Should I stay or go?

[Ozel599]

A few months ago my GF's father passed away, her ex attended the funeral, I didn't have an issue with this at all.

Anyway, GF now doing well. The other day she must have logged into her facebook on my phone. I was clearing out the notification centre thingy on my iPhone yesterday when I came across a couple of messages from her ex.

I don't know what she has sent, she has clearly wished him happy birthday but his response is quite passive just saying thanks etc. Although there is another one from him saying "ok speak soon x". Looks like my GF has been doing all the initiating.

I get this is a major red flag, but is it too harsh to end the relationship just on this?

We have been living together for 2 years. I cannot see any reason why she should even consider contacting him. She claims they broke up has when he met somebody else while on a lads holiday. My GF doesn't have any ties with him, such as children or anything outstanding financially.

I have not spoke to her about it, and will be doing this tonight.

Could be looking into this too much, but recently she is wanting sex a lot more than usual. I looked at his profile, they are not "facebook freinds" but it shows he is single.

Just feel like maybe the whole situation a few months ago triggered her emotions to him.

 

[Alpheta]

why would you go? Dont let her know you know. Detach feelings and keep smashing her and spin plates. If she leaves you, good, you were ready. If not then kool.

 

[bigneil]

Don't give us this "she must have used my phone" crap. You must have used HER phone. Stop spying on her, you wuss. You deserve to see her in bondage videos when you do that.

Oh and what a nice, nice man you are to let your girlfriend's ex attend her fathers funeral! Who says you're a possessive control freak?

Want her to like you more? Improve yourself, don't lock her in her room and whine to us about it. Or better yet, boot her out. You've been miserable for at least a year.

 

[GotED?]

Little grasshoppa......

This is true what experienced DJ's here are saying:

The key to being a Don Juan and master of your own ship and destiny with women, is being able to WALK AWAY AT ANYTIME.

This means, if she chooses someone else - WALK AWAY AT ANYTIME.

This also means, you can CARE LESS about what she does. You believe in yourself, who you are as a man, what you are worth, and if the woman in your life wastes your time, then WALK AWAY AT ANYTIME.

Because you are more important than anyone else in the world.

This is called self-love.

Be well,

Exodus

 

[Lozboss]

Don't give us this "she must have used my phone" crap. You must have used HER phone. Stop spying on her, you wuss. You deserve to see her in bondage videos when you do that.

Oh and what a nice, nice man you are to let your girlfriend's ex attend her fathers funeral! Who says you're a possessive control freak?

Want her to like you more? Improve yourself, don't lock her in her room and whine to us about it. Or better yet, boot her out. You've been miserable for at least a year.

This is no benefit. Regardless if he was spying on her phone she's still up to no good.
It doesn't matter how a betrayer is caught- it's that she's caught.

OP: I'd confront her. If she tried to blow up at you about invasion of privacy don't take that sh*t.

Be Prepared to walk away/ kick her out if she doesn't comply - as pairs said.

 

[stevo]

Your self confidence and self esteem is presently low that's why you care so much about the ex contact.

Honestly, I would not worry.

I know its easy to say and all that but really you have no reason to worry.

She's asking for more sex, give it to her and give it to her good. Don't complain about it.

She talks with her ex? ok cool, nothing wrong with it.

She can talk to whoever she wants to talk to, never forget that.


At any point in the relationship when you feel constantly disrespected or you no longer want to deal with her BS then you walk.

Controlling what she does or who she talks to is over investment, not good.


Do not let her know you know she's in contact with her ex, its like telling a girl about being a DJ and all the ways you make her chase you. That's your private arsenal.

Just be there for her how she wants you to be. If you go snooping around. You just might find what you're looking for.

Do this instead:
Go out with your friends without her, party where she knows there'll be single girls, let her worry about what you could be doing when she's not with you.

Don't give her the upper hand in the relationship. Don't become the beech in the relationship.

 

[Suspens]

Huge offense; no reason to talk to someone you've fvcked in the past. The gina is tingling for him again, for whatever reason.

Dump the cheap hoe in the coldest way possible. Do NOT bring the issue up, if you do, you will look like the one who got dumped and shat on. Act as if you don't find her attractive or sexy anymore, and you are fvcking someone much prettier. And after you have trashed her ego, go ghost.


If she is chatting with her ex using your phone, then she is subtly giving you the hint to GTFO. You don't get it though.

 

[mikey2012]

She's emotionally cheating on you. Why is she wishing some dude HB? DUMP HER A$$

I don't believe she was using your phone though. You probably snooped hers. Why would she send messages on your phone?