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Should she be nexted?

h_amati

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Was introduced to a girl at a party by a common friend. Waited 3 weeks to call her and she gladly accepted, date went very well she could not keep her hands off me. She called two days later to ask if we could go for a movie later and chatted a bit, I said I was busy and said I'll call you later.

Called her this morning and asked her out tonite. She called about 4 hrs later with some excuse about a girlfriend's reunion she had forgotten all about.

She apologized profusely and said that we should see each other next week. I said, "I don't know, I'll call you." She apologized and explained again and said we should call each other next week.

She then said that tomorrow she has another reunion with some common friends and that I should come and meet her. I said I would try, she replied "OK try to come, bye."

Sounds like a genuine flake, but should I next her when I asked her out on such short notice?
 

TesuqueRed

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Not yet. She may be backing off because she may perceive that you are not as into her as she was into you initially. She's protecting herself, I think...
 

myfriendblu

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Yea, I say go for it. She seems to have at least decent IL because of the quick counteroffer. Go for it, and post us a field report.:)
 

DJ_Dork

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Yo Afc, stop using the term NEXT when you only went on one date.
 

myfriendblu

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Originally posted by DJ_Dork
Yo Afc, stop using the term NEXT when you only went on one date.
I NEXT quite a few girls after one date, in fact, I NEXT at least 1/2 of my first daters if not more
 

h_amati

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Originally posted by DJ_Dork
Yo Afc, stop using the term NEXT when you only went on one date.
Well, let's not make this into a discussion about the correct usage of the term NEXT. To put it in doc Love's terms, should I take her number and throw it away?
 

Dust 2 Dust

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Not yet. I would give her the benifit of the doubt and one more chance.
 

kyokon

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Called her this morning and asked her out tonite
dunno about the social climate in your neighborhood but the chances of that working out are usually pretty slim aren't they? especially on a Saturday etc. give her a break
i wouldn't call her a genuine flake until she has done something like that more than once. hell, people do forget things man.
 

Pimp-sicle

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Why would you NEXT her? She's counter offered and then invited you to a reunion she had planned. I definitely think she senses that your not as into her as she is to you. Here's a principal you should understand:

The whole "being busy," "don't call too soon" ARE GUIDELINES!! They are there so you can resist the urge to go AFC on a girl. However if your getting green lights all the around, you don't have to go from 1st to 2nd to hit a homerun. Just run straight ahead!!! Who waits 3 weeks to call a girl they # closed?? :rolleyes:


Anyways, I think her interest level is definitely there, but she's not crossing her fingers hoping you'll like her. You might have to dig yourself out of this mini ditch that your building.


PIMP
 
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