all things considered i'd prefer a woman with no kids over a woman wtih kids, I think that's for the most part common sense. where i see the gray area is when you use kids in themselves as red flags.
now i agree with the above poster who said that regardless of circumstances, more than one kid assuming neither is grown, i don't care what the circumstances are. it's just not gonna work. You will never have the time, money, energy, to do anything.
But one kid. I mean, it's a difference between a girl who was slutting it up at 19 and didn't wnat to use a condom and got knocked up and decided to keep it versus a woman who was married and the husband turned out to be a peice of **** alcoholic and she left him and took the kid. I'd be willing to give the 2nd one some lee way assuming she checked out on everything else.
I know a woman who has a daughter and she's single her husband went to iraq and came back literally insane. She had to go. I can't sit here and call her a slut or a ***** or anything else like that. In real life, life happens. Now, I wouldn't date the chick, but not because of the kid. My mom was about as devoted as a wife could be to my dad but my dad can't keep his **** in his pants and cheated on her, then cheated on his next wife and the next. You can question my mothers taste in men, but not her loyalty and devotion to the man she's with.
So to wrap this up
2 kids = bye
1 kid = get a realistic idea of why she has one kid and what her motives are for dating and than make your decision carefully
something else to consider. This is what gets me. **** I did it when i was 21. i was screwing around with this chick who was 25 and had 2 kids. hell she was still married. anyway we were screwing almost nightly. I pissed her off, started seeing this other chick again who i would end up dating eventually, she was still being a slut so i wasn't going to take her seriously i mean **** she's married who can i.
anyway she wanted to use a different type of condom one day and next thing you know "bam" i'm preggo.
In dating there are 2 types of women; women who will play the I'm pregnant card and women who won't. 99% of all women who will paly the I'm pregnant card already have kids. you know they DGIF about having kids. That's a line that women without kids generally won't cross.
My point being, people always say that oh prengnat single moms are great for sex only. They are the worst possible partners for sex. they are easy to get and hard to get rid of.