Should I text her after this? Please help! :)

[silverwex]

Please read and then try ans my q:

Hi all,

Right im gonna cut this short...

Theres this girl who used to be kinda after me. I was an AFC back then and she kinda messed me round (dont worry this will never happen again! )

Anyway, i decided to ignore her and go after other chicks. Two weeks ago she called into my workplace looking for me (i wasnt working that day).

Then a few days ago she was calling me in the local bar, i said hi and walked off and continued to talk my mates.

The next day im in the local club and im sitting down with friends, from across the room she (lets call her MARY) keeps looking over in my direction (i presume she wants me to go over and talk to her). I ignore her and my mate tells me that she keeps looking over. I then have to go to the toilet and as im walking across the dancefloor, in the corner of my eye i think i see her looking over (shes dancing) but i look straight ahead and go about my business. At the end of the night her mate, who is a mate of mine too, tells me that MARY wasnt very impressed with me not going over to her. I dont put any pass on this.

My friends think im acting stupid and that i should go over and chat to her, but isnt ignoring her the thing to do to raise her IL? Or should i say hi and see how shes getting on - e.g. dangle the carrott in front of her so to speak?

Any advice/thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks all!

That was my previous post. Ive decided to dangle the carrott, so to speak, by getting in contact with her and then backing off.

The prob is that i only really see her at the weekends so i was wondering should i text(sms) her today on her cell? If so, what should i say? Thanks all! Need help!

 

[DJ Logic]

dont text her or call man. you have desperation written all over you! wait a few more days until you see her and then just lavish her with attention for a few minutes, remember...nothing bothers a DJ so if she tries to give you sh!t about ignoring her, just smile and say you are touched that she has missed you so much. I would personally give her a hug at this point and say, "Have I hurt your feelings? there there...am i forgiven?" and charm her pants off for a while before you politely excuse yourself to talk to someone else. Try to get her alone, and if you cant do this, keep pouring on that sporadic attention. Everyone wants what they can ALMOST have! Oh, and Do yourself another favor ..take all this pressure off yourself. Find some other chicks to practice your skills on and this one won´t mean as much to you.

good luck!

 

[Quick]

I don't think a text would show desperation necessarily, but she's not going to forget about you over the course of this week so it's not required. You might hurt yourself more than help if you say the wrong thing, so skip it.

Follow everything Logic said to the letter.

 

[silverwex]

Geez guys you're so helpful! I really appreciate it.

By the way im not really desperate... come to think of it im not desperate for her at all! But she is a 9. I have some other chicks to work on so shes not unique. Any other thoughts? Thanks again!

 

[Bungo Pony]

Theres this girl who used to be kinda after me. I was an AFC back then and she kinda messed me round (dont worry this will never happen again! )

Ah, the sexond shot as a DJ. I've done this successfully.

Ive decided to dangle the carrott, so to speak, by getting in contact with her and then backing off.

The prob is that i only really see her at the weekends so i was wondering should i text(sms) her today on her cell? If so, what should i say? Thanks all! Need help!

Your best bet is to forget about texting her. Keep chasing after other girls, flirting with them, dating them. When you run into her again, go up to her and make some small chat, like you and her are just buddies. Make a c/f comment, then go off and flirt with other women. Let her see how much fun these other women are having with you. You'll have her druling over you.

The trick with retrying an old girl is that you have to slowly break them into your new DJ personality. They have to know that you've changed before you can go for them.

Everytime you see her talk to her a little bit more, and be sure to use kino. After you've done this a few times, ask her out - IN PERSON.