Shy, introverted personalities may lead to ANTI-SOCIAL BEHAVIOR and ultimately end up in the "oh hell no" catergory.
Lets look at some classic symptoms of shy guys:
1) BODY LANGUAGE-no direct eye contact,looks at floor, arms folded, hands in pockets, rarely smiles,etc
2) APPEARS UNFRIENDLY-never says hello/goodbye to anyone, never speaks up or voices his opinion,quiet, reserved, sits in the back to blend in, rarely engages in conversations, does not laugh, reads/writes,eats lunch in his car, avoids crowded places,gets embarassed easily,etc.
Now I am not saying be over-excited either as most people hate chatty chaps or Mr. Know it all offering his opinion on every subject (sort of like many people on this forum).
I will agree there are times when less is more, silence is golden, and ACTING a little shy can in fact work to your advantage.
Anti-social behavior is often interpreted as an subtle form of a hostile act. Many people take it very personal when they interact with someone who is quiet. They feel they did/said something wrong to offend you, you do not like them, and some interpret your soft spokeness as a hidden agenda or creepiness. Very few people want to be around people who appear un-friendly. It almost always stems from a low self esteem issue. People can be confident but if you lack social skills you will end up alienating everyone around you. My advice, fake it if you have to, it may not be genuine but with a little practice, very few people will notice the difference. The results for a something like a little smile will be rewarding.
Lets look at some classic symptoms of shy guys:
1) BODY LANGUAGE-no direct eye contact,looks at floor, arms folded, hands in pockets, rarely smiles,etc
2) APPEARS UNFRIENDLY-never says hello/goodbye to anyone, never speaks up or voices his opinion,quiet, reserved, sits in the back to blend in, rarely engages in conversations, does not laugh, reads/writes,eats lunch in his car, avoids crowded places,gets embarassed easily,etc.
Now I am not saying be over-excited either as most people hate chatty chaps or Mr. Know it all offering his opinion on every subject (sort of like many people on this forum).
I will agree there are times when less is more, silence is golden, and ACTING a little shy can in fact work to your advantage. Anti-social behavior is often interpreted as an subtle form of a hostile act. Many people take it very personal when they interact with someone who is quiet. They feel they did/said something wrong to offend you, you do not like them, and some interpret your soft spokeness as a hidden agenda or creepiness. Very few people want to be around people who appear un-friendly. It almost always stems from a low self esteem issue. People can be confident but if you lack social skills you will end up alienating everyone around you. My advice, fake it if you have to, it may not be genuine but with a little practice, very few people will notice the difference. The results for a something like a little smile will be rewarding.
