Slightly embarrasing question..... that needs answering!

[waldo]

Hey,

I've been seeing this girls for a few months, we've done everything but have 'proper' sex. We're meeting up tommorow afternoon and have both agreed that we'll 'do it'. I'm a virgin but she doesn't think this.

What is the easiest/most comfortable way to have 'proper' sex?, we're going to be outdoors in public, most likely in a field. We almost did it last week but I pulled out cos some people saw us lying on top of each other.

My other problem is that I don't feel like 'standing to attention', when my todger is out in public!.

If things get difficult (I know she is very much a virgin), I'm gonna find it hard to 'perform'.

What is the quickest, easiest method that I can be sure will work?

She thinks that I'm very experienced and I want to make it look like I am...... (She's 17 and I'm 20).

Any help would be greatly appreciated!!... I have 12 hours to go.... (during which I have to get to sleep).

-waldo

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

We almost did it last week but I pulled out cos some people saw us lying on top of each other.

Errr......pulled out?

Neither of you are virgins anymore, if there was any penetration.

What the fukk is "proper sex"?

This post has me confused.

Wouldn't you want to do it someplace private, for your "first" time?

Stick it in and out and in and out........grab her boobs, rub her cl!t (if you can find it)



Umm....read penthouse, or something.

I hate to sound preachy, but how old are you? You say 20, but....????? If you need to ask questions about this, then maybe you should wait until you're ready?

The Bad Ass Canadian

 

[Frosty]

Well, over here in the states, Waldo, it is illegal for a 20 year-old man to have sex with a 17 year-old girl. I am not familiar with the laws in the UK but to clear my conscience, I will asume that this is legal over there and that the girl will be 18 by the time you two get together to do it "for real."

First, if you don't feel that you will be able
to get "your soldier to march" then you shouldn't go through with this. The anxiety will only make sure it will happen.
Trust me, the anxiety alone will do you in.
It would be best to wait until you both are comfortable with the setting and situation. If you rush, it will probably be a bad experience for you both.

Don't plan to make it happen. You both want to so it should be fine whenever it happens. If you two just happen to be alone and start making out just go with the flow and see how far you get. If it doesn't happen then, try anotherb time.

Do you really want to lose your virginity and take someone else's while
getting dirt up your azzes? Wait until you both are eighteen and comfortable.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Where's Waldo?

Stuck in grade school, methinks........

 

[waldo]

She's 17 and legal here in the UK (16 is the age of consent). I know what to do, its just the anxiety problem. I'd wait until we had a free house at mine or hers but that won't happen for a few weeks.

She's desperate and very interested, I've missed good opportunities before in my life and think I should make the most of this. There are guys on this board who are considering paying$$$ for sex, I feel like I might as well get it out of the way.

As for what happened last week, I was attempting to 'plug myself in' when 2 people walked past us. They didn't really see what was happening but we had to stop and it really put me off.

I just don't want to look like I haven't done it before... it would kill my confidence if she said I sucked or something.

I admit that I don't like her that much, and that she's obsessed with me. The way I see it is if I get some good experience with her I will be better prepared for when I meet the girl of my dreams...

 

[3rdeye]

Originally posted by waldo


I just don't want to look like I haven't done it before... it would kill my confidence if she said I sucked or something.

dude chill out... who cares if you suck at it for the first time.. her interest levels are high right... then what the hell u worried about.. an if shes a virgin too she wont have anything to compare it too.. right! you'll do fine as long as you let your little head do the thinkin for this one!!!
have u ever seen american pie 2. the begining scene was about the same thing almost. the girl was totaly turned off when he went on about the reason why he might suck... dont think so much an just do it. thats a major turn off to women..
your first time prolly wont be the best at performance wise, but the 2 of you can work on it an get better..
so the real question is, are you affraid of good sex?
peace

 

[waldo]

3rdeye your right, I've seen American Pie 2 and have been called 'Jim' by some of my friends. I guess I just don't want an absolute disaster, and that's why I asked if there was any particular position that was easy to do and hard to f*ck up (pun intended!). I mean should I be on top or her?, it will end up being me on top, I'll give it my best shot and let you know how things went...

Your right about the IL thing, I don't seem to be able to do anything wrong in her eyes.

Wish me luck...

-waldo

 

[ShortTimer]

Age of Concent

Well, over here in the states, Waldo, it is illegal for a 20 year-old man to have sex with a 17 year-old girl.

Noppers, depends on the state; here in Maryland you can do it to a 16 year old no matter your age.

Check out this website: http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm

The USA is at the bottom, plenty of states are below 18.

 

[Derek Flint]

Rent a room at a F*** Motel.

 

[Frosty]

I just don't want to look like I haven't done it before... it would kill my confidence if she said I sucked or something.

How will she know if you suck or not if she is a virgin? Who cares any ways; you have to get sexual experience from somewhere. You just don't want to be 40 yo and she tells you you suck.

 

[J-Man]

dont freak out about being a virgin. you have a d*ck. you have arms and legs. once fully developed, you automatically knew how to use them. if youre 20, you should have NO problem man. just let the natural man instinct inside you do all the working.

if youre really unsure of yourself, watch some porno .
pay attention to the details.

as for being in public, you can get arrested for this, speaking of laws against sex. i would also feel un comfortable doing it outside. do it in your car at least. i agree do not miss out on this opportunity.



and i didnt know that it was illegal to have gay/lesbian sex in my state!

 

[BrWnSugaMan]

No one here really gave any good advice so here goes:

1. Don't do it outside in public, that just adds to the anxiety and makes it hard to perform and get it up.

2. Where 2 condoms. Most of the guys are gonna be like.."what, why?" - Most guys who have sex for the first time get really excited because of the sensation and tend to *** fast. This is not a good thing. Two condoms will definately help densitive your penis a bit and help you last longer.

