'm being feminine!" now makes me think, "duh, I'm being feminine". I love using both sexual energies, I don't see why I have to choose!
So yeah, through accepting this I've come to accept myself as a whole a lot more. It's crazy how much I was beating myself up about the little things I did that didn't fit in with the identity I had for myself.
This should go for everyone, though. It doesn't matter if you're bisexual or not, it's crazy to beat yourself up for not fitting into your gender role. I get this feeling that most men are trained to be scared of being sensitive, gentle and even nice. Spanish men are cooler about it, but most of my British friends I can't even hug.
Oh, and I should point out that despite what SS tells you, feminine men do attract women. I'm really flexible and seem to get into a complementary role with whatever lady I'm with - my latest girl is really feminine and I find myself being more active and protective with her - but I have been with girls of all sorts, and not one of them has been turned off by my femininity. Some have been really turned on by it, and told me so.
I'm still not sure whether to go around telling everyone this. I thought NLG would a good place to try and see what the reaction is, as it's a closed community and most people don't know me in real life.
In other news, I've more or less definitively decided I won't go ahead with the gigolo idea. It's almost a pity, because I could do REALLY well for myself now that I've expanded my portfolio to men.