Single mum theory

[Hyper2010]

Single mum relationship theory based of experience and looking at society in general around me....

This is almost like a case study of society in general

Stage 1 - Aged 16-18 girl gets preggo. Generally from older guy who lacks responsibility

Stage 2 - Next few years. Spent caring for baggage child and unable to establish links with outside world, society, work a job etc. Daddio by this point has either disappeared or found fresher meat

Stage 3 - Child is 3+ years old, mum begins going out etc. Becomes unwitting fck slave as most guys unwilling or unable to date a girl with baggage. Most older or alpha males will always chose a girl with freedom, indepandance from home and a body without baby damage.

Stage 4 - woman becomes emotional recluse. Generally accepts she is only good for one thing

Stage 5 - Meets a nice guy (AFC) willing to break evolutionary instinct and raise someone else's DNA.

Stage 6 - Eventually gets bored of nice guy and his predictability.Either cheats, leaves or find another excuse. Alternatively realised he is not perfect after all and uses his inbuilt flaws against him

Stage 7 - Becomes Beyonce/miss in dependant and bounces on a few cks knowing Mr nice guy will probably still be there. He is her safety blanket

Stage 8 - After 6-12 months realizing no one else wants her, decides to seek Mr nice out. He edit her comes back or has moved on

Unsure what next stage is?

Any ideas? Thoughts?

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

yeah, by this time, daughter is 18 and emotionally wrecked. Has no drive or money for college so Mom suggests wonderful ideaorn. And by this time, since mom's been fvcked already by a thousand guys, she decides that she'd be good at it too. So, they decide to go into porn together. Thus the creation of Mother Daughter porn.

 

[Fatal Jay]

My spirit always gets uncomfortable being in a relationship with a single mom, everything feel so forced. I don't care how hot the mom is, no man wants to be the father of a child that is not his.


My question is......are insecure men the main guys who date single moms?

 

[LiveFreeX]

high quality men date single moms... unfortunately they are always business owners, influential men and men with really stable jobs. They are society's helpers... they are easy targets for women.

Look at guys who drive transport and you'll see what I mean.

 

[bluejay83]

Stage 9 - Cycle repeats from stage 6-8
Stage 10 - She eventually fcuks him off so badly he can't take it anymore, divorces/leaves her. She then "regrets" her actions and tries to win him back
Stage11 - He's moved on the fresher meat & learned his lesson. a new PUA/Alpha is born through the trials of fire.

 

[Fruitbat]

I wouldn't rule out a really hot, nice chick who made a mistake when she was really young.

Also, not keen on bringing up anothers DNA, BUT if I was at the time in life when I wanted children, and I could have say 2 with her, what's the problem if there is a 3rd, older child who isn't yours? I would have a problem if she didn't want any from me and just wanted me to be a dad to this other dudes kid - i.e. If I would settle with you, you need to offer me at least what you offered the dude that ran off.

The other thing is, what if the father is dead? Not a lot she can do about that. Or what if he went insane? Or was a closet wife beater? All of this stuff happens, I refuse to judge all women by the actions of slvts.

Single moms are no-ones first choice, but you may find you can get a hotter woman than normal by doing so, and also you might find some of them will treat you like a king if they have been lonely for a long time.

BUT - in the main, the OP has it spot on. The majority are in this cycle, but there are some out there who aren't like this and were simply stupid or unlucky. I got arrested and put myself in hospital several times in my later teens, the lucky thing as a dude is that this doesn't follow you forever.

 

[Hyper2010]

I've had 3 serious relations with single mums and pretty much what I've described has happened each time. In the last one I almost knew what the outcomes would be whilst still with her

However I've always bailed or moved on at stage 8. They do seem to come back for forgiveness when they play cck jockey and realise whst they had with a sage dependable guy

 

[Robert28]

In my dealings with single moms it comes down to two things usually. 1) they will screw you over more likely then a non-single mom. 2) they will always want to bum money from you. I don't feel sorry for single moms AT ALL because the ones I know could, and have had plenty of chances, to be with decent guys but chose instead to go after known losers and then turn around and complain there are no decent guys. In other words it's everyone else's fault they made a sh!t sandwich and expected it to taste like Subway. You have to ask yourself, if she's already making bad decisions by getting knocked up and never being married at 16, do you really expect her to make good decisions when it comes to relationships and the rest of her life? trust me, life ain't hard at 16. If you're failing at life at 16, you are pretty much screwed.

