sick of this guy

[h2o]

ok, i really need some advice.

i am living with this guy who i don't like very much. he sits in his room all day and watches anime, and then meets women only online. he tries to force 'friendship' with me. as i sit here writing this he is waiting for me to go to lunch with him. i say i'm not hungry...then that i'm going to eat with my friend...he says he'll come too, or that i can eat two lunches. i tried to get to know him, but i seriously don't want to hang out with him...last time we ate together all he talks about is eating out girls he's met online and some other disgusting ****. he brags so ****ing much and supplicates so much to these women it makes me sick. today he was like "the girl wanted me to **** her without a condom, so i did...blah blah blah" he met the chick yesterday online...you're the fool. when he's on the phone he's always being sorry to them for the stupidest things. then waits for them to call him, and he gets 'worried' like crazy if they don't call.

he constantly keeps telling me he's going to get me laid. i don't want to lay the girls he associates with. he's very desperate it seems, and would lay anything with legs and do anything a women tells him to do. he acts like he is a 'player' but the women are actually 'playing' him. then he goes as far as telling me i should approach more women. he says i don't approach or talk to girls. when we go out to eat, he loudly makes these comments, and proceeds to talk about his 'success stories.' real players meet girls in real life? or am i mistaken? this guy acts like he's all that, and seems like he wants to rub it in...but in actuality he's scared ****less when it comes to approaching in real life. hanging out with him is acid to what reputation i have on campus...i don't want to even be known to be associated with such a weirdo.

how can i get rid of this guy?

 

[ScrewIt]

just ignore all his attempts to contact you. if he calls dont pick up, if he says hi when he sees you ignore him.

but the problem is, the more you do this, the more desperate he'll get....it's the only path you can walk now.

this guy doesnt live in the same dorm as you does he?....

 

[h2o]

he's my roommate right now...we live together. i'm going to change rooms def. next semester. but for now it's just frustrating as hell. also, he keeps on reminding me and telling me to do my best to reserve this same room next semester...hell no.

 

[Royal Elite]

it seems to me you two can learn from each other.

If he told you you need to approach and meet more women more then likely that is the case.

He seems to be more forward when it comes to women which is also a good thing since you said he met a chick online yesturday and had sex raw with her today.

He seems to be getting 100% more azz then you, his only problem (since you are telling the story this could actually be your take on it to feel better about him getting way more az z then you) is he is too needy.

You know how not to be needy, so you need to learn the rest of the game from him and teach him how not to be as needy.

 

[sfalexi]

Avoid him like the plague. Spend time in your friend's rooms. I've had living situations like that in college. Or simply tell him to his face that you're not interested and don't want to become his friend. Honesty is what I always aim for (whether you want to hear it or not, I don't pull any shots)

Alexi

 

[h2o]

hey Royal Elite, as obvious as your comment is, i think i get what your saying, and somewhat agree/disagree. i disagree because he doesn't have to rub it in 24/7, and rant on about the explicit details of his encounters. i guess he thinks we're like best friends now or something. though my best friends don't discuss this stuff to me. i do agree with you that he gets "100% more azz" than me. my take on it is that he's too needy b/c he supplicates so much or seems 'clingy,' but you're right he's quick to get in their pants, and in a way i do wonder how he does it, but i just try to reason that they're probably really easy girls. btw, i'm doing an approach journal right now, trying to get 100 approaches by june.

sfalexi, i could spend more time in my other friends' rooms, but eventually i'd have to come back to my room, and still be there for some amount of time...so i actually have been trying this, to avoid him like the plague, but he's still been pretty annoying. i think i'll take RE's advice and try to learn a bit from him, and at the same time tell him straight up why i don't like to hang out with him sometimes.

the other guys in the suite and i don't really 'click' either. they don't pull any chicks at all (like 0% azz), and are more into playing video games all day, every day. so if i have anything in common with anyone in my suite it would be my roommate, if it only weren't for his bragging that pisses me off.

 

[tactic]

punch him in the face

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by tactic
punch him in the face

i can so visualize tactic coming to visit just to punch him for you....
and he would too....

 

[h2o]

this guy is a real *******

Originally posted by tactic
punch him in the face

yeah, i really feel like doing that now. it's been a while before i initially posted this thread, and since then i'd tried taking Royal Elite's advice. so, we'd been hanging out, eating together and stuff.

i think he just needs someone to stroke his ego with. for example, today, we played bball together at the gym. i'm keeping this short and won't get into too much detail. anyway, he's a damn ball hog / show-off who can't pull off the fancy **** he attempts. then he's got the nerve to call me a whimp when i'm out of breath. i know i'm out of shape ... i told him that, and that's why i'm at the gym, to get back in shape. i don't talk ****, and probably made alot of lousy mistakes, but i'm there to have fun.

sure, he's good at sports. but he doesn't have to rub it in my face and act like he's all that.

it's not just sports though, every time he cracks a joke he's got me in the punch line. i make fun of him too, but only to get back at him.

here's the stupidest ****. you know how this guy acts like he can mack girls? well, i still haven't seen him talk to one girl or say hi to one girl he knows even after the numerous times we've hung out.

tonight, we walked by two nice hb9s. when they were like 20 feet from us, he whistles ... you know, the way you would when you see a hot chick. then, he turns to me and says out loud "hey man, why'd you do that?" i don't know why he did that, but am pretty confident, so i just said out loud "cause they were pretty hot." what else would i do? this is the second time he's pulled the same exact thing. first time was in the gym, and 2 chicks were walking in front of us, and he did that same thing. what's the point, what does he expect to get out of that? (and i've mentioned this to him ... he just laughs and changes the subject)

he's got to be insecure or have some problems. i've confronted him on several occasions, but he doesn't take me seriously. he doesn't seem to know anyone else or have any other people to hang out with besides me. so maybe this is why he is somewhat attached? or is this why other people won't hang out with him?