3. Get some KY lube. Yes, I know most condoms are already pre-lubed, but it is never as good as the KY stuff. This will help you last longer.

4. You should stay on top the whole time in missionary position because this will best allow you to control/vary your speed to prevent yourself from cuming to early. Don't let her get on top and ride you because she will most likely go all out and you will come really fast, so YOU stay on top.

5. Do a lot of foreplay with her before you actually have intercourse. It will be easier to give her an orgasm this way.

6. Don't think that you have to go really fast to please her...this is a misconception that most guys have. It is her first time so take it slow.

7. If she is a virgin, definatley don't do it in public because it gets messy.

8. HINT: Let's say you guys decide to have sex on a bed (good idea), make sure you put like an old blanket or something similar covering the normal sheets so when you pop her cherry, and wipes up...you can just remove the old blanket and you guys are ready to go again or sleep or whatnot.

 

[Shiftkey]

5. Do a lot of foreplay with her before you actually have intercourse. It will be easier to give her an orgasm this way.

If she's a virgin, there's almost NO chance of her having an orgasm no matter how much foreplay he does. So don't stress about it Waldo. However she will definately enjoy the experience a lot more with more foreplay.

 

[Kalen]

2. Where 2 condoms. Most of the guys are gonna be like.."what, why?" - Most guys who have sex for the first time get really excited because of the sensation and tend to *** fast. This is not a good thing. Two condoms will definately help densitive your penis a bit and help you last longer.

Wont the two rub against each other possibly tearing the condom? Which would be bad.

 

[jbrunner_ipa]

i didn't read all the replies so this may have been covered, but i'll tell you anyway,.......if she's a virgin...you're probably going to have a hard time because of the actual anatomy of a virgin. I'm supposing you already know about that though....also.....i would suggest that you let her be on top because women seem to get better penetration when they're on top. Of course..you'll want to feel out the situation. Personally i don't think the time is right, but you are a better judge of that than I. Just go with the flow man.

 

[Walden]

Yeah I gotta say.
Outdoors , first time.
That has "Monstrous great fcukup" written all over it.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by waldo
She's 17 and legal here in the UK (16 is the age of consent).

I'm moving to f'n England!!!! ...j/k

Nothing should be quick for your first time dude.

Before you do anything, go downtown on her. Lick it, with just enough pressure, like you trying to turn on the lights with your tongue. (It's early, better examples will come after coffee) Do this, ask her if you should be more gentle, rough, have her talk to ya... lick her for as long as it takes for her to say, 'Ok... give it to me now, and give it to me good you son of a .....'
My suggestion would be for her to get on top... you lay down on yo back, she rides. This position also maintains your staying power as well. It's also a position most females like. Remember to lick her nipples, suck on her titties, run yo fingers up and down her back.... start out slow, rotate often, then slowly pickup speed as soon as her breathing increases. From this point you can do several things....

1. Pound the hell out of her, while whispering in her ear something like 'I can f*ck you forever.' Lick her lobes.

2. Pound the hell out of her, then stick it in her butt. ...just for laughs.

3. Keep a nice pace going, llet her find what she is looking for, then move to a cradle position, rock back and forth, then without puling out, lay her on her back, to where you are on top of her this time, then pound the hell out of her, kissing her and sucking on titties at the same time... try it, takes a little practice. Work on a steady pace, while at the same time, lick the nipples, kiss her, go back to sucking the titties... then bust one all over her. If she's adventurous, and has had a pretty good time, and isn't in coma by now, she may grab it and suck on it, just for experience.

So lick her, put it in, take it slowly, DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT C*MMING, pound her gently, rotate often, pick up pace, drive it in as far as you can, rotate, then repeat the steps.

Good luck dude....

 

[princelydeeds]

I say this not out of hate but out of compassion. You are gonna suck this first time. Accept it as a fact and move on. I gave my first 30 secs of he!! the first time. It still happens, on occasion. When you get it in, don't pound on her like a jackhammer. Stroke her slowly. Im guessing that somewhere around the 5th stroke you will be cummin like a freight train. But, fear not if she likes you she will forgive you, if she truly is a virgin she won't know the difference anyway, she will probably just be happy to get it over with. You're young so your jimmy should spring right back up.

Do you have ginsana over there? its like viagra for me, it keeps my d!ck rock hard. If I know Im gonna have an alnight bone session, it gives me energy and makes me get hard faster.

2 condoms decreases penis sensitivity, and no you wont rip them if you wear 2.

 

[waldo]

Field Report (quite literally)

Well we met up, ended up in a field, got very close to it, and her legs came out in a huge rash. Plus my hay fever got worse, I ended up having to ask her for a tissue....

My biggest dillema is that I don't really fancy this girl, she has a nice body but a very average face. Should I press ahead and go through with it cos it will give me a lot more confidence, or should I wait for the right girl?.

She gets pissed off cos I won't do anything together in public.

But anyway thanks heaps for the advice, especially BrWnSugaMan!, I've taken note of what you said.

-waldo

 

[Avsguy01]

Is this girl really into you? If you think that you dont see yourself having a long term relationship with her than i would re-consider taking her virginity. But if you can stick it out with her for a little while then by all means get this girl!! You need to gain experience and first times suck. I know im still waiting for my first time and now that i look back i had about 2 strong chances that i let slip by. Have fun your young!! Now hopefully i can get something going with this one girl i just met. Taking her out Thursday. Anyway, Good luck man!!