Small talk.

[microzogd]

Im horrible at small talk. I usually draw a blank when im talking to strangers and I think a part of it is nerves, but Im not sure how I can go about becoming a more interesting person.

basically im not creative with my words and when you're approaching women, its very dynamic and you need the abiliy to formulate questions and say funny things. But im not good at that.

Is there some way to become funnier and just less dull?

It doesnt matter how many times I approach a woman, unless I have something interesting and captivating to say, it wont matter.

But you cant be stupid enough to memorize lines. Which leads me to believe that almost every don juan is a mini writter or comedian at heart.

 

[john paul]

theres nothing I or anyone else on here can say to make you good at small talk. And you cant be a dj if you cant hold a decent conversation.

Learn to talk to people even when you dont need to. Go to a gym? Start being friendier to the people and saying hi. Once your confortable with this try talking to some of the guys. You can start with "hey can you spot me on this set?" or something simple and go from there. You may have a few unconfortable talks every once in a while from your lack of experience but in time you will be able to think of witty and smart things to say just because your confortable and able to think in these situations.

If your problem is about just being not funny then try watching some standup on youtube or something. Dane Cook and Dave chepell. Its not so much what they say but how they say it. Their facial expressions, hand motions, and voice is what makes them hilarious.

 

[microzogd]

no

No, im quite boring and quiet. Alot of people have said im quiet and subdued.

 

[Effington]

Sports, weather, local news, and any local observations you make are all fine topics. Small talking/bull****ing with people is very important for building rapport. Hell, that's how most people make business deals / extend job offers. In one interview I had, we talked 3 minutes about work and 40 about baseball, the city, and previous jobs HE had. At the end, he offered the position to me on the spot.

It all started because I saw he had a Cub's flag in his office.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Watch comedians.