Single after a 2.5 year relationship - Already playing but need practice

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It's been a long time since I visited this forum. It's amazing how much I've learnt since I left this place.

Let me start off with my new situation. I broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years about 3 weeks ago. Tonight is the first night since I moved her out from my place yesterday. The reason I broke up with her is basically that she was psychotic and bad for me. I kept on wanting the sex more than was good for me, and she kept me insanely busy with hordes of problems that weren't really worth any of my time in retrospect.

During our 2.5 year relationship, I've slept with at least 8 different women. Usually during times when she was out of town or when I was on holiday. Basically I never considered her worthy enough not to cheat. Actually, pretty much all of the women were more attractive than my ex-girlfriend.

Since last time I was on here I graduated, I started my own company, I've traveled the world, I've grown a lot. I'm a catch to most women, except that I'm poor, nearly homeless and still work about 60 hours per week without getting paid even one cent. I moved to Amsterdam and I know almost no one in this entire city.


Now here is the situation: I want to get back in the game.

I've already got two girls I wouldn't mind getting with and who like me a lot as well. One is an HB8.5 with an awesome body and a cute face who just broke up with her boyfriend and nearly slept with me once already months ago, the other is an HB7 who would probably suck my d*ck if I called her but who's basically just a drunk slut. It's not good enough to focus on these two. I met them while I had a girlfriend and I've been in the friend zone for way too long, plus it's too much work for the already somewhat flaky nature of these girls.

I really have to get back out there, but I seriously have no idea where to start right now.

Dearest men of advanced skills and experience, please guide me back into game!
 

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Dear Someone,
"I kept on wanting the sex more than was good for me, and she kept me insanely busy with hordes of problems that weren't really worth any of my time in retrospect."I am having this same problem on a larger scale perhaps than you...I have Plates,keeps you sane,and keeps you on your toes....this is part of the answer the other is to downsize,or as some would put it right size...hard to do.
 

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I-am-someone said:
During our 2.5 year relationship, I've slept with at least 8 different women. Usually during times when she was out of town or when I was on holiday. Basically I never considered her worthy enough not to cheat. Actually, pretty much all of the women were more attractive than my ex-girlfriend.
If you slept with eight different women while you were with her, how much more practice do you need?
 

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zekko said:
If you slept with eight different women while you were with her, how much more practice do you need?
Well, the last time I slept outside of the relationship was the summer of last year. That's kind of a long time ago :(
Despite of my past conquests, my DJ skill is pretty limited. These were all one night stands and I honestly don't even know anymore what I did right back then.
My current situation however is completely different.

I'm not in an exciting place in my life, I'm in a city where I know hardly anybody, I have relatively little money and my game is ****ing awful.

You guys have any good places to start? The DJ basics are a bit limited now, but I wouldn't mind getting some reading done to get the right mindset again.
 

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It's good that you broke up with your gf. If you were unhappy enough in the relationship to cheat several times, then it's definitely time to move on.

If you hooked up with eight girls, your game can't be that bad, or even if it is, you evidently have enough in the looks department where game isn't that important.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Hey IAS, well done on getting this far.

I notice you say that both girls you know like you a lot.
If so, then I would try and hang out with them on a regular basis, you don't have to try anything except live in the moment and aim to have fun.

If you need any more advice just post here or PM.
 

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im in same place my brotha ! im 3 days out of a 2.5 year relationship !!!!

it will ok ok bro !
 

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I-am-someone said:
I'm a catch to most women, except that I'm poor, nearly homeless and still work about 60 hours per week without getting paid even one cent.
Wow, what a catch.
 

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Seems to me like you don't need any help, except maybe to question why you're working for free! Simple solution is to walk out of your front door and start meeting people. You obviously have some natural charisma or you wouldn't have had the success you already enjoyed.
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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