Small penis stigma in media

[sambwoy]

I have seen films, TV and porn where I get the impression the the girl characters vilify the guy with a small c**k- they talk like he is such a despicable, awful person. What value does a large c**k have to a woman anyway?..I never got this. Is it the look of it, or determining whether the man can provide better love, the latter I think is unfair given that impotence can be due to a medical condition etc.

 

[Nicholas]

Interesting documentary.

http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/my-penis-and-everyone-elses/

 

[FairShake]

What value does a large c**k have to a woman anyway?..I never got this.

You've never gotten it because you aren't a woman.

Most women will say that big peens are better than little peens. But enough of them will tell you that it's not the end all be all.

Then again, I've known many a woman to stay in bad relationships because the guy has a big weiner.

 

[user43770]

Then again, I've known many a woman to stay in bad relationships because the guy has a big weiner.

Chick logic. They can't admit that they like being treated like sh1t.

 

[Falcon]

Times we live in... anti-intellect, anti-renaissance, anti-religion, etc whatever you want to call it. When the carnal is more valued than other values. Don't lose any sleep over it because it probably wont change for a long time.

But, something interesting... Did you know that back in the old days, you would be laughed at for having a big penis - they likened it to being more ape-ish. This was at a time when human beings strived to be a lot more in the spiritual and intellectual capacities. I think having a small penis is popular in some Asian cultures too. Anyway, just know that it is what it is... social conditioning. In the end, all that really matters is being able to stick it in and create life.

 

[ilikecharlene]

we're generally too PC in our society. Size does matter, such is life. :rockon:

 

[Kerpal]

Why isn't there a loose vagina stigma? It's a double standard.

 

[Bible_Belt]

And if there's breast reduction surgery, how come there's no penile reduction surgery? "Oh my aching back, it's not fair I have to carry all this weight around because society is so sexist."

 

[sambwoy]

Times we live in... anti-intellect, anti-renaissance, anti-religion, etc whatever you want to call it. When the carnal is more valued than other values. Don't lose any sleep over it because it probably wont change for a long time.

I couldn't have put it better myself. Just today it begun to occur to me that perhaps we have to accept many things in life today which are so sub-par, underwhelming, mundane...if I was such a catch with women I wouldn't have my parents telling me to actually go out and meet women. Dating doesn't start with old fashioned conversations and sharing interests- dating starts when a girl jumps on you and wants to shag your brains out. You would immediately tell if a woman was interested.

I had spent my youth around a lot of shallow, close-minded, and insensitive people that are reflective of society today, particularly people of my age and younger...girls have laughed at me in the past just for being alive on the bus, in college....it is so depressing. And the way they speak about others is horrible as well- meanwhile men in the media get knocked for being lying, cheating pigs who think with their stomachs or think with their d**s. It doesn't make my outlook on ever trusting or intimacy or faith in women any easier. I have felt this way for a long time.

Meanwhile people complain that I am pessimistic, negative and have no confidence and I get all the 'tough love' anecdotes...usually those are elder people who seem blind to where society has gone, because perhaps by my reckoning when they got their life stuff together it was probably easier to do so than today, because society was not so saturated in superficiality, and like you say, sex.

 

[Kerpal]

usually those are elder people who seem blind to where society has gone,

+ 1 million to this.

Every time I hear an older person giving advice, it blows my mind how out of touch and stuck in the past they are. Most of them seem to think life is like an episode of Happy Days.

 

[SharinganUser]

Who cares what women think of you or your penis? You should be proud of yourself and your ****. If you can't do that, then it really doesn't matter how big or small it is because women won't want to sleep with you anyway.

You can't change your size, you can't change the stigma. So the only left to do is just own it and be proud you have one that works.

On a side note, yesterday I watched two films, one American and one Chinese, where both villains turned out to be literally ****less.

 

[Falcon]

I couldn't have put it better myself. Just today it begun to occur to me that perhaps we have to accept many things in life today which are so sub-par, underwhelming, mundane...if I was such a catch with women I wouldn't have my parents telling me to actually go out and meet women. Dating doesn't start with old fashioned conversations and sharing interests- dating starts when a girl jumps on you and wants to shag your brains out. You could swiftly tell if a woman was interested.

I had spent my youth around a lot of shallow, close-minded, and insensitive people that are reflective of society today, particularly people of my age and younger...girls have laughed at me in the past just for being alive on the bus, in college....it is so depressing. And the way they speak about others is horrible as well- meanwhile men in the media get knocked for being lying, cheating pigs who think with their stomachs or think with their d**s. It doesn't make my outlook on ever trusting or intimacy or faith in women any easier. I have felt this way for a long time.

Meanwhile people complain that I am pessimistic, negative and have no confidence and I get all the 'tough love' anecdotes...usually those are elder people who seem blind to where society has gone, because perhaps by my reckoning when they got their life stuff together it was probably easier to do so than today, because society was not so saturated in superficiality, and like you say, sex.

