Most women, if they are reasonably good looking, know they can get a man that is nice, reliable, stable, who wants a relationship anytime they need one.
Her baby daddy is what she really wants... want is an emotional decision, need is a rational decision. While when reality hits you in the face does make on more rational, it is not emotionally stimulating... women require emotional stimulation... it can be love, hate, anger confusion, drama... they don't care... stable is boring.
A person NEEDS a car: a person WANTS a BMW. It really doesn't matter if a women has kids or not... she is still a woman. The baby daddy is the BMW, the guy she settles for is the 10 year old used Ford F150. She will use the Ford, and be glad she has it, but she will always want the BMW.
I date single moms... but if you are an emotionally weak man you need to stay away from them... here are some things you should look for.
(1) The baby daddy has to still be around and involved with the kids... if the woman says she was abused and doesn't get along with the father of her children, then run don't walk. She is looking for someone to save her and you are replacing her bad emotional decision. Trust me on this one... sometimes relationships just end, and it really isn't anyone's fault.
(2) She has more than one father of her kids. This goes without saying why this is a problem.
(3) She has kids but was never married.
(4) Her minor kids have signs of emotional or physical problems.
(5) She is a fvcking mess, her car is a wreak, her apartment is a mess, her purse is a mess, her finances are a mess. (well this is true for all women).