Sick of disappoint from women and the game.

[solo1]

So a couple weeks ago i broke up with my gf. it was kind of mutual.
When i saw its demise coming, i decided to get a head start on the girls in my class.

girl A) easily clicked and she lives 1 train stop from me. Been kinoing teasing..etc from the start. But she also told me she had a bf and was living with him. i thought screw the bf, ill keep working on her. Anyway needless to say i gave her enough chances, but she clearly isnt interested and is just in it for flirting purposes.

girl B) acqantance from class...talk to her every so often but i speak to her like an acqauance, she's seen me attempt to game girl A. And for a moment, she was nice to me...eventually she tried to get my email and invited me to go to an event with her. But doesnt matter - A) im not interested in her B) event didnt fit into my schedule C) she also has a bf (fed up with women with bfs!)

girl C) only really had a real convo w/her in one class...went real smooth with kino. asked her out and she said she couldnt.

other than that, i've nexted these women. And lately i find myself not caring about PU anymore, no motivation to....women are just trouble and a hassle to maintain. now i've just resorted to searching for women on the web...

i know my game isn't rock solid yet, but im working on it.
about teasing/c&f, how often should it be done? 1:3 times i see her or every time?

anyway think im just in a rut now, any advice is welcome...

 

[Jariel]

I've been there many times the past year. Had a lot of "prospects" who I flirted with, even dated, but never amounted to anything. I started to realise most if not all of them fancied me, enjoyd my company and attention, but were stuck in a comfort zone and weren't willing to take any chances. Some girls who rejected me were simply scared of getting hurt or didn't think they could handle me (a lot of them thought I was a player). Others just didn't want to be tied down. Girls like this won't even date casually or go for one night stands because they fear getting too involved and having to make too many changes. They prefer playing it safe and comfortable...just like a lot of guys on this site! With these women there is NOTHING you can do or could have done to change the situation - they need to sort their issues out for themselves.

I've noticed this trend mostly with younger girls (early 20s). I used to take it very personally and feel disheartened like you, but I now believe it's just a matter of picking the right women and not placing too much hope on any one of them.

My suggestion is to keep doing what you have been doing - keep flirting, keep an open mind and next girls who show any hesitation. This is what I did and after a lot of rejections and failures I just happened to meet a great girl who wanted the same thing as me and who is now my girlfriend.

 

[insidious]

Good advice from Jariel.

Solo, it's a numbers game and it's so easy to fall into the trap of believing you can make it work all the time on any girl. Truth is, there are as many reasons not to hook up with <fill in your name here> as there are women.

Don't place undue importance on any woman and try to filter them a little better so you aren't banging your head against the wall over a girl who you never had a chance with.

 

[saki]

If you didnt get the girl in for a f*uck or otherwise you failed, simple as that. I have went through this many times and I think if your good enough they will leave their bf no matter what.

 

[oakraiderz2]

I have went through this many times and I think if your good enough they will leave their bf no matter what.

So if a girl has been in a relationship for two years but cheats and doesnt leave her bf then youre not good enough? Two years is a long time and theres a level of comfortability she has with her bf, along with other factors that are probably unknown.

 

[saki]

So if a girl has been in a relationship for two years but cheats and doesnt leave her bf then youre not good enough? Two years is a long time and theres a level of comfortability she has with her bf, along with other factors that are probably unknown.

If cheated with you, you WERE good enough. If she ends up with you and the girl leaves her boyfriend you WERE also good enough. Even if she has a security issues, if your that good, you will have her one way or the other.

 

[solo1]

Some girls who rejected me were simply scared of getting hurt or didn't think they could handle me (a lot of them thought I was a player). .

player part is a possibility. But this semester some girls i run into or talk to on a regular basis, they're pretty cool. The moment i show the slightest interest, something triggers in their head and they start putting up a shield and may be a litte aloof...and every other time i may see them glancing over.
it's confusing, some are interested and act disinterested. Some are disinterested and act interested. The genuine ones..who do as they mean, well are rare. Rejection before you even get a chance is well...B.S.
Finding a way to get through to them is the hardest part...
Cant even tell what's real or fake anymore

Don't place undue importance on any woman and try to filter them a little better so you aren't banging your head against the wall over a girl who you never had a chance with.

im not, im just exhausted of investing effort/time into something that never was. to have expectations is one thing, but to have them shattered is a disappointment. It's like trying to find a needle in a haystack

So if a girl has been in a relationship for two years but cheats and doesnt leave her bf then youre not good enough? Two years is a long time and theres a level of comfortability she has with her bf, along with other factors that are probably unknown.

that's the point, even tho she may cheat, it doesnt mean anything will happen. As jariel stated, some make themselves available when in reality they are emotionally/physically unavailable. They dont want to become vulnerable and leave their secure comfort zone.

but the heads up should get me back on track i think. btw, those women i nexted were all older than me. hate to say it but im a PM student, and anyone on campus around that time are mostly older than me...which is somewhat depressing.