Yup, different times, different times... Think about it, hundreds of years ago, there were no professional sports. Athletes weren't idolized like they are today. There was no booming professional porn industry. The whole paradigm was completely different. The only real physical idolizing of the body was that of the warrior, but it was for a true purpose. Survival was a much bigger issue and people dreamed of being able to separate from the physical, their mortal bodies, because the physical was a tough world and in ways represented a lower form than the mental and spiritual. It's apparent if you look at the art and the stuff that was left from the past... It's a completely different game now.

But like SharinganUser, you have to put it in perspective. It is something you can't change physically and it is something that you can't change in society. I like to think of this stuff kind of as a hobby, but it doesn't make me feel bad or depressed. It's a challenge, you have to adapt and succeed, and when you do, it will be much more meaningful

The biggest trap to fall in imo is to hate women because of this. They are usually more fickle and just a reflection of what society demands from them. It isn't a reason to hate them (not saying you are but I see it from other people in real life)

 

[sambwoy]

Who cares what women think of you or your penis? You should be proud of yourself and your ****. If you can't do that, then it really doesn't matter how big or small it is because women won't want to sleep with you anyway.

Other physical shortcomings apply too. Personally *** size is not the entire issue- I am thin but have pectus excavatum (sunken chest)- if I can't fix it in the gym I just have to live with it and prepare for a rough ride. How one's outlook on life has got so bad I don't know.

 

[lifeislearning]

Take comfort in the fact that women seldom see our physical attributes as they really are. How men "look" is a combination of our actual physical build, our personality, clothing, how they feel about us, and a variety of other things we cannot see in a mirror. The better a woman knows you, the less she sees of your actual appearance and the more she will see how she thinks your personality would look. I am a skinny oaf but I have had women compare me to the ripped guys in shows like TrueBlood who I look nothing like. It took me some time to realize they were not comparing out physical stature, but as these women saw my sex appeal as equal to these celebrities, their brain told them we were similar physically.

Weird right?

Think of every good looking "nerd" the ladies couldn't run from fast enough. Same principle. The ugly guy who gets all the hot girls. We've all seen it.

At the end of the day we all have parts of our body we hate and parts we are proud of. Some you can change, the others we just have to deal with and learn to overlook them. Work out and find two things you are proud of for every one you cannot change.

It could always be worse. I had a friend who had TWO holes in his ****. There aint no gym that can fix that...

 

[speed dawg]

Man, forget about this. I spent years being ashamed because I thought I had a small c0ck and it cost me a lot of poon. NEVER did I encounter a chick who made one remark about it. Their decision to sleep with you is made well before they see your schlong.

Only place crap like that matters in porn, and they are great at stimulating based on insecurities. Don't let it get you down.

I NEVER, EVER, compare myself to anyone based on God-given talents and things you can't change. It's really not about comparing yourself anyway. It's about taking what you have and doing something with it.

 

[Colossus]

+1 ^.

OP, dont obsess over things you cant change. D!ck size is overblown, no pun intended. If you are in the average range (5-6"), you can please a woman just fine. You dont need a horse dong to fill the vaginal canal.

 

[Mr.Positive]

+1 ^.

OP, dont obsess over things you cant change. D!ck size is overblown, no pun intended. If you are in the average range (5-6"), you can please a woman just fine. You dont need a horse dong to fill the vaginal canal.

+2

Vagina size is more important. At least women can do something about that, exercises, and such.

I admit, years ago when I was an afc I was very self conscious about my size. We are our own worst critics most often. The second gal I slept with (bless her) gave me a confidence boost by measuring me. Turns out, I am actually larger than the average size and it was the first gal I slept with, that was actually extremely loose.

Since then, many gals later, I've come to the conclusion it's vagina size that's the most important thing. Some gals are very small, others are very large and loose...and some just fit perfectly.

There's a perfect vagina size for every penis out there. Focus on the ladies.

 

[sambwoy]

Meanwhile people complain that I am pessimistic, negative and have no confidence

Well, I was actually meant to put others my age, and younger. But seriously if you project misery or aloofness people will banter behind your back that you're a 'dark horse'. Maybe that 'dark horse' is projecting how they really feel about life, and that's okay I guess.

 

[sambwoy]

It could always be worse. I had a friend who had TWO holes in his ****. There aint no gym that can fix that...

I have that pectus excavatum thing (sunken chest), and it seems incurable. That's particularly difficult to break to a girl. To think I have to risk rejection BEFORE she discovers it beneath my clothes.

 

[ScottMustaine]

I have that pectus excavatum thing (sunken chest), and it seems incurable. That's particularly difficult to break to a girl. To think I have to risk rejection BEFORE she discovers it beneath my clothes.

I got them as well. It makes your chest ( boobs ) defined. So get yourself a bit 'tighter' shirt. And widen your chest. Hit the gym, though I don't I simply got over it. Just stand up straight and widen your chest while walking.