thedude4242 said:
immenseley sexual- please explain?
yoguertslinger, so your saying be an AFC and a puss?
No. He's saying that you shouldn't have to change your personality when you're around different people (maybe your boss or higher authority is an exception, and to a degree).
The point of all of this is not to give you some scheme or step-by-step plan to picking up girls, it's to change YOU. The reason you and everyone else came to this website is because there is/was something WRONG with YOU. We're human, no one's perfect and everyone has plenty of stuff wrong with them. The people here all in some way or another have trouble with girls. So don't take this as an attack. The idea is to change yourself to become simply a better person. That may mean gaining confidence confident, adopting a sense of humor, becoming better groomed, enjoying life more, or whatever it may be. THAT type of guy genuinely attracts girls, not some instruction manual.
Part your problem is YOUR current mindset and personality. Just by that one post you showed that no matter what you say, you're actually insecure and extremely unconfident. Maybe the best case scenario is that you just don't understand the idea of this yet. Most people, including me, don't fully understand it. Not even close.
Please, don't take this as a rant, or an attack on you. It's not. All I'm saying to do is eliminate that mindset. Every human sees whatever he/she wants to see. You're not an AFC or a puss and when you start thinking like that you'll genuinely start believing that. I also suggest reading the dj bible, or at least the parts about improving inner-game. Most people don't wanna hear this but trust me, once your inner-game starts improving everything will become SO MUCH clearer. You'll not just start succeeding more in every aspect of your life, including girls, you'll become a genuinely happier person.
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And to answer your original post, a lot of guys are like that. Seems a lot like me a little while ago. The "problem" is you're not escalating. While she may be attracted to you at first (btw being flirty doesn't mean sh1t, when most girls feel comfortable around someone they're a little flirty), she gets bored and loses attraction and just dumps you in the friend zone. But for now, don't worry about escalating, or about the friend zone. Worry about yourself and remember its just one girl, there are millions more of them.
A side note: Most people shun down upon being friendzoned. In my opinion, as disappointing as it may be at first, it's not a bad thing. Not only does it increase your social proof (more friends), but that means you get to meet more of her friends, get invited to more parties, etc.
