Should you ever tell a girl that you like her?

Hakuna

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No.

You SHOW a girl that you like her through your sexual advances and Game, you never tell her directly. Although seemingly a trivial difference in semantics, the way you go about this makes a huge difference in a girls perception of you.

If you tell a girl you like her, the challenge for her instantly evaporates. You are no longer the prize, and more importantly, you have eliminated all of her social anxiety. She doesn’t feel a competitive need to seduce you away from other women. You have already claimed exclusivity. Think about what women need from relationships. Nourishment / protection i e; affection and attention. Men in return need sex. If you tell a girl you like her, you are essentially completing her side of the dynamic. She does not need to give you anything in return, she already has what she wants from you. Her preponderance of your mind is complete, she can save her sexuality for a guy more Alpha than you who will give her better offspring. You will see all too often that a guy drops his cards on a table and it seems like a relationship will occur between a girl and a guy and then she ends up LJBFing him.

If you SHOW a girl you like her through your sexual advances, you don’t remove yourself from the social market. In this scenario, she realizes that you are interested but that she must qualify herself to you in order to preserve your fidelity and attention. The more she thinks that another woman might find you and snatch you away, the more she will be inclined to get into a relationship with you.

The former method builds a sense of desperation and kills a woman’s imagination (critical to building mystery). The latter builds a sense of suspense and sexual tension.

For all the high school and college guys out there wondering day and night “should I tell her I like her?” The answer is no. You show her, but you don’t tell her. You flirt, but you don’t tell her you’ve forsaken all others. You ask for her number, but you don't tell her "You're the only girl I like talking to." And most of all, she must feel a sense of closure without exclusivity. I e; that if your relationship doesn’t escalate, you will be able to find someone else besides her, you’re not just some AFC whose going to be chasing her around forever.
 

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Hakuna said:
No.

You SHOW a girl that you like her through your sexual advances and Game, you never tell her directly. Although seemingly a trivial difference in semantics, the way you go about this makes a huge difference in a girls perception of you.

If you tell a girl you like her, the challenge for her instantly evaporates. You are no longer the prize, and more importantly, you have eliminated all of her social anxiety. She doesn’t feel a competitive need to seduce you away from other women. You have already claimed exclusivity. Think about what women need from relationships. Nourishment / protection i e; affection and attention. Men in return need sex. If you tell a girl you like her, you are essentially completing her side of the dynamic. She does not need to give you anything in return, she already has what she wants from you. Her preponderance of your mind is complete, she can save her sexuality for a guy more Alpha than you who will give her better offspring. You will see all too often that a guy drops his cards on a table and it seems like a relationship will occur between a girl and a guy and then she ends up LJBFing him.

If you SHOW a girl you like her through your sexual advances, you don’t remove yourself from the social market. In this scenario, she realizes that you are interested but that she must qualify herself to you in order to preserve your fidelity and attention. The more she thinks that another woman might find you and snatch you away, the more she will be inclined to get into a relationship with you.

The former method builds a sense of desperation and kills a woman’s imagination (critical to building mystery). The latter builds a sense of suspense and sexual tension.

For all the high school and college guys out there wondering day and night “should I tell her I like her?” The answer is no. You show her, but you don’t tell her. You flirt, but you don’t tell her you’ve forsaken all others. You ask for her number, but you don't tell her "You're the only girl I like talking to." And most of all, she must feel a sense of closure without exclusivity. I e; that if your relationship doesn’t escalate, you will be able to find someone else besides her, you’re not just some AFC whose going to be chasing her around forever.
This is absolutely correct. The other risk in telling her you like her is you set yourself up to be the subject of gossip. She WILL tell her girlfriend. Her girlfriend will tell another girl and so forth. Then your classmates will be saying, "Hey, I hear you really like so and so." It's nobody's f*cking business who you like.
 
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