"So how many girls did you bring here already"

[Who Dares Win]

Its really a pain in the ass, a single question which can complicate your life and even leave you with blue balls according to how she gets your jokes.

I tried agree and amplify, I tried not to answer but I realize the lest riskful thing is just to change topic in the hope that they wont ask again.

A girl which asked me at night after the club even came out with the same question the following day at lunch...

How you deal with that and why?

 

[Skyy.]

She senses you have options and her hamster is spinning. Good.

- You're actually the first, maybe the last...we'll see.
- Tonight?
- That's an odd question
- How many guys have you slept with?
- Only the hot ones
- You aren't the jealous type, are you?
- Including mothers?

 

[ecko280]

I always tell them "It doesn't matter."

Its true and you answer her question. Works every time.

 

[Zarky]

Its really a pain in the ass, a single question which can complicate your life and even leave you with blue balls according to how she gets your jokes.

Hope you're being hyperbolic here...

 

[Gangster Of Love]

She senses you have options and her hamster is spinning. Good.

- You're actually the first, maybe the last...we'll see.
- Tonight?
- That's an odd question
- How many guys have you slept with?
- Only the hot ones
- You aren't the jealous type, are you?
- Including mothers?

Right. You give them these type of answer whenever they ask ANY type of question like that one.

"This Week?"
"Does my mom count?"
"Millions"

look at them and smile. Hold your frame. First of all, its none of their business, and for it, you will clown them.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Yeah guys I see what you mean and I agree completely about rebounding it instead of "justify" or take it seriously but it seems like such jokes alert some anti player senses on them so they make a point of no putting out.

I'm afraid Im overdoing with kino and never showing any sign of doubt as if Im doing something done and redone, they seems to believe that Im a player.

Is it any trick to convince them(or at least move their mind) that Im no player and just a cool guy to have fun with?

Untill now Im getting much less sh1t in this case by simply decreasing the ****y/funny factor and being more serious.

 

[Fatal Jay]

girls with high interest levels always say things like this, I just laugh it off and say something like your a weirdo and change the subject.

 

[Married Buried]

Just say "none babe you are the first girl I have brought here because you are special. I am pretty shy and don't invite girls out often".

 

[Jitterbug]

Depends on the girl and her type of anti-slvt defense system.

With some girls, you need a bit of A&A like pretending to count and lose count, or saying something like "only the hot ones count, right?" and start to count with your finger knuckles.

With others, you lie through your teeth and say you enjoy female company for the sake of it, it's not always about sex. Or that none of the previous girls matters now, you only have her in your eyes / heart whatever gay sh1t she eats up.

Read your target and handle accordingly. But most of all, don't freak out, don't apologise, hold your frame strong, and spin spin spin spin.

 

[Cremasta]

I tried agree and amplify, I tried not to answer but I realize the lest riskful thing is just to change topic in the hope that they wont ask again.

There is another option you can take. Just tell her the truth and make absolutely no apologies for it.

Her: So how many girls did you bring here already?
WDW: Four (or however many it is). It's nice here don't you think?

After a while I just realised that these kind of questions are bull$hit fishing expeditions and I couldn't be bothered with trying to stoke their egos.

 

[ebracer05]

I don't think you should answer the question at all. It reminds me of "how many girls have you been with?" Just be vague and ambiguous. It doesn't matter anyways and isn't any of her business. Just like Jitterbug said, don't become reactionary or get nervous... hold the frame and make her wonder. Mystery is very powerful and even if you haven't ever brought anyone there before, she will probably think you have.

 

[handle]

Assuming she's not just busting your balls (in which case you should be light and joke around with it), in my opinion it's totally ok to keep it real. In fact, it's encouraged. I'd say something like what Cremasta suggested.

You don't need to be a slick talker 100% of the time. The last time a girl asked me this my answer was something like "five, the first time I just moved in and this girl thought it was creepy that I didn't have anything on the walls so we put that calendar up before we did anything" while pointing to this shietty free junk mail calendar on the wall.

Anyway, my point is if the girl is comfortable enough to come back to your place you should be able to "keep it real" with her. It's going to reek "I'm some insecure player type" if you try to change the subject, why bother trying that stupid ****?

EDIT: that being said, it's also totally ok if that question isn't something you feel like answering (happens sometime), in which case I'd probably say something like "are you trying to figure out how many girls I've slept with or something?" You can pretty easily object to the question or say that it doesn't matter without coming across as a jerk.

 

[Chamber36]

EDIT: that being said, it's also totally ok if that question isn't something you feel like answering (happens sometime), in which case I'd probably say something like "are you trying to figure out how many girls I've slept with or something?" You can pretty easily object to the question or say that it doesn't matter without coming across as a jerk.

Wow thanks a lot man because im sick of girls using that dang angle on me, wanting to know bout my dam love life.

 

[Skyline]

Its really a pain in the ass, a single question which can complicate your life and even leave you with blue balls according to how she gets your jokes.

I tried agree and amplify, I tried not to answer but I realize the lest riskful thing is just to change topic in the hope that they wont ask again.

A girl which asked me at night after the club even came out with the same question the following day at lunch...

How you deal with that and why?

This is in the DJ Bible and on the Article site too.

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/jj/phrases.htm

Phrase #4 fits your situation perfectly. :rock:

 

[Kailex]

Why is this question causing you so much anguish?

Just give her an answer. To be honest, the answer doesn't really matter to her, it's HOW you answer that she's gauging.

I've had women ask me and I just tell them that I replaced my wooden door with a revolving door. If this girl doesn't like your answer and it "costs" you anything... you just NEXT and move on.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Why is this question causing you so much anguish?

Just give her an answer. To be honest, the answer doesn't really matter to her, it's HOW you answer that she's gauging.

I've had women ask me and I just tell them that I replaced my wooden door with a revolving door. If this girl doesn't like your answer and it "costs" you anything... you just NEXT and move on.

When one have a girl naked at his place and a c0ck which is aiming at the target, does not simply "next"...you try to make it work.

 

[BMX]

Make your eyeballs huge and with a hyper-sarcastic tone say, "Apparently not enough women!"