Shy guys turned DJs.

[wootapotky]

How long did it take you guys to get over your shyness talking to people and fear of public places? I just found this site a week ago and I'm curious because at home I think to myself I'm not going to be shy anymore and care what others think about me but the second I go to a place with a lot of people there I start to tense up. I'm not as bad today as I was a week ago though.

 

[Heizen]

I went through my 'initiation' not too long ago. The time where you know that you need to pick up your balls and just go. I will tell you things will be SO much easier if you start with a wing.

Just think; NOTHING bad will come of it. Rejection is ultimatly nothing, the girls wont remember ('less you pick em up ) and it leads to a better life overall.

So go out, pick up your balls, and talk to the first HB you see

 

[gav]

my first solid attempt at getting rid of any shyness took me one week (freshers week though (college induction sort of thing) which involved a lot of alcohol) and i was fully socialised

 

[AnkleBreaker]

Just take it slow at first go to a place youve never been talk to one person youve never talked to, like a simple hi whats your name blah blah it was nice to meet you thing.

Just try to not care about anything around you, nobody really analyzes everything you do as much as you think, they could care less about who you are or what your doing ther.

If you have sumthing to say, say it dont hold it in, if you see a girl ask her for a name.

You cant overcome shyness if you dont do anything thats uncomfortable for you. Its hard the first time but trust me it gets way easier to the point wher its like it never even happend.

Took me about a year but thats me maybe less for you.

 

[MarcP]

Well I was really focused on getting the shyness away so it took me about 4 days I'd say but I was out for like 5+ hours a day. I was just saying totally crazy things and all that. If you say stupid things then when you go back to normally talking with girls its not a big deal. I also didn't just talk to girls I'd talk to everyone.

 

[JSH]

Man, i hate repeating advice, but as ankle breaker says take it slow and build up, this is why somehting like the DJ Bootcamp (which i have to admit i have never finished), even if you just do the early stages, is good. Another thing to do is set targets, if you dont set targets you will never fail and dissapoint yourself (which is good if you are feeling depressed), but if you do set targets and are upset you go out detirmined to prove to yourself.

I never was amazingly shy, just shy in approaching random girls (because i was scared what they would think) and even now i cant always do it, because often i lose the opportunity, they walk away after 10 secs.

I was uncomfortable having people take notice of me in a public place and to a certain extent, still am, but its not a fear of them. Now, i dotn mind clowning around. I live in London (huge place), so i find what works best is will these people ever see me again and will they remember what i did, even if i do it. If its something really stupid, then i wont do it, if not, youll be incognito enough that they will never remember you and therefore you wont be seen as stupid.

 

[wootapotky]

I wasn't asking for advice. I just wanted to know how long it took for you guys to get over your shyness. I've looked at the Bible for how to get over shyness. I just wanted a timetable to kind of see where I should be and try and do it a little faster.

 

[Sterling the Runner]

The more strangers you talk to the faster it disipates.

 

[Jason#4]

I used to be shy, not so much anymore. I blame it on my parents. They'd always tell me not to talk to strangers. So I didn't talk at all. Thanks mom and dad.

Jason

 

[TinyFzzyKiwi]

im starting 2 get better 2. ive kinda been tryin 2 do the dj bible, just kinda doin stuff from it when im out and about. also, tryin 2 hang out wit some new ppl that i dont no 2 well. seems 2 be helping my confidance, social skill and humor some. But, im still kinda on the shy side, guess i havnt been focusing enuf on improving myself on everything i need.

 

[xomel]

i dont know, 6 months ago i was really shy.

now theres no social situation im affraid of.

it just happend. i just pushed my self to do it.

 

[PatZull]

Remember that shyness tends to hunt you back, when you start to believe you have finally defeated it. So, always be on guard, always be doing new and exciting things!

Originally posted by Jason#4
I used to be shy, not so much anymore. I blame it on my parents. They'd always tell me not to talk to strangers. So I didn't talk at all. Thanks mom and dad.

Jason

So you wanted to end up in some freak's fridge or on some guy's d1ck? Be glad that you had parents to protect you and give you advice!