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Shy girls...ATTRACT or RAPPORT first?

j8snx1

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Alright fella's here's the catch:
I read from the Mystery Method thing about the 3 crucial steps:

ATTRACTION------->RAPPORT------->SEDUCTION
This 3 step method is pure genius, since it generalizes the DJ methods in 3 simple words!

attraction: C&F, kino, positive attitude, social proof, etc.

rapport: conversations (fun, deep, related, meaningful, etc) and dates.

seduction: massages, inviting her over, foreplay, sex, watever.

So now that I sort of showed what the 3 step process is all about, I want to get to my question.

Shy girls! They are a pain in the neck sometimes, especially in the attraction stage. In my situations, shy girls sometimes don't go with the flow when I'm doing C&F and Kino (I use them lightly so I don't go overboard with these emotional rollercoasters). Some said I should build the RAPPORT first (in which I'm stepping a crucial stage called ATTRACTION) then ATTRACT. Others say I should use ATTRACT methods (putting myself at a risk, since the shygirl(s) might get offended by the attraction stuff), and if she doesn't like it, move on.

I am not quite sure which one to rely on, since there are pro's and con's for either methods. Therefore, I ask you DJ's....

When it comes to shy girls, which method should come first:

ATTRACTION: (C/F, kino, blah blah blah)

or

RAPPORT: (Convo's, get to know her better, relate thru convos, blah blah blah)

???
 

Q-Pid

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Shy Girls = Emphasis on rapport, with limited attraction.
Party Girls = Emphasis on Attraction, little rapport.

Normal girls have a balanced(ish) mixture of each.
 

comote

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Always attract first, yes you do have to build rapport with a shy girl but you should always lay down the ****y funny right away. As you get more involved let the rapport show in your ****y funny. Make jokes, tease her in ways that she feels are unique to her.
 

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Rapport. You have to make them feel comfortable around you and allow them to express themselves.
 

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kino is so important.

You need to be doing it on the first date. Tell her a story (rapport), as you are talking, touch her hand.

Hold her hand when your walking somewhere.

Touch her leg in the car, not in a sexual way just as your telling her a story sort of touch her leg quickly.

I do this alot, and it works.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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