Hey guys, I am swamped with work so I have been keeping a low profile here, but today I had a small PU victory so I want to share it by way of encouragement.
I went out in a rush to make it to the farmer's market before they shut down, so I'm unshaven, greasy hair, casual clothes- you get the picture.
Still, made a few stops in the area shops where I've befriended some possible female prospects, just to keep the convo chops up.
Then went to the post office to ship a package, where I encountered a very hot not in uniform (she was a "special" helper for the day) early 20's (yes I know,
) postal worker. I asked her to "help" me with the self-service machine, which she did while I checked out her....package. Sweet!
I was also blown away by her her personality and quick wit.
So much so that I walked out and thought to myself, what the hell are you doing, not hitting on her??
OK, here's the part I want to share- I SHOULD have hit on her while she was in my space her attention on me exclusively. But I did not for a variety of dopey reasons, including AFC.
Guys, my rejection voice immediately went to work, telling me, you blew it, you've been in situations like this before where you were slow on the draw, went back, and struck out major AFC-style.
But I repeated the "rejection is better that regret" mantra and turned around and headed back. She was with another customer, blah, blah, but I just went for it (Joekker, you'll love this- the LIBRARIAN lady who sorta knows me is standing right next to my HB prospect so she's gonna hear my approach)
...and asked her to meet me for coffee. I tuned out the librarian.
Sure she says, gimme your card and we'll do it next week.
No, I say, when do you get off, let's do it today.
Long story short, she had to work late but she called me twice before she went home, suggested we meet tomorrow or the next day, I have her number, but more importantly, I got good IL, rapport, etc.
When I was debating whether to go back to hit on her, my mind was doing everything in its power to stop me, but my legs did not falter.
I even caught a glimpse of myself in one of the shop windows glass and the reaction was, "are you kidding, you look terrible..." but the legs kept going in the right direction.
I give a lot of credit to many of you here....it's almost as if you were there encouraging me, telling me to ignore my logical mind.
Whatever comes of this, I needed a small win. It's been a little sparse in the validation dept. lately.
The past few months I've been pushing through a lot of my own inertia, fears, confusion about women, often without obvious results, often with negative results.
Thanks for being here and making your presence and your wisdom available.
I went out in a rush to make it to the farmer's market before they shut down, so I'm unshaven, greasy hair, casual clothes- you get the picture.
Still, made a few stops in the area shops where I've befriended some possible female prospects, just to keep the convo chops up.
Then went to the post office to ship a package, where I encountered a very hot not in uniform (she was a "special" helper for the day) early 20's (yes I know,
) postal worker. I asked her to "help" me with the self-service machine, which she did while I checked out her....package. Sweet!I was also blown away by her her personality and quick wit.
So much so that I walked out and thought to myself, what the hell are you doing, not hitting on her??
OK, here's the part I want to share- I SHOULD have hit on her while she was in my space her attention on me exclusively. But I did not for a variety of dopey reasons, including AFC.
Guys, my rejection voice immediately went to work, telling me, you blew it, you've been in situations like this before where you were slow on the draw, went back, and struck out major AFC-style.
But I repeated the "rejection is better that regret" mantra and turned around and headed back. She was with another customer, blah, blah, but I just went for it (Joekker, you'll love this- the LIBRARIAN lady who sorta knows me is standing right next to my HB prospect so she's gonna hear my approach)
...and asked her to meet me for coffee. I tuned out the librarian.
Sure she says, gimme your card and we'll do it next week.
No, I say, when do you get off, let's do it today.
Long story short, she had to work late but she called me twice before she went home, suggested we meet tomorrow or the next day, I have her number, but more importantly, I got good IL, rapport, etc.
When I was debating whether to go back to hit on her, my mind was doing everything in its power to stop me, but my legs did not falter.
I even caught a glimpse of myself in one of the shop windows glass and the reaction was, "are you kidding, you look terrible..." but the legs kept going in the right direction.
I give a lot of credit to many of you here....it's almost as if you were there encouraging me, telling me to ignore my logical mind.
Whatever comes of this, I needed a small win. It's been a little sparse in the validation dept. lately.
The past few months I've been pushing through a lot of my own inertia, fears, confusion about women, often without obvious results, often with negative results.
Thanks for being here and making your presence and your wisdom available.
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