Genghis Juan
Senior Don Juan
Hi all,
I got a side project going with an HB9 with low-mod. interest in me. We've been dating since last October at a very low pace of about one date every few weeks. She is inconsistant, sometimes very excited sometimes, telling me she wants to take it slow yadda yadda. She says she doesn't have the time to date other people and hates dating
. She is DEFINITELY serious and marriage-minded. There are two possibilities:
1. She is still "wounded" from previous relations; my friend told me her last bf (whom she was vastly in love with) treated her like crap a few times when he was drunk. They broke up about 10 mos. ago, not sure how long the recovery time is needed because I don't know how long they were together. She has dated a few other "nut jobs" according to an insider. So she may be fearing starting a relationship. She may need time for feelings to settle.
2. She is stringing me along in a rotation or has others she is more interested in.
A few other facts: She does not fit the profile of a "professional dater", she paid for one of the dinners, and we went dutch on the other. Dresses plain, is from the South. At times, she seems nervous and shy, and then asks me alot of personal questions about my past.
Her shpeal, is she wants to be more than friends BUT doesn't want a relationship until she decides if she is staying in Boston or moving back home, but she told me I have "tons" to offer and likes my confidence.
I really don't call her much. We don't contact eachother much so I keep it cool and calm like the breeze. There have been a few times when she said she was going to call or we should date more often and it didn't happen, but I really don't care much and never let her jar me.
I was thinking of a strategy to jar her and get into her head a little though...I was thinking I could give her the LJBF speech first.
I could also play the jealousy game and when she calls I tell her how I was up most of the night at my ex's apt, fixing her computer and how it was a nightmare...yaddah yaddah.
I am looking for some advice and similar experiences related to me from the Masters of this place and how it worked out for you!
Thanks.
I got a side project going with an HB9 with low-mod. interest in me. We've been dating since last October at a very low pace of about one date every few weeks. She is inconsistant, sometimes very excited sometimes, telling me she wants to take it slow yadda yadda. She says she doesn't have the time to date other people and hates dating
. She is DEFINITELY serious and marriage-minded. There are two possibilities:1. She is still "wounded" from previous relations; my friend told me her last bf (whom she was vastly in love with) treated her like crap a few times when he was drunk. They broke up about 10 mos. ago, not sure how long the recovery time is needed because I don't know how long they were together. She has dated a few other "nut jobs" according to an insider. So she may be fearing starting a relationship. She may need time for feelings to settle.
2. She is stringing me along in a rotation or has others she is more interested in.
A few other facts: She does not fit the profile of a "professional dater", she paid for one of the dinners, and we went dutch on the other. Dresses plain, is from the South. At times, she seems nervous and shy, and then asks me alot of personal questions about my past.
Her shpeal, is she wants to be more than friends BUT doesn't want a relationship until she decides if she is staying in Boston or moving back home, but she told me I have "tons" to offer and likes my confidence.
I really don't call her much. We don't contact eachother much so I keep it cool and calm like the breeze. There have been a few times when she said she was going to call or we should date more often and it didn't happen, but I really don't care much and never let her jar me.
I was thinking of a strategy to jar her and get into her head a little though...I was thinking I could give her the LJBF speech first.
I could also play the jealousy game and when she calls I tell her how I was up most of the night at my ex's apt, fixing her computer and how it was a nightmare...yaddah yaddah.
I am looking for some advice and similar experiences related to me from the Masters of this place and how it worked out for you!
Thanks.