 

[Luveno]

Sounds to me you got a real showoff on your hands...he knows he's awkward around girls in real life, so he wants you around to rag on and look superior to.
What I'd do is question the fact that he doesn't seem to have any friends. Ask him why. Ask him where he came from and what he did there, and who he hung out with there.
Tell him that you don't want to hear about his sexual exploits, and that his women aren't attractive so its only gross to you.
Next time you see a hot girl and hes with you, whistle and then blame him. Give him a taste of his own medicine.

And the kicker...

If you have another group of friends, get him to follow along. If your other group of friends is anything like you, they'll alienate him. Make it clear to these guys that your roomate is an annoying guy who follows you around. Now, any time that you go with your friends he'll feel awkward because they give him the cold shoulder, so he probably won't come.
If he asks you about it, just tell him that they find him annoying, and that you feel the same way.

If at all possible, get a roomate switch. If he does narcotics, rat on him and get him kicked out. Living in a box with an ******* is a terrible thing, for sure.

 

[h2o]

yeah, he is awkward around girls in real life. last night he was trying to talk to our ra (the attractive one that all the other guys in my suite worship ... every time she walks into our suite, all the guys quickly crowd around her and do whatever she says and ****), and he talked so fast, loud, his face getting red and **** ... the way i used to be though, months before finding this site. except he's the one who brags about his experiences. he hasn't done that in awhile though, and i don't know if he finally got a clue, or if he just hasn't been getting any ass in a while.

yeah, well, the problem is my other group of friends was the guys in my suite when i first got here. when i hung out with them my roommate never came with us, and even the times we offered him to drink with us he would buy a drink and go to his room to drink buy himself. so he was isolated. the other guys warned me about him. i decided they were idiots for judging someone before getting to know them, so i tried to get to know the guy.

but after being disrespected by those same suitemates who i thought were my friends ... and who are so immature and high-schoolish that i don't want to hang out with them anyway (or think of them as friends), i can't really pull-off that suggestion. they stay in their rooms and play video games when it's 80 degrees outside ... that's why i went to the gym with my roommate, because the others won't even go outside.

man, he's stupid too. he asks to go to lunch with me, and i say i'd rather eat alone. so he says "ok, then i'll come with you." wtf? i don't know if he's that stupid, or just pretends.

at the moment, my best friend has taken the rest of the semester off to travel abroad, but before that we hung out alot and so i was busy and away from this guy.

next time he asks though, i'll tell him to go eat with other friends, and ask him if he has any.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by h2o
hey Royal Elite, as obvious as your comment is, i think i get what your saying, and somewhat agree/disagree. i disagree because he doesn't have to rub it in 24/7, and rant on about the explicit details of his encounters. i guess he thinks we're like best friends now or something. though my best friends don't discuss this stuff to me. i do agree with you that he gets "100% more azz" than me. my take on it is that he's too needy b/c he supplicates so much or seems 'clingy,' but you're right he's quick to get in their pants, and in a way i do wonder how he does it, but i just try to reason that they're probably really easy girls. btw, i'm doing an approach journal right now, trying to get 100 approaches by june.

sfalexi, i could spend more time in my other friends' rooms, but eventually i'd have to come back to my room, and still be there for some amount of time...so i actually have been trying this, to avoid him like the plague, but he's still been pretty annoying. i think i'll take RE's advice and try to learn a bit from him, and at the same time tell him straight up why i don't like to hang out with him sometimes.

the other guys in the suite and i don't really 'click' either. they don't pull any chicks at all (like 0% azz), and are more into playing video games all day, every day. so if i have anything in common with anyone in my suite it would be my roommate, if it only weren't for his bragging that pisses me off.

Why don't you just tell him that you don't want to hear the details of his intimate contact with others? Tell him it sorta grosses you out and leads you to not want to be around him. Show him this site and both of you work on your weaknesses and strengths together and then become each other's "wingmen". And for God's sake...go to planned parenthood and get him some condoms.

 

[silverwex]

Remember the concept of CHALLENGE and DESPERATION?

DONT run away or avoid him - heres what you should do (its hard but might just be effective!):

Always hang around with him, always ask him to go get a bite to eat, constantly interrupt him when hes watching his 'anime', wake him up in the middle of the night asking him to play PS2 with you, when hes in the toilet knock on the door and ask can he hurry up coz u wanna chat to him and finally...

Tell him you love him and cant live without him!

That should get him freaked out and outta the house fast!

lol.

 

[PRMoon]

Bide your time and wait to move out. Then when he approaches you next just tell him how it is, nobody will blame you.

I have a "Friend" kinda like this, but fortunately I don't live with him. I put up with him for certain personal reasons but needless to say I blow him off whenever the opportunity arises. Since you do live with yours there really isn't too much you can do other then suck it up and just drop him later. Making things more awkward for you the both of you right now could also work like ignoring him and what not but that'll make things uncomfortble for the both of you. If you're okay with that I'd go that route too.

I don't think you have too much to learn from this guy, as previously stated. You seem like the type who just needs a quality wing man to help get into the DJ mentality. He's probably a severe anchor in the grand design of your plan to meet girls in a positive social light. I'm VERY much against utilizing the internet to meet girls, I've posted sooo many times as to why it's bad and your roomie is a perfect example of what can happen if you get too caught up in the internet.