 

[Gunner26]

I only really know 2/3 young mums, none of whom I dated so I can't really comment, but it's something interesting for me to consider as I get older.

Most of the girls I know my age are fairly sensible though, as in they are at university and do not want children yet, the girls I have heard of who have kids now though are the ones who finished school at 16 and jumped straight on the **** carousel, I haven't really associated myself with them since I left school. Although it is intriguing to see that stage 1 and 2 seem fairly accurate.
Gunner

 

[Fatal Jay]

Stage 9 - Cycle repeats from stage 6-8
Stage 10 - She eventually fcuks him off so badly he can't take it anymore, divorces/leaves her. She then "regrets" her actions and tries to win him back
Stage11 - He's moved on the fresher meat & learned his lesson. a new PUA/Alpha is born through the trials of fire.

This was dope, I know I became an alpha after getting burned so many times, I refused to let it happen again.

 

[5string]

Read this.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178965

 

[Big Nuts]

Single moms are low hanging fruit.

Many are extremely desperate and can't get laid because they are too busy being a mom. Many can be attractive, but life ran them over...so take advantage, pump and dump.

Many are down to earth because their whole perspective on life has changed. They were once at the top of the pile, now they are the pile.

Online is filled with single moms of which many need and want to get laid and finally understand that their SMV is now very low. Hence easy lay, great for busting a grinding dry spell.

 

[fuzzball]

In my dealings with single moms it comes down to two things usually. 1) they will screw you over more likely then a non-single mom. 2) they will always want to bum money from you. I don't feel sorry for single moms AT ALL because the ones I know could, and have had plenty of chances, to be with decent guys but chose instead to go after known losers and then turn around and complain there are no decent guys. In other words it's everyone else's fault they made a sh!t sandwich and expected it to taste like Subway. You have to ask yourself, if she's already making bad decisions by getting knocked up and never being married at 16, do you really expect her to make good decisions when it comes to relationships and the rest of her life? trust me, life ain't hard at 16. If you're failing at life at 16, you are pretty much screwed.

this isnt entirely true. life at 16 can be anywhere from great to a walking nightmare and its entirely random where you fall in this category and there about 10000000 variables that factor into this. where a person is at 16 is not really a road map to there existence in 10 years from that point. a more accurate statement might be where a person is at 25 but even then there are exceptions to that rule. to say the life of a 16 year is not hard is just not blantantly false. some 16 year olds have an easy life but others do not. mixed in with high school(more the social structure here that is the nightmare), hormones, and becoming far more self aware of any looming family issues and being 16 can become a nightmare. also societys weird double standard of you are a child but you are not a child complex and ill say i would never ever want to be 16 again.

having said all that its sad but true the step parent tends to almost always remain an outcast. while its not fair and sometimes the single parent gets dealt a bad hand with their ex it seems unfortunately any step parent willing to join the now single parent will likely be an outcast. its not always the case but it is the case far more often than not. i wouldnt say avoid single parents but i would say know you are barking up a difficult tree.

 

[Fruitbat]

Ha ha ha! I just got speaking to a single mum on POF.

3 kids.....
By 3 different fathers I assume, at least one is a different race and the other two look pretty different.....

Age is.....................





22!

I didn't read the profile.

Cut off immediately. I unfortunately told her about my car and well paying job and she was getting pretty "come and fvck me"

Another set of child support coming in from a pretty solid source, I think she thought.

I thought these women were an invention of the media.

Sadly, there are unfortunate single mums who just made a mistake out there. Don't forget that men can leave women, many single mums loved their HB/BFs but they went on to fresher meat. Not a lot they can do about that.

Not white knighting but it's true.