show interest, or not?

[SnowBlind77]

Since being on here ive heard alot of different and contradictory things, especially recently. One thing im not to sure on is when meeting a girl, do you show your interest about her right away, or do you just act aloof like you dont care, and try and make her chase you. Does flirting show interest, or is flirting just flirting? Ive heard from some people to just not even care about the outcome, and ust try and have fun with the girl, letting whatever happens happen. If i should show interest, how should i go about doing it?

 

[The_flying_dutchman]

I've always taught it was somewhat of a contradiction that a DJ, whom is supposed to be comfortable with expressing his desires, has to resort to playing silly games like hard-to-get and acting aloof, as is always being stated on this site.

The type of DJ that I'm aspiring to be is one that doesn't resort to memorizing lines or playing games, but just a real man who has the balls to tell a girl straight up if he's attracted to her or not. I honestly can't picture myself wasting time planning out what my next move is gonna be when persuing a female.

But you gotta remember that there's a difference between being upfront with desires and drooling all over a girl.

 

[AngelusPUA]

Snowblind this is a good question so I will give you as best answer that i can.

I've met bad boys you know the type a little arrogant but you can tell they get alot of women just by ignoring them and I have met jokers that are ****y, funny, they use eye contact and engage in conversation and they get a lot of women. I use my methods (James Bond, cool laid back kind of thing) which differ from both the above and I get a lot of women.

What is my point you ask?

Well to use an old cliché there is more than one way to skin a cat.

The methods you use should be methods that compliment your personality. Learning to seduce women is not about becoming an entirely different person, it’s about becoming a better person. Use methods that amplify who you are, not methods that are unnatural to you.

If I meet a guy that is a bit arrogant and a bit of a di*khead but has problems with women I will teach him something akin to the "show little interest" method because it complements the attitude and skills he already has. If I meet a happy go-lucky person I will teach him methods akin to David DeAngelo method using C+F and so on because that’s a more open method. If I meet a guy that’s shy and shadowy he can easily pickup Mystery Method because it compliments his character. If i meet somebody like me confident and sophisticated I will help him out by teaching him a James Bond kind of method.

Understand what I’m saying?

So ask your self "what kind of guy am I?" and go from there. Don't try to be something you are not.

Tell me what type of guy you consider yourself to be and I will recomend some reading material.

 

[SnowBlind77]

well first thanks for the reply, this one was good . anyways, im not sure how i would classify myself, cuz i can be different all the time. If anything id say ahppy go lucky, cuz that kind of reflects the kind of life im living right now, im just trying to get out there and experience as much as i can. But i can also sometimes be "shy and shadowy". Confidence is still something i have to work on, but its definitly becoming engraved in my personality, getting stronger each day.

 

[AngelusPUA]

Well hit limewire and get some of David DeAngelo's stuff or if you a "good guy" you can buy it. Happy go-lucky people have a lot more luck with DeAngelos stuff because it requires a lot of joking and wit but you can also mix in some mystery. So yeh my advice is to check out some of his stuff his main book is called “double you’re dating” and its definitely worth a read.

 

[jigga23]

dude do whatever the fvck you want. if you wanna flirt then do it. if your interested show that you are. if she doesnt show the same back off and see what happens. fvck all this analyzing sh!t im doing something different from now on. if i want to do or say something thats within reason im doing it.

 

[sleser]

AngelusPUA:

You told us that you are using James Bond methods. Could you explain what those are, and if there are books or some other material on that.