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Should I let her miss me, or hit it every opportunity I get?

Bassic

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Okay so last night I scored with this girl I had been pursuing for 2-3 weeks. I rejected her first advance at sex, last weekend in hopes to drive her absolutely mad with sexual interest. It worked beautifully. I had my doubts after a follow up meeting she showed 0 signs of sexual interest. I was a teensy bit worried that I had shot myself in the foot, until last night, the seed I planted last weekend was finally yielding results. She fvcked me good, and I fvcked her even better. 0 effort at all! As soon as I stepped into her house she physically grabbed my shirt and pulled me downstairs, pushed me into her bed, and that's a wrap.

My issue NOW is that she's already trying to get me back to her place tonight. Now I'm still fairly new to this casual dating/sex thing, as I just ended a ****ty 5 year marriage last October (I'm 25 so we were young and extremely stupid). So this is what I want/don't want to come if this relationship;

-I want to have a not so serious relationship, but something a little more than just booty calls. I have been using girls for booty calls since the end of the aforementioned marriage, and it's getting quite dull at this point. I now crave just a small amount of affection, but the bulk of the relationship to be mutual sexual gratification. Now this girl I'm seeing is extremely sexy, and can prolly get any guy she wants into bed so I don't want her interest level to drop at all because she is definitely the hottest girl I've ever been with.

TLDR; So we smashed last night, and now she's persistently hinting that she wants me to come over again tonight. What are your thoughts?? Should I give her some time to miss me or just smash it every opportunity I get?
 

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Homie, practice scarcity. You are busy tonight, as well as tomorrow but you'll get back to her about Sunday. It's law 16 in the 48 laws of power. In fact, this may be a sh!t test from her to see how available you actually are.

This girls sounds hot, so make sure you are spinning plates so you don't end up with oneitis.
 

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MOTU said:
Homie, practice scarcity. You are busy tonight, as well as tomorrow but you'll get back to her about Sunday.
I agree. As long as you tell her not tonight, but tomorrow is fine. The frame that you are going for is: "I will tell you when I want to see you". It's a mind-set, you don't tell her this. I'm a fan of scarcity, if need be, but at times, it's not needed. If it's a LTR, then I use it to pull her back in with attraction.
 

Bassic

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MOTU said:
Homie, practice scarcity. You are busy tonight, as well as tomorrow but you'll get back to her about Sunday. It's law 16 in the 48 laws of power. In fact, this may be a sh!t test from her to see how available you actually are.

This girls sounds hot, so make sure you are spinning plates so you don't end up with oneitis.
Okay I know that a lot of guys swear by this and she's being awfully persistent right now...offering to cook me Dinner if I come and everything...what are the chances she loses interest if I take your advice?
 

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If you already said no and she persuades you then now she controls the frame.

But you probably aren't reading this because you are already b@lls deep in her.
 

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Coming Soon:

"Hey guys, we used to have sex everyday, but now she barely even touches me. She used to call me and said she would cook, now she's asking when I'm going to pick up some fast food on the way back from work. What do I do? Do I ask her to be my girlfriend? Do I read the DJ Bible? Do I spin plates? I mean, she is pretty hot and used to be nice to me. So what do I do now?"
 

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Dear Kailex,

"Hey guys, we used to have sex everyday, but now she barely even touches me. She used to call me and said she would cook, now she's asking when I'm going to pick up some fast food on the way back from work. What do I do? Do I ask her to be my girlfriend? Do I read the DJ Bible? Do I spin plates? I mean, she is pretty hot and used to be nice to me. So what do I do now?"....Oh so true!
 

Bassic

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Lmao okay okay, I took your advice and just told her I was too tired and I'd hit her up tomorrow. She just responded with "Awe :/ alright Goodnight, Sweet Dreams "
 
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